A Question (mostly) for the guys.

[graciesings]

I doubt he's a Christian. I do hope he has a family that's being supportive to him right now...

 

[Saucy]

I'd say be yourself. Make it clear. Talk about a crush on another guy/gal you had. Mention your relationship (if you're still in it). So it's obvious you're not ripe for the taking, but it helps him realize at the same time he will get passed this issues. "Before I started dating so-and-so, I went through this kind of thing and I found someone amazing. It will happen!" Kills two birds with one stone lol

 

[graciesings]

Understood.

Are you the only one around who could be his friend right now? It'd be ideal if it were a guy just so there isn't the confusion and mixed signals that can result with girl-guy friendship, and it would be excellent if there were a group of two or three people (yourself included) that could envelope him in support. He'd have the male camaraderie with the added bonus of a woman or two to balance things.

I have one guy friend who is on good terms with both me, and the guy who is going through the breakup. I might try to somehow bring him in for a group activity.

The guy I'm worried about and I have a number of mutual friends, but many of the mutual friends were also hope friends with his ex and I don't know who sided with him vs. Who sided with her.

 

[Hawthorne]

I have one guy friend who is on good terms with both me, and the guy who is going through the breakup. I might try to somehow bring him in for a group activity.

The guy I'm worried about and I have a number of mutual friends, but many of the mutual friends were also hope friends with his ex and I don't know who sided with him vs. Who sided with her.

That's a start. Find out about the others as discreetly as possible.

Also, like @Saucy said, be honest with him up front so he doesn't get any ideas. It will save an unbelievable amount of awkwardness down the line.

 

[CCHIPSS]

Go cheer him up. And then at the end of that first day of "counselling" tell him flat out that you value him as a good friend. Once you mention the word friend, most guy knows that they had been friendzoned.

 

[paul becke]

I kinda disagree. One of your friends is devastated after a painful moment. We can all assume as much as we want what MIGHT happen or how he'll react, but the opposite could be true as well. There are ways you can provide him some comfort and be kind without getting too involved and giving him the wrong impression.

Such as...? That was really the question, I think.

 

[Messy]

Such as...? That was really the question, I think.

Just give him a hug lol.

 

[MiniEmu]

... in my limited and biased experience if someone is harbouring any sort of romantic intentions towards you, their brain will tell them even the most platonic of gestures can be linked to some burning, hidden desire. No matter how clear you make it that such a ship will never set sail from the shores of Friendonia. Emotionally raw people do not always listen to these lovely, obvious, clear signs in the same way as someone currently not in that state does.

All you can do is read the situation and react accordingly. If he shows signs of being interested in you, you back off tactfully. If he doesn't, then it's all groovy.

 

[Messy]

Hahaha Friendonia

 

[Tom Mix]

Soooo... One of my buddies is going through a rough breakup and is really torn up about all this. I really want to help him and I've been trying to find ways to make him feel better.

So, guys, if one of your bros was going through a rough breakup, what would you do for them?

I would tell him to go out and get drunk for the next month and cry in his beer like real men do.

Then tell him to snap out of it and get back into the real world.

Also let him know that the pain will last for a long time but that someday the hurt will go away.

Also tell him to listen to lots of Waylon Jennings music.

And this........

And Marty Robbins.......

 

[Saucy]

Just give him a hug lol.

Yes, and play a game of Twister. There is absolutely no mixed signals sent when a male and female play Twister alone.

 

[Messy]

And this........

And Marty Robbins.......

Yeah that will cheer him up. It cheers me up, hahahahahahaha

 

[Messy]

Let him watch Louis de Funes all day long. He really cheered me up then.

 

[MehGuy]

Tell him you're attracted to you know whats.

Ain't those you know whats pretty? Lol.

You two can go looking for them together.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Hahaha Friendonia

This. Hahaha

 

[ReesePiece23]

I don't know what's wrong with some of you. There's such a stigma attached to being friends with a girl and I don't understand it. I've always managed to make it work, even if I've been intimate with the person previously.

Sure, it can take time after a long relationship, but if you were just dating, then who cares? Keep her as a friend and meet MORE girls through her. Duh!

Obviously, that's NOT the reason you remain friends with them, but still. It's good to be resourceful and all.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Actually, I'm one of the few people I know who made a girl/guy friendship work, soo...

Just gonna leave that there for brownie points.

 

[Saucy]

Actually, I'm one of the few people I know who made a girl/guy friendship work, soo...

Just gonna leave that there for brownie points.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Lol. Each time you propose to me I lose a brownie point. So stop it.

 

[Saucy]

Hey that was only 4 times!

I think I'm due one actually...