2 Years

[lucybee]

It is getting close to the 2 year mark. It happened on July 4th, a wonderful day.

I have been having more dreams about rape lately, and reliving it more often. Its hard to pretend to be ok and happy about the holiday, as if its just another day. We are taking a family vacation, and making a ton of plans. I am thankful for that, I might not hurt myself as much as I did last year.

It is hard to even say July 4th without thinking about it, but I wont tell my family because it will do no good. It will only hurt them and it wont change the past.

So please pray for me when you think about it. I will need some help getting through this holiday.

 

[thepianist]

My dear, you can count on my prayers. Just remember, this guy isn't worth you being sick. In the end, he will get his......Romans 12:19 "Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord."

 

[Rosebaronet]

We will be praying for you to get thriough the day and trying time with peace.

 

[prayingwoman]

I am praying for you. I am a survivor of rape myself when I was 18 and molestation when I was 9. It is hard to learn to live with. Just take one day at a time or one hour at a time. Whatever it takes to make it through the day. Hold fast to the Lord and friends who are willing to be there for you. As you work through everything it is a heling process. It can and does hurt a lot sometimes and is pretty scary too but it is all a part of the process. I am sending you gentle hugs and plenty of understanding. You can PM me if you would like to talk some more. God be with you and bless you

 

[Interesting2me]

It is getting close to the 2 year mark. It happened on July 4th, a wonderful day.

I have been having more dreams about rape lately, and reliving it more often. Its hard to pretend to be ok and happy about the holiday, as if its just another day. We are taking a family vacation, and making a ton of plans. I am thankful for that, I might not hurt myself as much as I did last year.

It is hard to even say July 4th without thinking about it, but I wont tell my family because it will do no good. It will only hurt them and it wont change the past.

So please pray for me when you think about it. I will need some help getting through this holiday.

I would stop watching anything in the media that would remind you of that negative life changing event. Many real & sucessfull women Christain ministers have suffered similiar fates over a long period of time & now speak often about it openly helping free others fom the pain of guilt feelings etc, Some things take time & much prayer.

Talking to someone can only help, as long as they're the right person(s). A good friend of mine's daughter suffered the same fate at a much earlier age. Counselling only submerged what happenned while she grew up knowing something happenned to her but did'nt know what. Her father suffered too, fearing she would find out what happenned [no, it was'nt him!] for years & years.

She finally went to him after a bad dream as a young adult. He was greatly relieved he could finally let her know the truth of the matter, wishing for years he had avenged her his self, as the authorities then as they do today, try to cover things up, avoiding facts. So listenning to others can only help you, the young lady mentioned felt better, but there's still scars for her & her father, They're closer now as that incident had a profound affect on her relationship with men for years. Likewise my friend, as he watched her then & now, unable to undo what should have never happenned & never dealt with in truth.

Bottom Line? You're not alone! [The ministry is in Fla. Prayerfully send a message if you're led & I'll give you some names], the sooner the pain of treating a problem, the sooner the healing. "Is anything too hard for God"? ! [Hope he gets caught before he messes up another single life, "seed time & harvest, sowing & reaping"!]. HAVE A GREAT INDEPENCE DAY, MAYBE THIS IS YOUR YEAR! WE PARENTS KNOW MORE ABOUT OUR OFFSPRING THAN THEY THINK, IF YOU'RE ABLE TO, I PRAY YOU WILL TELL THEM OR SOMEONE SOON, LIFE'S TOO SHORT ALREADY. "He came to give (us) life, and that more abundantly"! Echad/God's Best in Jesus' Name!

Scriptures are the best medicine you can use thats permanent; "my God will supply all your needs ..., He sent His word(s) & healed them..., Isa.53:5, & others".

Of note is the fact many teeenagers & women have those same feelings whenever they hear 'vacuum' cleaners, or their aborted 'fetuses' birthday arrives. Trauma is trauma. Psalms 27:13,14. Echad/God is a mighty good God. I will be praying much for you as I'm sure others will! Stay busy in The Lord. I even pray now that Echad/God will meet you at your exact point of need [healing] in Yeshua's/Jesus' Name, Amen & Amen.

"Stay strong in The Lord & in the power of 'His' might ...."! Amen.

 

[shazabella]

Hey Lucybee,

Just wanted to let you know your not alone with your struggles , its 3 yrs on the 9th of July and 6 months on the 18th of July since i was r***d. Just wanted to offer you prayers and hugs and PM me if u want to talk

- Shaz

 

[Taylor43]

Praying for you. God just ask us to be real he understands the pain. My mom died in 1998 Agust 15 she did things sexually still today it is hard. It takes time and keep talking i know it is painful but you'll get support and God will comfort you. Yes people will not understand but a few will just rely on those that understad and mostly Talk to God and read the bible when you can. It hurts like heck i find bed is a place to let go of my anger and crying

 

[lucybee]

Thanks everyone, I am getting ready to leave this weekend. It means so much to know that I'm not alone and you are here supporting me. You all have been so supportive

 

[BigToe]

I know what you mean about it stigmatizing a holiday. I was raped Jan 2nd, so the whole New Years thing isn't really exciting for me and it wasn't even on New Years. This past year a boyfriend took me out of the country for the holiday and I was really nervous about it.

Stay busy. Don't give yourself downtime. For me, when it got to be about the time of day, I needed to be alone. Pay attention to your body's warning signals. You'll know when it will be best for you to sneak away from the family and get some alone time.

Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to. And have fun, you deserve it.