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Funny, I have a co-worker, age 19, is now married. Devout Christian, is there something about highly devout Christian families that like to have their kids married off at such an early age? I hear they are even living in a travel trailer or something. Barely can rub two pennies together.You might end up getting married a little later in life (or later than your friends), but that is okay.
I think a 19 year old (in today's society) is a little too young to be married. I know everyone is different, but that is a lot of stress to take on at that age. I wouldn't advise that. It's very unlikely that a person at that age is fully mature and developed (as a person). I do think a lot of Christians encourage marriage at a young age, because it helps to eliminate the temptation to be immoral in relationships and because there is a heavy emphasis /focus on marriage in general within the church. I'm very pro-marriage, but I think that far too many Christians elevate marriage and place far too much emphasis on being married. There is serious pressure on young people to be married and start families, etc. I think that's a problem and contributes to the high divorce rates (within Christian circles). The flip side to this is the secular outlook that isn't healthy either. That's all about having fun and experimenting until you are ready to settle down. Both are destructive mindsets.Funny, I have a co-worker, age 19, is now married. Devout Christian, is there something about highly devout Christian families that like to have their kids married off at such an early age? I hear they are even living in a travel trailer or something. Barely can rub two pennies together.
Where, in smaller cities and within more...smaller, tight Christian congregations, there DOES tend to be marriage rather young. I knew of a couple of high schoolers that planned their wedding the summer after they graduated high school. I was just a few years older than them, and thought to myself that was no where NEAR on my radar at that age.Christians encourage marriage at a young age, because it helps to eliminate the temptation to be immoral in relationships and because there is a heavy emphasis /focus on marriage in general within the church. I'm very pro-marriage, but I think that far too many Christians elevate marriage and place far too much emphasis on being married.
I had Christian friends who got married at 19. After about a year, she was sleeping with her boss, and telling her husband she was leaving him. A month later, she was pregnant with her boss's kid, whom had now dumped her, and she was then begging her husband to take her back, which he did not.Funny, I have a co-worker, age 19, is now married. Devout Christian, is there something about highly devout Christian families that like to have their kids married off at such an early age? I hear they are even living in a travel trailer or something. Barely can rub two pennies together.
Thank you! Well said, my friend.That is indeed, okay. In fact, that's better than being married to the wrong person, or being in a relationship with the wrong person. There's worse things than being single.
I think Christians marry young b/c they think the first one they hit it off with is ‘the one’ God has sent them. They think he wouldn’t send The One late in life.
Unless you count a girl online that was lying and cheated on me, and a girl who cornered me into asking her out, then told me she'd been "pretending to like" me, and dumped me a day after our first official date- then I have zero dating experience. I'm 32.
So going with your logic, I'm just not a catch, and there must be 'some reason' why not...
Actually, I know lots of women who are desperate to be in relationships and they jump from guy to guy. They can't remain single for very long. I am surprised by all these threads being posted lately. What I am reading has not been my experience. Most women I know want to be with a guy and they don't seem that picky to me ( they actually should be more discriminating, lol )
Yeah. I agree. I am not saying that type of woman is a good catch. I just think that all these recent dating threads are very one sided. That's why I posted about desperate women. If you read through them you would come away with the impression that women don't need men and they rarely agree to go out with a guy unless he is stunningly handsome, etc. I know these threads are from the male perspective and I get it. I think it helps though to be balanced.They don’t want her!
Yeah. I agree. I am not saying that type of woman is a good catch. I just think that all these recent dating threads are very one sided. If you read through them you would come away with the impression that women don't need men and they rarely agree to go out with a guy unless he is stunningly handsome, etc. I know these threads are from the male perspective and I get it. I think it helps though to be balanced.
[/QUOTE]Actually, I know lots of women who are desperate to be in relationships and they jump from guy to guy. They can't remain single for very long. I am surprised by all these threads being posted lately. What I am reading has not been my experience. Most women I know want to be with a guy and they don't seem that picky to me ( they actually should be more discriminating, lol )
Also, there are guys who are older than 25 who don't have dating experience and they are normal. I think there are actually some fairly cautious, picky guys who are doing the rejecting. Imagine that, lol. It's not always the woman who turns down the guy
@DragonFox91 how do you feel about your supportive friend is what she really thinks about you.
Just because you failed with the opposite sex doesn’t mean I believe he’ll suffer a similar fate. And since you opened the floor I’ll admit what I told him privately.
I advised him against taking advice from men who suffered from similar problems who hadn’t resolved them. That includes YOU and others in your sandbox. I would never listen to a man who couldn’t keep a woman or secure their fealty.
Stirring the pot won’t minimize your failures. Yahweh sees and so do I.
~bella
Honestly Bella what you teach is not required to be Christian teaching and stops people from actually showing charity those who don’t repent of their hardness rejecting something before they die will have a much smaller reward in heaven they know they are being selfish
Lying never helped anyone. Telling people what they want to hear to spare their feelings is pointless. Some people will never choose you. Your problems and insecurities exceed them. They’ll choose someone with less baggage. Admitting that isn’t unkind. Some of the people here have difficulties beyond the norm. I know because we’ve spoken privately. If you’re inclined to sell them hope by all means do so. But I see their replies and know my sex.
They’re saying no for a reason. While they may not spell it out it isn’t hard to discern. Most people don’t want a partner with physical, mental, or emotional challenges. Or too much damage. I live in the real world and heard the same from people on this site.
Think what you will. I choose reality over sugarplums.
~bella
And I just same here a few months ago. You have been here for 2-3 years on his other thread like this and now you are saying he is listening to the wrong advice? Sounds like I touched a nerve on another thread and you are just triggered.
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