A question for you male-types

[latteda]

Sorry, Ink.

 

[Inkachu]

Thanks Latteda Just trying to think positively about the future. But I was doing some serious crying lastnight. Had to vent a little venom to God about the male gender, too lol.

No fellas, I don't think ALL men are liars and pigs, so don't start.

But now I find myself thinking...how can a girl ever know if a man is being honest with her? Seriously...how can she know?

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

But now I find myself thinking...how can a girl ever know if a man is being honest with her? Seriously...how can she know?

His actions.




And Google.

The internet knows.



FYI I just threw that last one in to be funny but um it is kind of true... with my last ex I was being a nosy little butt and trying to figure out what my Christmas present was going to be or something and instead I found out something horrible about him and that he had been dishonest with me. So yay for Google.

Not that I am advocating googling people or anything....

 

[deliciousBass]

But now I find myself thinking...how can a girl ever know if a man is being honest with her? Seriously...how can she know?

3 months salary

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

3 months salary

...
Unless he is a serial engagement ringer buyer.

 

[Pyrogenesis]

No fellas, I don't think ALL men are liars and pigs, so don't start.

Thanks

But now I find myself thinking...how can a girl ever know if a man is being honest with her? Seriously...how can she know?

I'm afraid she cannot, although with time it will usually make itself clear one way or another. The only advice I can offer is "Guard your heart". No man of character will object should you be cautious with your affections, though you should make it known you are 'cautiously optimistic' about him lest he lose hope If he is sincere then he will not object; it is no coincidence that when describing love Paul first describes it as 'patient and kind' (1Cor 13:4)

 

[Inkachu]

3 months salary

...
Unless he is a serial engagement ringer buyer.

You guys are crazy, lol.

 

[overit]

Thanks



I'm afraid she cannot, although with time it will usually make itself clear one way or another. The only advice I can offer is "Guard your heart". No man of character will object should you be cautious with your affections, though you should make it known you are 'cautiously optimistic' about him lest he lose hope If he is sincere then he will not object; it is no coincidence that when describing love Paul first describes it as 'patient and kind' (1Cor 13:4)

This is very true!!! Also-sometimes that little gut feeling-never strayed me wrong-and prayer...even with all these it's possible to be fooled though-some are very good at talking a good game (I dated one like that-ughhh)...but again the romance started 'online' so that should tell you something.

 

[Inkachu]

His actions.




And Google.

The internet knows.



FYI I just threw that last one in to be funny but um it is kind of true... with my last ex I was being a nosy little butt and trying to figure out what my Christmas present was going to be or something and instead I found out something horrible about him and that he had been dishonest with me. So yay for Google.

Not that I am advocating googling people or anything....

Shoot, I Google people shamelessly.

But...what do you mean by his actions? If a man is pleasant, polite, respectful, fun, communicative, attentive...there's still a 50/50 chance he's being a big, fat liar. Is it all just a matter of constantly taking chances and spending life knowing that any day your SO might turn around and stomp on your heart and leave you feeling completely stupid and horrible?

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

You guys are crazy, lol.

No, serial engagement ring buyers are crazy.

Well OK, I'm crazy too, but not the kind of crazy that involves spending 3 months salary on a ring over and over and over again...

 

[Inkachu]

Thanks



I'm afraid she cannot, although with time it will usually make itself clear one way or another. The only advice I can offer is "Guard your heart". No man of character will object should you be cautious with your affections, though you should make it known you are 'cautiously optimistic' about him lest he lose hope If he is sincere then he will not object; it is no coincidence that when describing love Paul first describes it as 'patient and kind' (1Cor 13:4)

I know you're right. Sadly, most guys don't share your view, and most of them will get very impatient and/or offended if you don't leap into Infatuation at the same rate as they do.

 

[Luther073082]

And Google.

The internet knows.



FYI I just threw that last one in to be funny but um it is kind of true... with my last ex I was being a nosy little butt and trying to figure out what my Christmas present was going to be or something and instead I found out something horrible about him and that he had been dishonest with me. So yay for Google.

Not that I am advocating googling people or anything....

Yes I've been throughly vetted by Melissa's internet stalking.

 

[Intrepid99]

So wisdom from books that tell guys how to get women...
Usually you know, magazines like MensHealth and those male version of Cosmopolitan.
They say that it would drive women crazy if you avoid her. They would want more of you when you avoid them and send mixed signals. I think this guy of yours is treading the same waters.

My advice:
1. Stop emailing him. Don't text him or any of those sorts.
2. Don't DTR. If he really likes you, he will do it. Provided, he calls you.
3. You deserve better. You don't have to be pining for him. Especially if he is playing with you.
4. Don't judge me on how I know these "tricks". I only read them. I don't use them. Yesterday I spend the whole day looking at secular literature on dating. The men's magazines are ridiculously manipulative in their approach.

 

[Luther073082]

Shoot, I Google people shamelessly.

But...what do you mean by his actions? If a man is pleasant, polite, respectful, fun, communicative, attentive...there's still a 50/50 chance he's being a big, fat liar. Is it all just a matter of constantly taking chances and spending life knowing that any day your SO might turn around and stomp on your heart and leave you feeling completely stupid and horrible?

Wow someone's in man-hating mood.

There is the same chance for women doing the same thing.

Risks have to be taken.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Shoot, I Google people shamelessly.

But...what do you mean by his actions? If a man is pleasant, polite, respectful, fun, communicative, attentive...there's still a 50/50 chance he's being a big, fat liar.

That's true.

I guess "time will tell" is another answer for you. Because big fat liars can only be fake for so long. Also with liars there are usually subtle warning signs along the way and you might have a gut feeling something isn't quite right. I had that feeling before and unfortunately I ignored it.

Is it all just a matter of constantly taking chances and spending life knowing that any day your SO might turn around and stomp on your heart and leave you feeling completely stupid and horrible?

Hmmm.

Well that's always a possibility, so I'm going to go with yes.

But there's always rope and Return to the Bountiful.

 

[Pyrogenesis]

I know you're right. Sadly, most guys don't share your view, and most of them will get very impatient and/or offended if you don't leap into Infatuation at the same rate as they do.

Well, you'll note that I mentioned you have to let them know why But it's a quick way to know which guys are looking to get something and which ones are looking to give. The ones that are looking to give will, if not fully understand, then at least be patient and try to understand instead of getting offended.

 

[Luther073082]

Hmmm.

Well that's always a possibility, so I'm going to go with yes.

But there's always rope and Return to the Bountiful.

Yes Ink you could always make your man fear you.

 

[Tink]

Thinks she'll go google people.

 

[Markus6]

Shoot, I Google people shamelessly.

But...what do you mean by his actions? If a man is pleasant, polite, respectful, fun, communicative, attentive...there's still a 50/50 chance he's being a big, fat liar. Is it all just a matter of constantly taking chances and spending life knowing that any day your SO might turn around and stomp on your heart and leave you feeling completely stupid and horrible?

50/50 is a lot too high. The chance is also a lot lower if you know them in person. If you know a guy just by the internet and phone it is a lot easier for him to run away.

 

[Pyrogenesis]

Thinks she'll go google people.

I googled myself and there's nothing about me anywhere. 'Pyrogenesis' comes up with nothing about me, and neither does my full name. I'm off the grid! Yea!