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This is not to my Danny, but for all you patient people
who have been following my struggle of letting go.

I feel a peace within my heart that I haven't felt since my Danny passed away.

I can remember him now with joy instead of with sorrow.

I can smile and really feel it.

I think I'm finally ready to accept the fact that he is gone, and he will never be back.
That's not to say that I won't miss him, because I will. I will always miss him, but I can go on now. I can finally live my life without the pain, sorrow, and guilt of his death.

I will see him again one day.
Until then, I will live my life to the fullest for my God.

Praise his Holy name for he and he alone is King of Kings and Lord of Lords!
 
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It was my 15th year when the guys moved into the two houses across the street.
I spent the summer in GA with my cousin, so I really didn't get to see much of them. By the time I got back they were all a very big part of our family.
I remember Danny. He lived in the house next to the one that was directly across from us. He never said too much. Always quiet, and to himself. He was a really nerdy looking guy. Still had pimples, and his glasses were as thick as soda bottle bottoms. He was thin, and had these big ears. He moved into the house directly across the street shortly after I got back from GA. My sisters and I would always sneak our leftovers to them because they didn't have much money to buy food. I remember that they all loved my moms fried ocra.
I had a crush on one of the other guys that lived across the street. He taught me how to drive, and didn't treat me as the child that everyone else did. Danny had a crush on my older married sister. She was going through a rough divorce at the time, and Danny was her protector. They were best of friends.
My family and the guys gave me a surprise birthday part for my 16th birthday. It was there that I really first noticed Danny. He was so good to my sister. He held her while she cried, and told silly jokes until she laughed.
I'd go over after school sometimes and just sit and talk to them. Sometimes him, sometimes one of the others.

Oct. 3rd, 1981​

It was on this date that my family went out to dinner and dancing. I saw Danny standing across the street and ran over to invite him and the other two guys to go with us. He almost didn't accept, but my parents were footing the bill, so he agreed to go.
Danny had just gotten his orders to go overseas, so he wasn't a very happy camper.
We had a good time. We all laughed and talked. The end of the night was drawing to a close, and I asked Danny to dance. The song was "Babe I love you". When I walked into his arms for that it was like heaven opened up. I can't really describe the feeling. It was if we were made for each other, and that night was when I knew that I would one day be his wife.

We were together constantly for the next four months. Except for school and work of course. The changes in both of us were amazing. We completed each other, and together we grew. Danny left for Guam with the arrangments that he would be back in a few months. We agreed that five days after my 18th birthday I would fly to Guam to be with him until he got out. I was just a child, and never been that far away from home before. I didn't know for sure if I was ready for that big of a step, so I broke things off. Danny hated me. He was so mad. He would send me letters telling me how I ruined his life, and how much he hated me. In my heart I knew he didn't hate me, and in my heart I knew I was doing the right thing. I had a lot of growing up to do before I could be his wife. It was a year later when he came back. I never stopped loving him, but I also knew that I had hurt him very badly, and I didn't deserve a second chance. But he gave it to me. For that I was ever so greatful. The more time we spent together the closer we became until he finally asked me to marry him. I didn't have a ring. Just a promise. We moved to New York because he was home sick. We moved in with his mom and dad unti we married. Shortly after I became pregnant. How wonderful it was to be pregnant with his child! I gained 65 pounds (mainly because of him) and he loved every second of it. Constantly he took pictures of my swelling belly. At night he would fall asleep with his hand on my stomach. He would drive for half an hour in a blizzard to get me the pizza I was craving. When I wanted a pecan pie, he made me one.

Seven months into my pregnancy I recieved a phone call early in the morning saying that my brother had been killed in a motorcycle accident. I was devastated. When our daughter was six months old Danny moved me back home so I could be with my family. He didn't have a job or anything. He knew how much I needed them, and he loved me so much that he just one day decided to go back. He got a job within the first two weeks, and within a month we moved into our house. Life couldn't have been any better. I had the man of my dreams. A beautiful baby girl, and we were already making plans for more.

One day Danny became ill. We didn't know what was wrong with him. First the doctors said it was his gall bladder, than they said it was his kidneys, but no medicine made him better. One morning he awoke and a mole on his neck was bleeding. I immediately made him a doctors appointment and he had it biopsied. Two days later I came home from work and there was a message on the answering machine from his doctor telling him he needed to talk to him ASAP. I knew it wasn't good, and I also knew that I couldn't be the one to make the call, so I went over my moms house. An hour later Danny showed up. I could tell by the look on his face that something was wrong. When I met him at the door he told me it was cancer. "Don't tell your mom" he said. How could I just sit there without saying anything about it? Tears streamed down my face for the next half hour, but I refused to say a word. Finally he told her, and we went home to talk about it. The next two months were like a roller coaster ride. It was bad. We didn't get it soon enough, and it had already spread throughout his internal organs. When we asked the doctors how much longer he had the news was devastating. "It could be three months, or a couple years. We could be nice and give you five or at the most ten years. It all depends on the outcome of the surgery." He wasn't even 27 yet. I was only 22. I went to everyone of his doctors appointments with him. I sat and held his hand while they took at 16 more moles from his body. The day of his surgery finally came. I sat in the waiting room for five hours waiting for them to get done. They took a huge three inch by three inch section of his neck out. They grafted skin from his shoulder to fill in the gap in his neck, and they grafted skin from his leg to cover the shoulder. But he told me they got it all. His word was all I needed. I never talked to the doctos about it.
We stayed with my parents while he recovered. Our house didn't have air, and it was too uncomfortable for him in the heat of summer. He turned 27 that week.

It was one week after his surgery, and he wasn't feeling very well, so he decided to go to bed early. Not a day in our marriage did we let one another go to bed without coming in to say I love you. So after I thought he was all settled in I went to our room to kiss him goodnight and tell him how much I loved him. I got to the door and saw him on his hands and knees. I almost ran to him thinking something was wrong, but before I did I heard him praying to God. It was that night I found out that they hadn't gotten all the cancer. Danny was asking God to please allow him to die. Not so he could end his own suffering, but so I wouldn't have to suffer through watching him slowly get sicker and sicker.
Since he was so new to his job they couldn't give him anymore time off. They knew he still needed time to get better, so they sent him to school in another county. Danny couldn't drive yet. He could barely lift his head, so I was with him the first two weeks. The third week into his schooling was my dads birthday, so I asked if I could stay home that week. He was better and thought that he could handle driving to and from school on his own, so I made plans to go back home for a few days. Before I left Danny asked me how he could go to Heaven when he died. I hadn't been to church since we met, and I wasn't comfortable answering that question, so instead I told him we would go to church the following weekend.
That week Danny called everyday begging me to please come back. My dads birthday was on a Wednesday, so Thursday afternoon I packed up the car and headed back out to be with Danny. That weekend we would come home, and I was going to take him to church. He was going to be saved. And I was happy.
He was very strange that night. Very emotional, and very needy. The baby cried almost all night. In between soothing her, I would have to sooth him. He just wanted me in his arms. He awoke around two in the morning and noticed that I wasn't with him. I wa trying to get the baby settled. He freaked out. We put the baby down, and I went back to him. We made love that night. A child was concieved. The next morning he woke himself and drove his own self to school. I packed the car and started getting ready for our trip back home. I was really excited. I couldn't wait to take him to church. It would be a little ackward going back to the church that kicked me out so long ago, but for Danny I was welling. I would do anything for Danny. When he came home for lunch he insisted that we call our parents. I didn't know why he was so persistant, but he was. We couldn't get either set on the line, and he was very upset about it. Almost to the point of tears.​
 
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When it was time for him to go back to school, I decided to drive him.
On the way he was acting very strange.
I remember we were early so I told him I was going to slow down so we could spend a couple more minutes together. It was than that he started telling me that he was going away. "I have to go away Ciners." He said. "I have no choice. I want you to know that I love you and Katrina with all my heart and all my soul. I may be gone, but I will always, always be with you."
I didn't understand, so I turned to tell him to stop talking that way, but the look in his eyes was more than I could stand. They were so sad, and filled with so much love. I remember reaching out and touching his face. "I love you Danny. I love you so very much".
My head was only turned for a second. When I turned back I saw the car. It had already run the median, and was headed straight for us. It seemed like it was going 100 miles an hour. I screamed for Danny to put his seatbelt on, but never got it all out. The car hit us and all I could get out was "Oh my God Danny please"!

I remember waking up and hearing my baby cry in the back seat. I was slumped over the steering wheel, and the first thing that I saw was my knee. (Or what was left of it) The flesh was gone right down to the bone. My chest was injured, and I couldn't feel my left arm. I called out for help, and than turned my head to see if Danny was okay. I gasped in horror when I saw his side of the car. It was filled with so much blood. The window had three places in it where his head had hit. There was blood, skin, and hair mixed all in. I allowed my eyes to travel down, and there lay my Danny. All covered in blood. His body all twisted and slumped into the dash board.I remember screaming, and I was out again.

The next time I woke up my baby was gone. There was a man standing at my window asking me if I was okay. He let me know that they baby was taken out of the car andhe pointed to the people who were holding her. She was still crying, but she was okay. He kept my eyes focused on him, and would not let me look at Danny. He was gentle and kind, and kept talking to me about God. It was than that I heard a deep deep sigh from the other side of the car. My heart was filled with joy because I thought Danny was breathing. He was going to be all right! I turned my head just in time to watch as his last breath excaped him, and his body went limp. The man at my window told me it was okay. God was taking care of Danny. Then the ambulance came. Four men rushed to Dannys side. They lifted his head, and I saw his face. There was no skin, and he was missing an eye. I watched in horror as they started pounding him, and I tried my best to get them to stop. They screamed for someone else to get me out of the car, and this idiot opened my door and told me to get out. Before I could tell him about my knee I heard the other perimedics declare my Danny dead. I went at them with everything I had. How dare them say that! It was than that the man appeared at my window again. His presence calmed me, and he gently helped me out of the car and onto a stretcher. I never told my Danny about Jesus. He asked me, and I never told him. Now he's gone, and I don't know for sure if he knew or not.

At the hospital they told me that the baby was okay. The car seat had torn her between the legs, but that was all. They told me that as long as I could hear her cry that I should be comforted in knowing that she was okay. And then they gave me something to sleep. It was the most fitful sleep I had ever had. In my dreams I just kept recalling that awful moment. I awoke to the pain of a vacuum cleaner stuck in my knee getting all the glass and debris out. Boy was that painful! There was a police officer sitting beside me. He was not very nice. He told me that I had killed the passanger in the other car, and they were going to take some blood work to check for drugs or alcohol. I stuck out my arm and told him to go ahead. "Take it as far back as you can" I said. You won't find anything in my system. He continued being mean. Telling me that I was going to jail for killing that other person. He wouldn't listen to me when I told him no one was in the other car accept the driver. He wouldn't listen when I told him he had the wrong room. Finally a doctor walked in. She took my hands, and with very much sadness she told me that Danny was gone. I couldn't even cry before that cop told me I had killed Danny. "I hope you're happy Mrs...... You not only killed the passanger in the other car, but now you've killed your own husband". Those words have replayed in my head everyday of my life for the past 19 years. I killed my Danny. It wasn't my car that ran the median, but it was me he came back to Floriday for. It was me who took him to the beach. It was me driving the car, and it was me who didn't tell him about Jesus.

It took a long time for my heart to heal enough to remarry. It's taken longer for me to forgive myself for killing the love of my life. And it's taken until just last week for my heart to stop breaking. It does still hurt. Especially after writting this. But I know my Danny is in Heaven. I know he wants me to be happy, and from this day forth I plan on doing just that. I will be with him one day, but until than I need to start making memories with the family that I now have. I'd really like for my now husband to experience the kind of love that me and Danny had. I need to live for today, because God only knows what will come with tomorrow.

God Bless you all, and thank you once again.
 
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Being pregnant with Katrina was just the most wonderful thing. I loved feeling a part of Danny kicking inside of me. Danny loved every pound that I gained! All 65 pounds of it. I remember him constantly asking me to lift up my shirt so he could take a picture. At night he would fall asleep with his hand on my stomach. He would talk to her as if she could actually hear him, and he sang all kinds of silly songs at my tummy.

When I had cravings he would go out of his way to make sure I got what I wanted. Once I wanted a certain kind of pizza, so he drove half an hour in a blizzard to get it for me. Another time I wanted a pecan pie, but we couldn't find any in the stores, so one day while I was at work Danny made me one. Yum was it ever good.

Our daughter just adored him. He was such a wonderful daddy. At night he would always get up with me when she cried. It didn't matter that he worked all day, and I stayed home. He still got up. If I couldn't get her back to sleep he would gently take her and put her over his shoulder. He would start singing "You are my sunshine" while dancing slowly around the room. She would be asleep within a couple minutes. Gently he would put her back to bed, then turn and take my hand and lead me back to bed also.

Every day right before my Danny got home, Katrina would start saying "DA Da home. Da Da home". She wouldn run and climb up on the back of the coach so she could see out the front window. Sure enough, within minutes his car would pull on in the yard. She would jump down off the couch and run to the door. As soon as he opened it she would fling herself into his arms. It was always such a wonder sight. Of course I'd always be right behind her waiting until it was my turn to fling myself into his arms.

For months after the accident she would ask me where her daddy was. One day when I told her he was in Heaven, she told me she would go get him and bring him back. She was so serious. She walked away, turned back to me with her hands on her hips and asked "Mommy, how do you get to Heaven?" She was so precious.

She was only 18 months when he passed away. she doesn't really even remember him now. It's sad because he was the most wonderful daddy in this world.
 
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I lost it again today Danny.
I've been trying so hard, and I thought I was finally doing okay....
But then today things went downhill.

I was at the store buying my dad a fathers day card. It was so hard. They all seem to be for good fathers like you. Not for a father that never had a good word so say. Not for a father who was mean and cruel. Anyhow, they all made me think of you.
That was okay though. Of course I would think of you. It's how I handle it that matters. Well, I didn't handle it very well when I got to the check out line. The lady ringing up my purchase made the comment of how much she wished she could be buying a gift for her dad, but she hadn't been able to in a long time now. It made me think of Katrina and how she has had to grow up without you. I bit my cheek to keep my lips from quivering, but that didn't stop my eyes from welling up with tears. I fanned my face, but that only brought me more attention. Finally I looked at her and told her that I was sorry. With a voice that was breaking I told her that my daughter doesn't have a daddy either. I kept my posture until I got to the car. That's when I finally let the tears fall freely. I think I cried for a good ten minutes.

why is it always so hard Danny? Why can't I just get on with life? I feel like such a failure. To you, to God, to my children, and especially to my now husband.

I'm sorry Danny. I'm trying to let you go.
 
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I really need someone to talk to Danny. I'm sorry. I've been trying really hard to let you go, but I just need you right now.

My heart is hurting so bad, and I don't know what to do. Where did I go wrong Danny? I've tried being the best mom I can. I've loved both girls. I've loved them both evenly. I've talked to them about right and wrong. We pray together. We play together. Katrina loves me more than anything, but I'm afraid I've failed Amanda.

If I could have just gotten support six months ago when that boy threatened her, we might not be in this situation today. I wanted to send her away then Danny. For her own safety I wanted to send her away. I've watched as my sweet little girl has gone totally downhill. She lies to me constantly. I don't even know what the truth is anymore because she has gotten so good at it. She almost failed school because she cut so much. With that boy of course. She's having sex Danny! She's given the most special part of herself away to the scum bag! I just can't stand it. I found her bedroom screen under her bed last night, so I know she's been sneaking out at night after I go to bed. I've talked until I'm blue in the face, but she will not leave this boy. I understand that she has to make her own choices. She has to live her own life, and make her own mistakes. This is the only way she is going to learn. But I can't sit around and allow her to be with this boy. She doesn't even eat anymore Danny. Pretty much all she does is cry. I've sent her away for the summer, but I don't think I can allow her to come back home. Not until I know for sure that she won't sneak out to be with him. It's not the fact that I don't like him. I didn't like Michael when Katrina first started dating him, but I eventually turned around. It's the fact that he is bad. He's in a gang Danny! In a gang! He has broken Amanda's heart so many times that I've lost count, but she keeps going back. God only knows what kind of diseases he might have given her. And if he's cheated before, he'll cheat again. If he's hit her once, he'll hit her again. One day he might even get that gun and shoot her like he's threatened to do in the past. He failed school this year. He can't drive because he's been pulled over so many times for DUI. He parties like there's no tomorrow. He's possessive, disrespectful, and down right dangerous. Now how can I allow her to come back to someone like that? HE'S GOING TO END UP HURTING HER!

This is killing me. I love her so much. Do you know that I lost both my daughters within a weeks time? Katrina calls daily, but Amanda refuses to talk to me. I've asked God to help bring my little girl back, but you're closer to him now. Do you think you can intervene a little? Let him know how important she is to me, and how much I love her so. Ask him to please give me wisdom in knowing what to do. I know he has it all planned out, but I have to follow through with what he wants, right? Right now I have no idea what he is trying to tell me to do with her. My heart is breaking too much. I can't hear him.

The saddest thing is Danny is that her own Daddy hasn't even talked to her about it. He gets mad when I bring it up. He gets mad when I cry, so I can't show any emotion at all. She needs her daddy. She needs to know that he cares enough to find out what is going on. She needs for HIM to set down the rules, and not me.

I feel lost Danny. So totally lost, and I don't know which way to turn. I need you right now. I need to feel your touch and know that you haven't gone on and left me. I need to feel the peace that only your love can fill? Please? I don't have anyone else. Only you.
 
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I don't know how to get through this one Danny.
I feel like I've lost everything in this world, and I can't snap out of this funk that it's put me in.
I'm starting to scare myself, not to mention the people around me.
I sit in my office all day with the door closed, and I cry. I don't eat. I don't drink. I just sit here and either cry or stare off into space.
I go home, and I stare at the walls. I don't talk. I don't smile. I don't laugh. I almost feel as though I'm not even in my body anymore.

He cheated again Danny. *******! Why do I continue to put up with it? Why? Because part of me doesn't even care anymore. That's why. I killed you and I deserve this miserable life. But it still hurts. It all hurts. Everything. I just want out. I'm not needed here anymore. God let me live through that accident so I could raise my girls. I don't have them now. Their both gone, so why do I have to stay here? I don't want to be here anymore Danny! I WANT TO BE WITH YOU. I JUST WANT TO BE WITH YOU! PLEASE?
 
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I want my Danny!

Please God? I've been good. I've been faithful.
Will you please let me be with him soon?
It's been almost 19 years!
Haven't I suffered enough already?

You are number 1. Of course you are number 1. I'd want to be in Heaven even if Danny wasn't there, but he is, and it's an added bonus. So please God? Please?
I don't know what I'm learning through all this.
It doesn't make since.
I've lost everything that ever meant anything to me.
Why do I have to stay here?
Why can't I just be in Heaven with you and Danny where I belong?

IAM TIRED OF THE PAIN!
IAM TIRED OF THE HURT!
 
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Hello c1ners. If Danny is able to see what we write and how we feel then I ask Danny that you will come to your love tonight and be by her side. She misses you so very much and it hurts to see her this way. There was a reason why she stayed behind and you left. God knows your reason and He also knows c1ners reasons. You had to go because god needed you for what you are good at and that is to love.
I just want to thank you for the wonderful and heartfelt story that c1ners told us about you and her life together. It has really touched me and I know now what she is feeling. You are a wonderful man and I know one day c1ners will be in her rightful place, with you and God, forever together, eternally.
Father in heaven I thank You that You have Danny with You doing what He has to. Lord I ask that you will bring love and comfort to c1ners and her family. Allow her to feel you physically so that she will feel a real touch and not to just imagine it. I really love my sister in Christ and all because of Danny.
Thankyou once again Danny and our Father in heaven. Thankyou c1ners for your life that has touched my heart.

All my love to you, Love Jacqui. x
 
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Daniel

Danny is travelling tonight on a plane
I can see the red tail lights heading for Heaven

and I can see Danny waving goodbye
God it looks like Danny, must be the clouds in my eyes

They say Heaven is pretty though I've never been
Well Danny says it's the best place that he's ever seenand he should know, he's been there long enough
Lord I miss Danny, Yes, I miss him so much

Daniel my husband you are older than me
Do you still feel the pain of the scars that won't heal
Your life has died Danny you see more than I
Daniel you're a star in the face of the sky

Daniel is travelling tonight on a plane
I can see the red tail lights heading for Heaven
Oh Danny! I can see Danny waving goodbye
God it looks like Danny, must be the clouds in my eyes
Oh God it looks like Danny, must be the clouds in my eyes
God I miss Danny. Yes I miss him sooooo much.
 
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One More Day

Last night I had a crazy dream
A wish was granted just for me
It could be for anything
I didn't ask for money
Or a mansion in Malibu
I simply wished, for one more day with you

One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

First thing I'd do, is pray for time to crawl
Then I'd unplug the telephone
And keep the TV off
I'd hold you every second
Say a million I love you's
That's what I'd do, with one more day with you

Leave me wishing still, for one more day
Leave me wishing still, for one more day
 
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I had a dream of you last night Danny.
It was such a wonderful dream.
We laughed, we talked, we cried.
We were in the most beautiful place that I had ever seen.
You took enjoyment in showing me everything there was to see.
We made love in my dream, but it wasn't the kind of love making we do here on earth.
It was much more wonderful.
It was two souls joining together as one. Heart, mind and soul.
I wasn't so sad when I woke up.
I'm still not sad. It's a wierd feeling. At peace maybe?

Your birthday is next Tuesday.
Then comes that awful day. August 14th.
Then the day you were buried.
My birthday comes next.
Then our anniversarry.
It'll be a very emotional couple months, but I'll get through it.
I know you are here.
I know you are with me.
I can get through anything as long as I know you won't ever leave me.

I may not be able to see you.
I may not be able to hear you,
but I know you're here.
You promised.
You promised you'd never leave me.
You promised I'd never be alone.
 
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