A bit of a dilema...

[grumish]

I was just wondering, is it wrong to spend the night with my girlfriend? We aren't having sex so I'm not concerned about that, and we have done it plenty of times without it leading to anything. I'm just a bit confused lately to whether it is wrong or not. Please if any one can help me sort this out that would be great!! Thanks guys

 

[Johnnz]

Generally most Christians would advise against it. Some people have been OK with it and conducted themselves well, but for many their self control would not be adequate. Looks like your call.

John
NZ

 

[IKTCA]

Brother G:
I would like to ask you a question before answering your question. You seem to be an honorable man, with no intention to take advantage of your late night visits.

My question is this: will you do nothing that will disnohor her?

Rupert

 

[BlueBright]

When you spend the night with your girlfriend, will you be sleeping in
separate quarters? Why do you need to spend the night with her?

 

[grumish]

I would never do anything to dishonour her, I love her. It's just nice to hold someone through the night.

 

[melissa18_05]

personally i dont find it wrong but i am not the person to judge those who do things that are wrong or right... i would pray to God fro his Guidance and see what he wants you to do and whatever it is Do His will... if you two are not having sex then i dont see anything wrong with it... and like someone said it is your call but listen to God and hear His Voice... i hope this helps
God Bless

 

[fishstix]

I was just wondering, is it wrong to spend the night with my girlfriend? We aren't having sex so I'm not concerned about that, and we have done it plenty of times without it leading to anything. I'm just a bit confused lately to whether it is wrong or not. Please if any one can help me sort this out that would be great!! Thanks guys

It's unwise. While you could potentially spend the night with her without doing anything wrong, you are placing both of you in a tempting situation. Though it hasn't led to anything before, that doesn't mean that it will always be like that, especially as your relationship gets more serious. And it just doesn't look good - it sets a bad example for other couples who may not have as much self-control as the two of you do.

 

[HumbleBee]

Much wise advice in above posts.

Grumish, believing your confusion is that your flesh is warring against your spirit. You know in your heart of hearts that it is not right for you to sleep in the same bed as your gf, yet as you said, you enjoy holding her. God is convicting you for your own good to keep you and your gf pure before Him. He trying to prevent your falling from grace!

In a way, you are sleeping with the devil, the Tempter of all tempters! Do you see why, he has made you real comfy with each other and not even concerned about sexual temptation? And why, he has made you think you are strong enough to resist your passion for each other? Pride surely goes before a fall! The devil been setting you up!

Even though you are not having s**, what impression do your sleepovers give others

Romans 8:5-6 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.

Romans 12:1-2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

1 Corinthians 6:15-20 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

2 Corinthians 7:1 Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.

Galatians 5:16-18, 24-25 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law...And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

Galatians 6:7-8 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

1 Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

James 1:13-15 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

1 Timothy 4:12 ...set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

You would show great love for your gf by ending the sleepovers!

 

[RThibeault]

I don't necessarily have a problem with it if the two of you can control yourself. Some may question it as "you need to avoid the appearance of evil." Another thing you should consider is how others who may not be able to control their urges might take this. If they see you doing this, they might think they can. You do not want to be responsible for causing another to sin.