A HIGHLY sensitive person with struggles club

[SimplyUnique]

See I am SOOOOO sensitive to the whole convenience thing...because that is the way that my parents treat me. WHEN SOMETHING BETTER comes along they kinda forget me!...It makes me feel like crying....I can only go over there when it is a holiday and when I ask to see them on a regular time (like my fathers birthday) it is like my dad comes up with these STUPID excuses and all!!! I know that he lies he tells me about alot of excuses that he uses. I HATE LYING! Anyway when I was younger I was the one that everyone would call or hang out with when they were BOARD. It is SOOOOO gosh darn sad how that is!!!!.
This is why I am SOOOO attached to newlight and my guardian angel. BUT MOSTLY Jesus. Think about it...here is someone who is VERY busy the most busy than all of us and he STILL makes time for me!!!! I love Him so!!!! He will never just "put me off" just to do something "better"!
This is why I trust Jesus 100% and REALLY can NOT wait to be with him!!!!!!

aww thats sad...i feel like that sometimes to. i have a few real friends but i feel like some of them only want to be with me when they are bored or don't have anyone else to hang with

 

[TheSensitive1]

aww thats sad...i feel like that sometimes to. i have a few real friends but i feel like some of them only want to be with me when they are bored or don't have anyone else to hang with

THAT IS SOOOO WRONG!!!...I do remember when I was your age and the EXACT same thing would happen to me. It was then that I would just get on my bike get my walkman...these days discman and ride on the bike trails listing to my music...I would day dream and such...it was NICE just to shut the world out like that and to be in my own world!!!
God bless you dear one!!!!!!!

 

[SimplyUnique]

yeah i shut out the world alot...like my name says, i'm a distant dreamer

 

[TheSensitive1]

yeah i shut out the world alot...like my name says, i'm a distant dreamer

Me too...Just spend your time with Jesus and read his word and you will be A okay my dear freind and remember I am ALWAYS here for you dear one if you should need to PM me!!!!!
God bless you!!!!!

 

[SimplyUnique]

aww thanks!

 

[TheSensitive1]

aww thanks!

Never forget dear friend I know how it is to be sensitive!!!! But God made us all that way!!!!
If there was an award for the MOST sensitive in the world I WOULD GET IT....what a mixed blessing that is!!!!!
Anyway God bless you and PLEASE stop by OR PM me if you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[WalksWithChrist]

yeah i shut out the world alot...like my name says, i'm a distant dreamer

I'm a "shutter outer" too...
Sometimes it's easier to ignore people who don't understand you. But sometimes, like last night, I will try still.

 

[TheSensitive1]

TheSensitive1
Don't feel sad and don't worry about things like that.
Please don't cry.

As you know,I am sensitive but I am not highly sensitive. I realize that times can be rough especially in this fallen world. I can't wait till i get to heaven either so I can be with Jesus and my ga.
I have had my share believe me.
Hang in there! I feel blue but Jesus will always have his loving arms around
you.

Jesus,
Please help TheSensitive1 and put your loving arms around her.
Take away her pain and suffering. Take away her tears.

In Christ Name I pray
NewLight04

Hi dear one...THANK YOU!!! I feel that you are one of the only persons who can understand my sensitivitiy...I DO think that some others can too and what you have written has touched me so & you know my sensitivity well even though you do not have HSP!!....I get hurt very easily. I think that this is why I am so close to my gift from Jesus....Check out Journal entry #103 it will explain that precious gift:
http://www.christianforums.com/t1570493-dear-jesus.html
BUT most of all Jesus is ALWAYS there!!!!.
God bless you dear one...hang in there and you are the BEST, thanks again!!!!!!!!

 

[SimplyUnique]

yep...i just turn on my head phones and listen to music. or i'll lose myself in a book or day dream...

 

[TheSensitive1]

yep...i just turn on my head phones and listen to music. or i'll lose myself in a book or day dream...

OH MAN you are so much like me!!! I just LOVE to listen to my head phones and all....just in my own little world!!!
OF COARSE I can NOT forget about my little stuffed animals! God bless you!

 

[SimplyUnique]

welcome!!

 

[TheSensitive1]

Hello and God bless everyone!

I am a highly sensitive person and would love to join this club. I have 4 older brothers, so was constantly teased by them when growing up-causing me to be even more sensitive! I also have recently developed panic/anxiety disorder. Does anyone else experience severe anxiety? I look forward to getting to know all of you.

Kristen

Weclome to the club my friend and you are SO much like me...I do suffer from anxiety! See I have been anxious for most of my life so bad that I had to go on medication to help it. These last several days have not been good for me....I am in the process of moving...nothing stays in me my sleep pattern is all OUT OF WACK and I can NOT stop thinking about the move...... I am also Highly sensitive as well!!!!
Anyway I am SOOO glad that you have desided to join us here! Please feel free to come and talk with us all at anytime and Know that you are in my prayers dear one!
God bless you!!!!!

 

[Missing]

Hey ya'll. My sensitivities are working overtime right now. Since my mom died at the end of April, my husband and I are re-examining a lot of things in our lives. We are involved in a lot of different activities and have a lot of commitments. We recognize that we have a tendancy to overcommit and are trying to find what things God wants us to do and let loose of those things that we don't feel we are to be a part of anymore. Some of these things are very painful to let go because we have had many years of personal investment in them, but if they are not producing fruit we are questioning if that is where God wants us to be. And I believe that God is trying to get our lives back into proper balance.

So, I made a post on our blog in general terms about what we are going through and the decisions we are trying to make based on God's leading. The first thing I get is one of my husband's long time friends and his signifcant other (who are subscribed to our blog) writing me personally with all this advice basically telling me maybe God's telling me not to do anything at all and take a spiritual sabbatical from all of my activities. Now I know these people probably felt they were being helpful, but to me it came off as very condescending and judging of my heart and my relationship with God. Like they knew better what God wanted for me than I did. On top of that, these people are living a lifestyle that I don't agree with and feel is contrary to the bible, and, therefore, feel they are the absolute last people who have a right to give me spiritual advice, let alone come off as sounding spiritually superior.

These decisions we are making are already extremely painful because we have spent so much personal investment in these activities. It's very hard to admit that an organization you once believed in so strongly, is no longer functioning well and bringing about the purpose that it is there for. It's painful enough to feel like your feelings, concerns and abilities are constantly being dismissed in this organization and come to the realization that maybe this is not where God wants you to be. But then to have someone tell you that they know what God wants for you more than you do and that what God wants is to have you just stop doing the very thing that you feel is the calling God placed on your life....well it's just too much.

I know I am probably talking in riddles here......but I needed to get this off my chest. I'm very hurt and I haven't even replied to these people yet, and frankly I don't know if I am going to. I just feel like I'm continuously being kicked when I am down instead of understood and lifted up.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

Hey ya'll. My sensitivities are working overtime right now. Since my mom died at the end of April, my husband and I are re-examining a lot of things in our lives. We are involved in a lot of different activities and have a lot of commitments. We recognize that we have a tendancy to overcommit and are trying to find what things God wants us to do and let loose of those things that we don't feel we are to be a part of anymore. Some of these things are very painful to let go because we have had many years of personal investment in them, but if they are not producing fruit we are questioning if that is where God wants us to be. And I believe that God is trying to get our lives back into proper balance.

So, I made a post on our blog in general terms about what we are going through and the decisions we are trying to make based on God's leading. The first thing I get is one of my husband's long time friends and his signifcant other (who are subscribed to our blog) writing me personally with all this advice basically telling me maybe God's telling me not to do anything at all and take a spiritual sabbatical from all of my activities. Now I know these people probably felt they were being helpful, but to me it came off as very condescending and judging of my heart and my relationship with God. Like they knew better what God wanted for me than I did. On top of that, these people are living a lifestyle that I don't agree with and feel is contrary to the bible, and, therefore, feel they are the absolute last people who have a right to give me spiritual advice, let alone come off as sounding spiritually superior.

These decisions we are making are already extremely painful because we have spent so much personal investment in these activities. It's very hard to admit that an organization you once believed in so strongly, is no longer functioning well and bringing about the purpose that it is there for. It's painful enough to feel like your feelings, concerns and abilities are constantly being dismissed in this organization and come to the realization that maybe this is not where God wants you to be. But then to have someone tell you that they know what God wants for you more than you do and that what God wants is to have you just stop doing the very thing that you feel is the calling God placed on your life....well it's just too much.

I know I am probably talking in riddles here......but I needed to get this off my chest. I'm very hurt and I haven't even replied to these people yet, and frankly I don't know if I am going to. I just feel like I'm continuously being kicked when I am down instead of understood and lifted up.

It's sad when some folks feel they need to control you when things are falling apart. Just take what good advice you get and try to make the best decisions for this trying time of your life. Those you are comitted to should understand that taking care of a thing like this is very important to your spiritual well-being. You're no good to anyone if you don't have yourself together!

 

[Missing]

Thank you WWC. I think this situation my husband and I are dealing with is very painful in and of itself without other people who have no clue about it trying to stick their nose in it. And being a sensitive person as it is, I tend to take things that people say to me to heart especially people who are supposed to be friends. For that matter, I even have problems with that here so I try to watch what I say and how much I open up.

My husband loves the fact that I am honest and open with people and really show my heart to others. He is worried that at some point I am going to get so hurt that I put up walls and it changes my personality. He was much more open and trusting before he met me, but someone hurt him deeply who was supposed to be a christian and he has erected a lot of walls to protect himself from being hurt (with other people not with me, we're very close), he's afraid that at some point the same thing will happen with me. I don't want to be a stand-offish person and examine everything I say a million times before I say it, but lately I can see the benefits of keeping myself isolated from people hurting me in this way.

 

[TheSensitive1]

I do not know about you but I am SOOOO sick of being outcasted. People find me not intersting than they do not want to talk to me...that is okay cuase I know that Jesus will find me interesting. If any one of you are feeling blue cause of that PLEASE let me know I know how that hurts SOOOO much!!!! ESPECAILLY when you are as sensitive as I am!
God bless you and I will pray for you all and if you want PM me...we can chat about it...I feel like crying cause of it ....
SOMETIMES MY SENSITIVITY IS LAME and I wish that i could be with Jesus!!!!!
God bless you all!!!

 

[WalksWithChrist]

Thank you WWC. I think this situation my husband and I are dealing with is very painful in and of itself without other people who have no clue about it trying to stick their nose in it. And being a sensitive person as it is, I tend to take things that people say to me to heart especially people who are supposed to be friends. For that matter, I even have problems with that here so I try to watch what I say and how much I open up.

My husband loves the fact that I am honest and open with people and really show my heart to others. He is worried that at some point I am going to get so hurt that I put up walls and it changes my personality. He was much more open and trusting before he met me, but someone hurt him deeply who was supposed to be a christian and he has erected a lot of walls to protect himself from being hurt (with other people not with me, we're very close), he's afraid that at some point the same thing will happen with me. I don't want to be a stand-offish person and examine everything I say a million times before I say it, but lately I can see the benefits of keeping myself isolated from people hurting me in this way.

Boy do I ever know what you're talking about. I am very open and always lend a hand when I can. I've been taken advantage of a few times and it hurts. I've learned to still be helpful and try not to take things personally when others hurt me...it's gonna happen from time to time!

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I do not know about you but I am SOOOO sick of being outcasted. People find me not intersting than they do not want to talk to me...that is okay cuase I know that Jesus will find me interesting. If any one of you are feeling blue cause of that PLEASE let me know I know how that hurts SOOOO much!!!! ESPECAILLY when you are as sensitive as I am!
God bless you and I will pray for you all and if you want PM me...we can chat about it...I feel like crying cause of it ....
SOMETIMES MY SENSITIVITY IS LAME and I wish that i could be with Jesus!!!!!
God bless you all!!!

Sorry........I feel bad. Forgive? I wasn't trying to ignore you.

 

[Missing]

I do not know about you but I am SOOOO sick of being outcasted. People find me not intersting than they do not want to talk to me...that is okay cuase I know that Jesus will find me interesting. If any one of you are feeling blue cause of that PLEASE let me know I know how that hurts SOOOO much!!!! ESPECAILLY when you are as sensitive as I am!
God bless you and I will pray for you all and if you want PM me...we can chat about it...I feel like crying cause of it ....
SOMETIMES MY SENSITIVITY IS LAME and I wish that i could be with Jesus!!!!!
God bless you all!!!

I understand where you are coming from. I've been outcasted a lot of my life and it can be for anything from not wearing the right clothes, to body type, to your beliefs, you name it, it happens. It's very hurtful. A little over a year ago I went through a very traumatic experience with outcasting and it took me many months to get over it. Unfortunately it got to the point where I *thought* they were my friends and then I got stabbed in the back and outcast because people believed the person who stabbed me in the back's story (if that made any sense). I have to say that at this point in my life, I long and desire for friends, but don't normally find them because my differences cause me to be outcast a lot in a variety of ways.

Hang in there, I know it's tough, but I finally determined if those people want to outcast me then they wouldn't make very good friends anyway. I know that's easy for your mind to understand but hard for your heart to accept. I try to keep busy and not dwell on it, but sometimes it gets the best of me as well. I think in particularly it's harder for women to make friends because some women can be so catty and will outcast other women if they think they may encroach on their already established circle of friends.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

The only actual outcasting I've even done is to a friend/s who starts doing something that I just can't condone like doing coke or spreading vicious lies about people. And a few other reasons along those lines. I have this one friend (he comes to CF once every blue moon) who I've known for years in person and had a few struggles with, but I never outcast him. Now, *I* have been blown off before and it's not fun. I am fortunate because I am a natural introvert and am not easily bored/lonely, but it still sucks when it happens. I haven't even made much of an effort to make any new friends her in NC because of issues like this.