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[CherubRam]

A lot of men feel like they are just a pay check to their wives.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

…….yes?

 

[Paidiske]

A lot of men feel like they are just a pay check to their wives.

And a lot of wives feel like a pay cheque is all their husbands contribute (or want to contribute).

Neither situation is ideal, but I suspect the answer lies in "doing life" more closely together.

 

[bèlla]

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[bèlla]

…….yes?

Yes they should please them?

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

Yes they should please them?

…..yes

 

[eleos1954]

According to Miranda Kerr: Women "Need to Make a Little Effort" When It Comes to Pleasing Their Men

"My grandma taught me that men are visual and you need to make a little effort," the model said in an interview with The Edit. "So when [Evan] comes home, I make sure to have a nice dress on and the candles lit. We make time to have a nice dinner together." (read the full article on Harpar's Bazaar.)

For the purposes of discussion:

Do you agree? Why or Why not? And what constitutes "a little effort?" Who defines it?

What one says or does should be from the heart out of love and not expect anything in return.

1 Peter 4:8

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

Luke 6:31

And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.

Romans

Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

According to Miranda Kerr: Women "Need to Make a Little Effort" When It Comes to Pleasing Their Men

"My grandma taught me that men are visual and you need to make a little effort," the model said in an interview with The Edit. "So when [Evan] comes home, I make sure to have a nice dress on and the candles lit. We make time to have a nice dinner together." (read the full article on Harpar's Bazaar.)

For the purposes of discussion:

Do you agree? Why or Why not? And what constitutes "a little effort?" Who defines it?

I guess any man/ husband I have is screwed .Since I have a whip.

 

[Hishandmaiden]

Man is the head of the household, and hence, woman ought to submit to their husband.
However, in Christ, both men and women are equal before God.
Therefore, man ought to please his wife as much as his wife ought to please him.

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I believe so,If you love someone you desire to make them happy after all.

 

[bèlla]

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[CherubRam]

Do you agree with them?

I'm sure that is true for some.

 

[CherubRam]

And a lot of wives feel like a pay cheque is all their husbands contribute (or want to contribute).

Neither situation is ideal, but I suspect the answer lies in "doing life" more closely together.

Communication is important.

 

[Ringo84]

Depends on what you mean by "pleasing their man". If you mean that the "little lady" should doll herself up because she's subservient to her man, then no. I don't believe in hierarchical marriage, period. Relationships of any kind require sacrifice on the parts of both parties, and a sturdy relationship is built on mutual respect and equality - not one member being "in authority" because they happen to have different equipment.
Ringo

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

A lot of men feel like they are just a pay check to their wives.

I'm sure there's a lot of women, that feel the same ways. When they are the ones making the money.

 

[CherubRam]

I'm sure there's a lot of women, that feel the same ways. When they are the ones making the money.

In my 62 years of life I have only heard of one woman who kept a man that did not work.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

In my 62 years of life I have only heard of one woman who kept a man that did not work.

Where I live typically both work. Unless the women wants to keep her job. And have the man watch the baby or toddlers . But I known a few women complain about their husband or boyfriend not bring home a check.

 

[Paidiske]

Where I am, I'd say typically both parents work, but usually one is part-time or casual or the like. More and more I'm seeing dads happy and comfortable in the primary parent role.

The only time I've heard women complain about their men not working is when he's been a lazy so-and-so who hasn't been contributing in any other way either. If he's out of paid work, but he's looking after little ones, doing the school run, the housework, the shopping, the cooking, the life admin, the thoughtload... he's working!

And I think more and more, we realise that people's work is going to be in flux over their lifetime, and there will be seasons of unemployment for most people, (hopefully short seasons, but nonetheless), and that what's important is working as a team when things aren't ideal.

 

[HosannaHM]

Yes I believe so. And I would add this:

"Therefore we also have as our ambition, whether at home or absent, to be pleasing to Him." 2 Cor. 5:9

Same as seeking the kingdom of God first, as long our pleasing one another doesn't violate pleasing God, I say both women and men(particularly in the realm of marriage) should aim to please each other.

 

[bèlla]

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