baby fever

I had baby fever until I had been a nanny for a year. (That was up to age 23.) I didn't get my baby fever back until just recently....and it comes and goes every so often. All I have to say is... Just don't get in a hurry! For the meantime...get a job as a nanny. That'll help.

I definetly sympathise with you on this. I'm all about kids and I definetly want a baby. I mean, I know right now, even if I was married, I'm still not quite there yet, but I still want one. Then again, I've felt like that for a while. Oh well, when it's God's will (after I'm married) then I'm sure I'll have a baby.
-Hanaya

i SO cant wait to have kids!!! I've been this was since i was about 17!! A few of my friends have had babies, and i get so very clucky when i'm around them!! But i know i'm going to have to wait a while, i mean i'm only 20, still at college and don't ahve a man of any sort atm!!!
But yeah.... i understand you're feelings...

Well, since you said it was okay for a guy to respond, I thought i'd pitch in here too...
So yeah...even us guys sometimes get that too...wanting to be a dad and stuff...so you're not all alone in the feeling...just probably not alot of guys that'll admit it lol

I'm married and i do understand the baby fever thing. However, more than that I understand that it would probably be unfair to the baby to bring it into this world at this point in my life. I grew up around alot of babies, helped take care of my siblings, its not an easy thing to raise kids, to teach them to do whats right, and to help shape them. Besides this, although I would love to be a mother, I would also love to be a doctor. Really its just something you have to come to terms with within yourself. I choose to wait so that I can make a better life for any children I will have. So i guess im thinking about school, career, and motherhood. My hubby and I think it would be a good idea to wait at least another 2 years, possibly 3. (then again most people aren't married yet at my age either!)

Heh, probably true BlueDragon especially at your age, however I am getting up there in years and am not afraid to admit it

Well, I got married young AND had a baby young. I got married when I was 20, and had my son at age 22. I think it's all a matter of maturity. I know plenty of people my age that would make horrible wives and/or mothers at this age, because they just aren't ready for it. But I do believe that whatever you do, God will give you the strength to do it. If you're married young and have a child, He will definitely give you the wisdom and patience to deal with all that comes along with it. AS LONG AS you continually seek Him and do His will, He will bless you.

So yeah...if you want to get married young or have a child young and you feel you're ready and that it's God's will, then go for it. It's definitely a life-changing, rewarding experience!

I never really had baby fever until my husband and I had been married for a year.  We just turned to each other one day and both said we wanted a family.  And we started trying from then on to have a baby, and we just knew it was the right time.  But I'll tell ya - once we'd decided it was time, I was SO anxious to have one!

i think it's totally normal. every time i turn around someone else is having one and i want one soooo bad-i have to keep telling myself that the timing is awful though, and once you have one your whole life and lifestyle will never be the same. plus, i don't know about you, but teens and "big kids" don't really appeal to me right now-just the babies, but they will grow up before you know it!

I wish I could relate to the baby thing, but i can't. I never have been able to. I hope someday my attitude changes, but as of right now, I could care less if I EVER have kids. I like not having to share my husband and our time. I'll just say that I'm very selfish, and don't want to give things up for a crying screaming baby. I was never around kids growing up (my mom didn't think it appropriate), and I'm sure that has a lot to do with my atittude, but if I never have kids I really don't think I'll be disappointed. I've never even had TWINGES of wanting a baby...and the thought of being pregnant literally makes me gaggy...

I can totally relate with the "baby fever" I've actually had it since I was about 12 years old...I know, I'm a dork! From the time that I started babysitting, I decided that I wanted one of my own and I wanted it NOW! However, I've been having to hold that back...lol, not into the whole single-motherhood experience! =)

Nope...nadda on the baby fever...I just want to get started on my career, and I am not even involved with anyone right now...no use in thinking about it...playing with other people's kids is good enough for me!

Jess

Please don't get married just to have a baby.

I'm in my early thirties and my wife is 29. We have been married seven years and have a toddler.

We love the fact that we were able to spend a few years as just a couple, because we won't have that opportunity again until the last child leaves home.

I like the idea of having a baby, but not the idea of having responsibility for the baby .

My fiancee and I really want children, but we also want to beable to spend time with eachother as husband and wife first. One reason that we would like to spend time with eachother is the fact that he has been out of the United States (where we are both from) for four years. He has had a four leaves that he has taken, so that we could spend some time together and he could see his family. We have talked about it at length several times and every time we have said that we are going to wait at least one year, maybe longer if we feel the need to wait.

Cammie said:

I wish I could relate to the baby thing, but i can't. I've never even had TWINGES of wanting a baby...and the thought of being pregnant literally makes me gaggy...

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I totally agree..I don't even like to be around anyone under the age of like, 10. Maybe thats weird, but whenever I think about how my life will be in the future, I have this perfect husband and perfect job, but no kids!

I'm getting married in 2.5 years, and I have baby fever big time. I think I have it especially right now because my fiance just got two new baby cousins, and they are soooo cute! We decided that we are going to stay on bc for at least one year after we are married and then decide where we want to go from there. This is soo cheesy, but I sometimes imagine what it will be like to call my kids down for dinner, or tell them to start their homework, just stupid stuff like that.

I've got baby fever big time! It seems like it just gets worse and worse...which is unfortunate since I'm not even dating anyone, much less married. I want to be a stay at home mom too which some people think is a crazy goal, but I can't think of any more important way that I could spend my time than raising my children.

So this is normal, whew, i feel better jenptcfan. i completely empathize. ive been having the whole baby marriage fever thing for about a month or more now. which is very strange because before i wanted nothing to do with any child, ever. im going to be 24 next month and now im all i want is to be a stay at home mom and a good wife. which was really tormenting me because i dont even have a boyfriend or prospects!!!! but im waiting patiently...i believe God put the idea in my head to prepare me for when it actually happens (God willing), although i admit i do get impatient at times. im just glad to see im not the only one suffering from this not that i enjoy others suffering, im not a sadist or anything, haha.