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I would highly endorse item #1 and #10 but more for the fact that when you are doing those things, all of a sudden, finding a guy is not life's most important mission.
Not that this list is saying that but it feels like if I took this list seriously that would be my mindset.
But now I am thinking of props to drag along with me... I could walk around in a Daria t-shirt and if a guy approached me on that- I would marry him on the spot
But now I am thinking of props to drag along with me... I could walk around in a Daria t-shirt and if a guy approached me on that- I would marry him on the spot
The advice concentrates on appearance, encourages women to contrive attitudes and situations that are not natural, and endorses flattery - which is insincere BY DEFINITION. Look it up in the dictionary if you don't believe me. Or here, I'll do it for you:
flat·ter·y
/ˈflætə ri/ Spelled[flat-uh-ree]
–noun, plural -ter·ies. 1. the act of flattering.
2. a flattering compliment or speech; excessive, insincere praise.
Origin:
1275–1325; Middle English flaterie < Middle French, equivalent to flat ( er ) to flatter + -erie -ery. Compare flatter1
—Synonyms
2. sycophancy, toadying, fawning, pandering.
Pretty good actually. The list seems pretty funny to me, I always find it funny when girls are like this; but, whatever works I suppose... it's like you're trapping me into something I don't want to be doing.
Well, as much as I hate answering questions with questions, what's here for someone whose dream man doesn't wear suits, read the New Yorker, or order metrosexual coffee's? Oh, and make sure you don't compliment him too much on his impressive job and brand new BMW. Because obviously the dream man has those things, and you can't give too many hints what things are really about. So yes, it's obviously written from a fairly shallow point of view.
I suggest making a better plan; a guy with taste that poor in television couldn't have the taste to ask you in the first place
But, you find it funny when girls are like what? Approachable? Lol. Uh...
Fyi: Most women do specific things to get the attn of a man she is interested in...whether you realize it or not. We're too smooth for you to realize what we are doing. Lol.
Whoa whoa whoa whoa...there is a difference between not having a backbone and having the backbone being forcibly ripped out from your body, and that is called social anxiety. If anything, I'd hope women give guys who have that the benefit of the doubt than anything. It's the real deal.Although I will add that you can't "make" a man approach you. All you can do is be the best "YOU" you know how to be and let him come to you. If he doesn't, then perhaps *he* is the one with the problem (i.e. social anxiety, etc.) In that case, it's his loss, not yours.
Whoa whoa whoa whoa...there is a difference between not having a backbone and having the backbone being forcibly ripped out from your body, and that is called social anxiety. If anything, I'd hope women give guys who have that the benefit of the doubt than anything. It's the real deal.
Avoid "how to get a guy/girl" advice. Best advice of all
The advice concentrates on appearance, encourages women to contrive attitudes and situations that are not natural, and endorses flattery - which is insincere BY DEFINITION. Look it up in the dictionary if you don't believe me. Or here, I'll do it for you:
macfall said:If you don't need help, don't ask for it just to make a guy feel macho.
com·pli·ment
Noun: A polite expression of praise or admiration.
Verb: Politely congratulate or praise (someone) for something.
vs.
flat·ter·y
Noun: a flattering compliment or speech; excessive, insincere praise.
Huge difference.
I have no problems with sincere compliments. My problem, as I clearly stated, is with insincerity - which this advice column encourages.
The list was for women who, presumably, want to attract a man. So it would seem that the opinions of men would be relevant. Clearly, not every man even in this forum, much less in the world at large, appreciates it when women act in an insincere manner in order to attract them.
If you want to attract a genuine man, don't act in a way that isn't genuinely who you are. Meaning:
If you are comfortable dressing in a way that isn't "stylish" don't change who you are to suit other people.
If you don't naturally exude confidence, then fine! Don't try, because it won't look right. Being relaxed and demure is okay.
If you like folding your arms, fold them. A guy who assumes that you're an ice-queen because you're comfortable with your arms in a certain position is a jerk.
If you don't normally carry a book or a tennis racket or wear a noticeable t-shirt, don't do it just to catch a man's eye.
If you aren't naturally enthusiastic and bubbly, don't act like you are.
If you don't need help, don't ask for it just to make a guy feel macho.
All of those things are advised against by the column you posted. The author is encouraging women to be and do things that they aren't. That is not healthy for the women, and it isn't fair to the men they are trying to attract.
Oooh, I hate it when girls play helpless. It makes them seem manipulative and me like their butler, not like a gentlemen helping a lady.
I have no problems with sincere compliments. My problem, as I clearly stated, is with insincerity - which this advice column encourages.
The list was for women who, presumably, want to attract a man. So it would seem that the opinions of men would be relevant. Clearly, not every man even in this forum, much less in the world at large, appreciates it when women act in an insincere manner in order to attract them.
If you want to attract a genuine man, don't act in a way that isn't genuinely who you are. Meaning:
If you are comfortable dressing in a way that isn't "stylish" don't change who you are to suit other people.
If you don't naturally exude confidence, then fine! Don't try, because it won't look right. Being relaxed and demure is okay.
If you like folding your arms, fold them. A guy who assumes that you're an ice-queen because you're comfortable with your arms in a certain position is a jerk.
If you don't normally carry a book or a tennis racket or wear a noticeable t-shirt, don't do it just to catch a man's eye.
If you aren't naturally enthusiastic and bubbly, don't act like you are.
If you don't need help, don't ask for it just to make a guy feel macho.
All of those things are advised against by the column you posted. The author is encouraging women to be and do things that they aren't. That is not healthy for the women, and it isn't fair to the men they are trying to attract.
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