A must-have in your potential bf/gf

[Im_A]

1. She has to be attractive to me. I won't be romantic with someone I personally find ugly.
2. Blunt honesty
3. A goodness about her that stands out like a soar thumb.
4. She has to be able to drink alcohol. This does not mean she has to be a partier, or clubber, or a drunk. I just don't want anyone on the wagon or someone that chooses to be 'straightedge' with this area.

 

[Im_A]

One more thing.

She has to be willing to go to sport bars with me. I like showing off my lady, and I also want someone sit at a nice pub when golf is on, poker is on, college football is on, or its going to be great now that I am in PA...I want someone when the Reds play the Pirates...GO REDS!

 

[Amerikan_Samurai]

She has to smell good, that is not something to compromise.

 

[smacarena]

She has to smell good, that is not something to compromise.

Yea, I like that one!

 

[Im_A]

She has to smell good, that is not something to compromise.

Me too, but there is nothing wrong with morning breath.

 

[Penumbra]

eww

 

[Im_A]

eww

LOL

 

[white dove]

About the smell thing.. I've noticed guys talking about this before and I get that. Sometimes, a guy might not exactly be the John-John type, but if he smells really good and you walk past them, it's like... "Do do do..." and you switch directions immediately.


But.. are there women you find out there that, I dunno, smell bad? I'm just curious.

 

[Penumbra]

A while back I had a class and the girl who sat next to me everyday didn't smell so fresh. She was on the track team so maybe she runs a lot and doesn't shower before class or something. Other people around noticed it as well.

Generally women are on top of things like that. When I lived in the dorms last year there was a huge difference when you walk from a girl's floor to a guy's floor in terms of smell and cleanliness.

 

[white dove]

Ew. That's kinda gross, but kind of sad, too. Was this high school?

 

[Penumbra]

Ew. That's kinda gross, but kind of sad, too. Was this high school?

No, not that far back. It was college.

It's kind of sad, though she was really friendly and the people around genuinely liked her. It's rather difficult to tell someone (especially someone you don't even know that well) that they have hygiene issues, so everyone just was friendly with her and put up with it.

 

[white dove]

It is, isn't it? It's just very personal. At one time, I worked with someone who had a very big oral hygiene issue. It was really difficult to get past, so instead of confronting her (like I am a firm believer in doing ), I just had methods for dealing with it. The closest I came was asking her if she wanted some gum. Unfortunately, she never chewed gum!

 

[IDDQD]

1) I'm generally too busy with college work and my hobbies to notice things in the opposite sex.

2) Yeah, not sharing. The last time I did that, there was a backlash. Not having a repeat of that, kthx.

 

[lostaquarium]

1. The first thing I notice is demeanor. Not so much what he physically looks like, but how he holds himself, how he walks and talks, the words he uses, his facial expressions.

2. If I had to choose one essential thing (other than being a true Christian), it would be intelligence.

 

[Stravinsk]

This is kind of a spin-off to the "Who are you attracted to" thread. It got me thinking and I was wondering two questions:

1) What is the first thing you notice about the opposite sex?

2) Is there a must-have your potential bf/gf has to have and if so, what is it? (Edit: You can't say Christian b/c this is CF...I'm kind of new here but I'm assuming most posters are Christians and will require their bf/gf to be a Christian so anything else?)

1) Aside from looks/figure - their eyes and what appears to be their "normal" face. By that I mean expression, not feature. It's not gender specific, really. I can think of a handful of people whom I see on a fairly regular basis who without saying anything I can tell they are angry most of the time, or bitter, or empty, or depressed. Others seem happy and content. I've met some men that frankly un-nerve me without saying anything - cold eyes, active hate. In women I look for kindness and sincerity in their expression and tenderness in their voice.

2) Sincere and genuine good will that isn't motivated by ego or self. I hate to say this - but anyone who is like my mother is unsuitable. My partner (now a widower) was just about the complete opposite. Without listing the details - I know in a relatively short period of time whether it has the potential of working out. The right woman brings out the good in me both by her example and genuine love. Peace, not war, is the typical state of the relationship.

 

[Sonfest Rocker]

She has to smell good, that is not something to compromise.

id agree with that but what im saying that he has to smell good

 

[Blank123]

first thing i notice is eyes and/or smile.


sorry i know this is against the rules (and you may actually be surprised at how many Christians don't have this as a qualification in a potential SO) but he's gotta be Christian. Hes also gotta be a logical thinker, i know faith has a role for emotion to play but i want my man to lead us with his head and not deceptive feelings.

Also if he's a musician, bonus points.

i also need to add that if he is a Christian, his life needs to reflect Christ.

 

[hannabanana]

One of the main things I would look forward to in a perspective boyfriend is that he was treat me with respect and also let me realize that I have dreams that should be fulfilled in life.

 

[metherion]

1) First thing I notice is actually the shape of the face. The outline, the cheekbones. Not necessarily anything on the face (that comes about 3 milliseconds later) but the shape of it. And man... I dunno, but most natural redheads just have this... I dunno... soft face shape that's really appealing. I'm not a red-heads or bust kinda guy, just sayin' .

2). She has to be able to TAKE A FREAKING COMPLIMENT.

My only ex couldn't for the life of her and it was one of the major factors in our break up.

ME: "You're so pretty".
HER: "Go get your eyes checked."/"You have bad taste"/"You're wrong but thanks anyways" JUST WILL NOT WORK.

Every once in a while when she's feeling down, okay, but day in and day out, almost every nice thing i try to say, or at least more often than not, just will not work. If she insists on putting herself down AND me down at the same time whenever I'm being nice and sweet... no. Not gonna work, sorry.

Metherion

 

[Im_A]

1) First thing I notice is actually the shape of the face. The outline, the cheekbones. Not necessarily anything on the face (that comes about 3 milliseconds later) but the shape of it. And man... I dunno, but most natural redheads just have this... I dunno... soft face shape that's really appealing. I'm not a red-heads or bust kinda guy, just sayin' .

2). She has to be able to TAKE A FREAKING COMPLIMENT.

My only ex couldn't for the life of her and it was one of the major factors in our break up.

ME: "You're so pretty".
HER: "Go get your eyes checked."/"You have bad taste"/"You're wrong but thanks anyways" JUST WILL NOT WORK.

Every once in a while when she's feeling down, okay, but day in and day out, almost every nice thing i try to say, or at least more often than not, just will not work. If she insists on putting herself down AND me down at the same time whenever I'm being nice and sweet... no. Not gonna work, sorry.

Metherion

Number 2 I agree especially. A females' insecurity is both annoying and frustrating with no logical closure.