A Real Need of Help

[grace4sds]

I really need some christian advice. I have a decision to make and I don't think there is a good decision.

2 years ago due to financial struggles after getting my kids raised (single mother) I had to give up my apartment and move in with my mother (or I could have lived in my car) for what I thought would be a short time to get some bills paid off. I was planning on only staying for a short time but I am still here. I am getting my bills paid and I have been going to college taking some classes to help better my job situation. If I could just wait another year I think financially I would be better. A second job right now is impossible due to my work schedule.

My biggest problem is I feel like my mother has given up doing some things due to me staying here. She seems depressed alot. I stay in my room I am paying her rent for alot when I'm home so I don't interfere with her life. I am also gone alot. I just feel like even though I am paying her rent I am still a burden. It is just not a good situation.

I feel like I need to move out so she can do things (whatever they are) she likes to do. The only place to go is my car. Does anyone have any advice for me. I have got to get bills paid off before I can rent a place of my own.

I have prayed about this for a really long time.

Thanks.

 

[HumbleBee]

From what you have described you are not burdening your Mom in any way. Would seem to me living with her is a Divine Appointment! Maybe she was depressed before you got there and Jesus has sent you to her as a daughter of encouragement...to build your relationship with her and to witness to her! Your Mom a Christian yet? The burden you feel could be from God for your Mom because you see her depressed and Christ wants to set her free from that! So until you are more financially stable, bloom where you are planted, share your light and the love of Jesus with your Mom!

 

[grace4sds]

Oh My!!! Humblebee your email has gave me goosebumps!!! With you not knowing anything about my past relationship with my mom and even though she has accepted Christ, she does not have the relationship, and definitely needs encouragement, you have said exactly the right thing. She was depressed before I got here, I guess I'm just closer to it now. It is very difficult to talk with her due to some defensiveness, but at times I have thought about it being a devine appointment and I always use the saying "Bloom where God plants you." In fact, it is in my signature in my personal email (Funny how we don't pay attention sometimes to our own advice.) This is so from God. Thank you so much for answering and I think God has been trying to tell me something all along. May God bless your life abundantly!

 

[LegomasterJC]

I am glad to finally see some responses that are actually the Lord working through someone to deliver a message. Most of my advice that I have posted has actually been for me and I have listened/need to listen more. I hope the Lord works through me in the same great way as this situation has gone for you two. This is the reason why I post here.

 

[HumbleBee]

TY JESUS JESUS JESUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

grace4sds,

Must share this with you...coming home from church had just said...am always praying for Divine Appointments...then after responding to your post, I went offline so about an hour later God makes my heart start racing and really leaping, did i say REALLY LEAPING!?!?! Hasn't done that in awhile...lol...sure made me sing high praises! I did wonder what all the excitement was about! lol Well, now I know! lol Tiz the truth when I say, am certainly rejoicing with you because of Christ's exceeding joy to come upon you and your Mom as she a stray sheep that been found and reclaimed by our Good Shepherd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here are some encouraging Bible verses for you and your Mom...

Nehemiah 8:10 for this day is holy to our Lord. Do not sorrow, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.

Isaiah 58:10-12 ...satisfy the afflicted soul; then shall thy light rise in obscurity, and thy darkness be as the noon day: and the LORD shall guide thee continually, and satisfy thy soul in drought, and make fat thy bones: and thou shalt be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters fail not. And they that shall be of thee shall build the old waste places: thou shalt raise up the foundations of many generations; and thou shalt be called, The repairer of the breach, The restorer of paths to dwell in.

Isaiah 61:1-3 The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me; because the LORD hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; He hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound; to proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD...to comfort all that mourn; to appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that He might be glorified.

Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."

Matthew 18:11-13 For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost. How think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray? And if so be that he find it, verily I say unto you, he rejoiceth more of that sheep, than of the ninety and nine which went not astray.

Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Also urging you, and even your Mom, to read the 2 part message at the links in my signature...may help to spur her right in the waiting loving arms of Jesus!

 

[LegomasterJC]

I read that meaty read in her sig. I also encourage you and your mother and anyone else to read it especially if they feel they are not hearing from God right now.