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You're only flipping a letter. The others remain. So that's the part you may want to pay attention to. What's influencing the difference.
You are entertaining. ;-)
I'd love to see your Enneagram tri-type and instinct. Have you done it before?
Please share when you do. I'm curious if your results will meet my suspicions. ;-)
Riddle me this, what brings you here?
I appreciate the variance in perspective and like to be challenged. Sometimes a person who views a subject from the outside can see the issue from a different angle. Sandpaper is good. It irritates but I'm better because of its presence.
How has atheism affected your outlook on life? What's changed?
That's your adventurous side! ~lol
Mentor Archetype
The 125 is focused on helping others through their information, being a mentor and being of service. This is a scholar archetype. Caring but practical and knowledgeable. The life mission is to manifest ideals that help people in need and the blind spot is an over-focus on procedure or protocol that gets in the way of being of true service to others.
Very controlling and demanding, but also very helpful advisers. They feel they understand much of the world and how it should be. They try to help people by providing them advice sometimes unwanted advice. They have high expectations of others, and may tend to push people to their limits.
5-1-2: Most orderly Five. Wants knowledge to make change. Often socially-focused. Friendly Five.
These Fives could make great teachers – they are precise, ethical, thorough, disciplined, but also altruistic and willing to help other people. They are usually moral and righteous individuals, who have high ideals and are willing to stand by a cause they believe in. Their interest in people and commitment to knowledge and improvement can turn them into crusaders for theories and systems that can make the world a better place, sometimes at the cost of their own physical and emotional needs.
typical subtypes: social, 5w6
similar tritypes: 5-2-1, 1-5-2
flavours: idealistic, conscientious, principled and ethical
Self-Preservation/Social Instinct
In the average health range, this instinctual stacking is warm, friendly, and loyal. They need their down time and have no problem spending time alone. They actually value it very much. They feel an energy drain from people’s demands on them. This instinctual stacking is what is described in most Enneagram books. The most notable and potentially frustrating thing about people of this type is the difficulty involved in getting really close to them.
While they can usually handle themselves socially, they always hold back when it comes to intensity or intimacy in a relationship which can frustrate a sexual variant type. Others are aware that there is more going on beneath the surface, but it can’t really be accessed. These Fives are masters at minimizing their needs.
Even though they shy away from intense personal relationships they often have a lot of intuition about others. Their detached level of personal involvement somehow brings objectivity to their insights. They can be the most practical of the instinctual stackings.
Their issues usually revolve around demands made on their time. This can become problematic in personal relationships. This subtype has an ideal vision of what a close or romantic relationship should be, but given their concerns for protecting their space and time and lacking the instinctual drive of a strong sexual instinct, energy just doesn’t flow in that direction.
Because this subtype is good at minimizing their needs they can get along fine with few relationships or without a romantic partner. With the social instinct second in the stacking, they generally do find friends or colleagues and they may even be married, but the need to maintain their own time to pursue their interests is always a point of contention.
Wow. Thanks for this! It actually describes me very well. No wonder I'm single...
Romance just isn't a huge interest of mine and I do see it as a threat to my own time and interests. I have a lot of big ideas that just aren't compatible with dragging someone along with me, not to mention a family. Unless I find a girl who has the same motivations and divides time in half rather than parasitizes my own, I'm just not interested. There's a part of me very deep down that wonders if I really want to remain single my whole life, but the rest of me easily shuts that thought up and locks it away.
At the same time, I value friendships deeply because they are like rare and precious gems. I've only ever had two or three real friends in my life so far, and I had to pursue those friendships for many months before they finally blossomed.
It's true I don't open up to people much. If someone is warming up to me, I resist the instinct to warm up to them. Juggling relationships is wearying to me, including my own relatives. I feel like I'm perpetually neglecting someone or forgetting to respond to an email or text or send pictures of my Christmas tree that I promised my grandma...![]()
By the way, nice black and white photography! You've inspired me to update my own photo...