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I'm probably one of the least gentlemen type around.. lol.

Mehguy,

I think you’re underestimating yourself and kidding just a tad. You’ve been kind and gentlemanly in our interactions. And I’m sure that’s true for most. :p

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Mehguy,

I think you’re underestimating yourself and kidding just a tad. You’ve been kind and gentlemanly in our interactions. And I’m sure that’s true for most. :p

~Bella

Maybe... I think I'm stubbornly got a little more mature with age. Lol.
 
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This is fantastic! I tried to click the link above the list to see the source. It didn't work. And then it dawned on me: This is just one more example of Bella's brilliance. :) Thank you!
 
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This is a great list! Lots of ways that are good for us to be as Christian men and women. :)

I have seen some of these traits in many people on CF! ^-^

Multifavs,

Thank you! Like you, I’ve seen many examples within our community. Its comforting to know we can find the traits we lack in others and be strengthened by their example. :)

~Bella
 
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This is fantastic! I tried to click the link above the list to see the source. It didn't work. And then it dawned on me: This is just one more example of Bella's brilliance. :) Thank you!

Chadrho,

Thank you for the compliment. :)

The list is a starting point and wasn’t composed by me. I would connect the qualities to scripture for edification. Nevertheless, it’s a great resource.

I’m certain you embody many of the attributes mentioned. ;)

~Bella
 
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20. He’s shaped by men he respects: He finds mentors, men he wants to be like, and regularly meets with them.

This has been a big one for me the past year. Turned my life around professionally and financially.
 
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This has been a big one for me the past year. Turned my life around professionally and financially.

Amen! Isn’t He good? Keep going. You’re moving higher in Him! :)
 
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Maybe... I think I'm stubbornly got a little more mature with age. Lol.
I think all of us mature as we age, perhaps because sometimes it takes a lot more energy to be immature :D
 
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I think all of us mature as we age, perhaps because sometimes it takes a lot more energy to be immature :D

I contribute it to one becoming more desensitized towards empathy as they grow older.
 
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I contribute it to one becoming more desensitized towards empathy as they grow older.
Sometimes that is a good thing as today's society seems to be more and more wanting people to be hyper empathetic towards everything and everyone to the point of absurdness.
 
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Sometimes that is a good thing as today's society seems to be more and more wanting people to be hyper empathetic towards everything and everyone to the point of absurdness.

I can agree with that.

There is calmness and wisdom being on the lower end of the empathetic spectrum.
 
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I can agree with that.

There is calmness and wisdom being on the lower end of the empathetic spectrum.
It can be but also empathy can be blind and we can want to care for people who are essentially are frauds and it can cost us if we aren't wise.
 
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Thirty timely reminders of gracious behavior to reinforce godly character. :)

What about the concept that we don't have many of those qualities, maybe some of them, half maybe if were lucky. But we manage to acquire the others slowly in life by taking "the Heroes Journey". :)

The Heroes Journey and Christianity


 
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What about the concept that we don't have many of those qualities, maybe some of them, half maybe if were lucky. But we manage to acquire the others slowly in life by taking "the Heroes Journey".

Pavel Mosko,

I think its quite the feat to attain them all. But I can see how the Hero’s Journey (I’m familiar with Campbell and Jung) might explain how it happens.

I suspect they’re all within the Body. Our lack is meant to drive us to those who have the attributes we’re missing. :)

~Bella
 
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timewerx,

I didn’t write the list. Why do you feel it should be changed?

~Bella

Some items in there are contradictory to Christian teachings.

But more importantly, I did not make most of the list. :D

Any advice that contradicts the Lord's teaching is no good advice. We must stay on guard against those. We must reject, not accept.
 
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