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What's that supposed to mean?
I'm not calling anyone in this thread superficial. But I am saying that a man who is attracted by plumage, acting out, and flattery would be superficial. If someone here owns up to that, it's not my responsibility.
I would not approach a girl who does not take care of her appearance. If she looks like she just rolled out of bed in the morning, I would not approach her. Why should I...? Because you say so? Mmm, I don't think so.
And yeah, women (or men) who have a defense or unapproachable posture / body language, like guarding their chest are not seen as approachable. That is a fact, as far as human behavior is concerned.
You called me superficial.
Whoa whoa whoa whoa...there is a difference between not having a backbone and having the backbone being forcibly ripped out from your body, and that is called social anxiety. If anything, I'd hope women give guys who have that the benefit of the doubt than anything. It's the real deal.
If you need plumage, flattery and acting out to be attracted to a woman, then yes, you are. But I'm not saying you do. If you cop to it, that's your own responsibility.
Define "plumage". We're not in 18th century anymore.
You clearly did say that anyone who is attracted to women who dress well (perhaps your definition of "plumage"?) and who does not approach a woman who folds her arms (lol) is shallow.
MacFall....so how the heck do you not have girls tripping themselves over you?
I'm dead serious!
Dressing deliberately to attract a mate. Which is EXACTLY what the author of the article recommends.
Good. And she is right, in that context. I do the same and advocate the same advice to others who are looking for a mate.
Maybe you like the "I just rolled outta bed in the morning" look - that's great. Glad to hear it. I know some girls that you may be interested in. For me though, ain't my thing.
I expect out of a relationship what I put into it and what I bring to the table. I don't do pity dates.
Only if your idea of "dressing well" translates to "stylish" or "flattering" - the former of which, as I said before, is a commercial contrivance; and the latter a sexual ploy.
It definitely translates to stylish. You now have a problem with "stylish?" Are you Amish? No offense to the Amish, of course. They're great people. I just have never heard someone argue against women and men looking nice as vehemently as you have.
And yes, if you wouldn't approach a woman who folds her arms. That's not just shallow, it's downright cruel.
Good. And she is right, in that context. I do the same and advocate the same advice to others who are looking for a mate.
Maybe you like the "I just rolled outta bed in the morning" look - that's great.
How so?
Animals put on displays to attract mates. Man, who is created in the image of God, emulates the animals when he "looks at the outward appearance". A Godly man will emulate God, and look at another person's heart. So, dressing up to attract someone based on the outward appearance is a rather animalistic form of vanity.
That's your opinion. Based off of evolutionary psychology, it is not only natural and the way humans do things, but there is nothing immoral about it. The topic is hardly worthy of moral pontification...
A good man will look at the heart. I agree.
But before he gets to know her heart, what will attract him to her? Her heart? No. It will be her smile, figure, clothing and smell. This is reality.
Are you not reading my posts, or are you deliberately misrepresenting what I am saying?
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DRESSING NEATLY AND DRESSING ACCORDING TO POPULAR STYLES AND IN SEXUALLY TANTALIZING WAYS.
Yes, but you didn't say this.
You are blowing up irrationally because I cannot read your mind? This is the internet, friend. I can ONLY go by what you give me. If you tell me something, I am forced to go by that alone. Your tonality, body language and other forms of non-verbal communication get lost.
Because by doing so, you are ASSUMING that a girl who is comfortable in that position is a [word I can't say here]. That's just a horrible thing to do.
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