Reese,
Thank you for weighing in. Can you talk about altruism a little more please? How does that look on a daily basis from your perspective? How can she increase that quality?
How would you advise someone to nurture humility in a culture which values the opposite? What steps would you recommend on their behalf?
Yours in His Service,
~Bella
Stay gold, Ponyboy.He's the Teacher, marriage is the classroom, and the wife is the Teacher's Pet.
**I was always the class clown...until I grew up...
Stay gold, Ponyboy.
Yes. I like a lady who is pleasing to the eye, mainly my right eye. Softly spoken with a caring and loving nature. Her being a Christian is much more important these days too. Good sense of humour would be nice too. But, i have no plans or desires to link up with anyone. I prefer my own company these days.
She got to be able to channel me....to take this energy!
Meh,
Not to worry, I understand. You're entitled to down moments.
I might have answered differently outside of a pandemic. But my expectations for your sex were along those lines. Strength and protection were important factors. There were moments when I said to myself, we can't melt down together. Someone has to keep their head. I didn't have the liberty of setting mine aside. And it annoyed me. Crisis management is a make or break for me today.
That's really adorable. Pun intended. *lol*
I've never been a damsel and I'm morally opposed to train wrecks. Some people go from one extreme to the next and that's taxing. Nevertheless, I value steadiness in my companion and an ability to lean as needed. I think it's equally wrong to wear oppression like a scarlet letter or badge of honor. It negates situations where oppression is a problem.
I can't relate to that. I'd be in continuous go mode to change it.
I've noticed statements along the lines you've made on Twitter when I peek every now and then. The plight of men is underreported in many areas. Which shouldn't occur. Bias shouldn't be a factor when addressing hardships or helping the needy.
I do have a question for you though.. do you find male vulnerability to be alluring?
Meh,
I'll clarify what I meant. I value transparency. You have to get naked with me or we won't get along. However, I'm a problem-solver.
When a man shares a challenge or problem. I want him to fix it. I'm willing to help him. But I'm not enabler. A person who refuses to change or better their circumstances is difficult to deal with. That juxtaposes my disposition.
I don't believe in staying stuck, wallowing in difficulties, or talking things to death. I want solutions. I'm not a limited thinker or negative. I don't feel sorry for myself.
Just because someone is vulnerable, doesn't mean its positive. I see it here. You'll have good and bad. That's normal. What isn't normal—in my mind—is complacency.
You have to try. I won't support giving up or a man being less than he can. Openness allows us to share our heart with one another. But it shouldn't end there.
Yours in His Service,
~Bella
Meh,
Men can be enablers. They believe they're helping us. But I abhor that. I need to be held to a higher standard.
It feeds something inside of me. Several years ago I explored a possibility. In the course of our conversation he called me out on something. Totally appropriate. He said I had so much going for myself no one would say it. But he would. Because it disappointed him and he wanted me to be better.
My friends were livid! *lol*
But I wasn't. He was right. I valued his honesty and willingness to say it. That was one of the reasons I ended up liking him so much. He wasn't afraid to challenge me. Or push me to be confront hard truths. I need it because I want to grow. I like being stretched.
I love being vulnerable with a man. I've never been treated as a child. But I've encountered a lot who desire a doll. I used to share the things I did openly in the past. Their ears would perk up. They were seeking a well behaved ideal. A true looking glass. Dolls, trophies, and Stepfords are different versions of that ideal.
That only applies to the person I'm with. In my daily life I'm not like that. I march to my own drummer.
Compliance is my weakness. Following someone's lead isn't easy. Not if you're doing right. You have to be pliable. Even when you're upset, disappointed, or scared. You have to stay open and receptive. The beauty of its unfolding ignites something in him which feeds me in turn. Losing your autonomy can be appealing with the right person.
I'm laughing hard real time! I can hear you saying this. *lol*
Yours in His Service,
~Bella
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