At this point we bes going way off topic because your soteriology bes flawed and toxic. You speak of things only God can do as things humans bes "supposed to" do themselves. If this truly bes one's kink then they bes unregenerate themselves, seeking to establish their own righteousness and having not received the righteousness of JC. (Use of initials for respect, BTW, not disrespect as some have tried to falsely claim. This one should not write the name of the Holiest; it would be unseemly.)
It will not derail the thread with a full exposition on the difference between the subtle legalisms inherent in toxic soteriology and its skewed views of "justification" vs. "sanctification", "forensic" salvation versus "obedience", etc. but suffice it to say human wordings always givesy away them positions. Any what phrases it as a product of human effort or a requirement of human execution bes thereby demonstrating they have never known the True Walking in the Spirit in which bes not fulfilled the lusts of the flesh. For none having ever walked there even one hour would ever fail again to recognize the difference.
Oh that it might be delivered and walk there again ....
You unfortunately forgot verses 4 and 5 in this passage which finish out the FULL thought being expressed here:
4 But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, 5 made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressionsit is by grace you have been saved.
It would be patently absurd to retrogressively invoke a wrath which Creator has already dealt with by placing the burden of the sins of the entire world, past, present and future, upon JC, and in fact did He so -- according to verse 5 -- even when all ppls STILL BES in the place described by verses 1-3. No wonder you bes so frustrated and labor in vain, friend. You have the form of godliness but not the power thereof. You strain to illuminate the wrath already past and dealt with and fail to grasp the love that makes it so. You resolve your considerations under condemnation and doom and do not move on from there into Good News. Your consistent striving at verbal and literary exclusions of a segment of the population whom you deem unworthy from HEARING the Good News, strikes Moriah similar to them Pharisees whats shutsy the Gate to the Kingdom in ppls faces, not permitting them to enter neither entering themselves. It appears you will not permit yourself to move out of wrath and fear into resting in perfect love, so you will not permit others that either. How sad.