Have you ever wanted to ask your wife over and over again?

Neostarwcc said:

Will you marry me? My wife didn't get the proposal she deserved and everytime I see her beautiful face I want to ask her to marry me. And then I realize, I got married and missed my chance seven, eight, ...etc years ago.

I can never show my wife just how much she means to me. Because, I screwed up our dating life and when we met. I screwed up our marriage and, I'm sick of the fighting I just want to say "Will you marry me?" And have us be in love again.

Is that normal?

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It sounds like you want a reset. Years ago I was what's called a Press Tech over lots of heavy machinery. Certain things would fault out and you could do one of two things. Go into the system and and try to track down and locate the system failure. Very complex to do and could be done. The fastest way however was to shut down power and hit the reset. It'd line everything up perfect again and many times would stay that way. The saying was the reset button is the Press Techs best friend.

So...you've got all these things of the past. A whole list of things. Hard to go in and re-fix the system so how to do a reset in relationships. First can your wife and you agree maybe you or both of you didn't do things absolutely right. And do you believe that precious blood of Jesus blots out our dumb mistakes or sins and gives you both a clean slate, or ....you now become justified.just as if you'd never sinned? Can you declare and decree that and refuse to allow the mental picture of your past nudging you constantly? If the thoughts come to do so you cast them down and say , Nope, nope, nope not to us your don't. The dumb things the mistakes are blotted out and say thank you Jesus for a clean slate? Sins once like scarlet, now white as wool? Sins are cast into the sea of God's forgetfulness. All gone ...no more fishing for them. Clean slate fresh new page we both now have and we declare that's what we have in Jesus Name!

So...you mark down the date and time you and your wife agree to that. Write down on a piece of paper sins, or mistakes of the past....light a match to it now and both of you watch it burn...Now gone....gone forever! Any time the thought of those things try to creep up into your mind you say NOPE, NOPE....the mistakes are gone....now we've got the clean slate! Then begin the new page of life with your fresh start. Tell your wife lets just pretend my new proposal you give her was the way it happened or you could say you're both going to re-invent, or re-create the past.

Consider that if both couples believe in the blood of Jesus every day they're supposed to see themselves through his blood too. Pure and holy without blame before him in LOVE and on a fresh new page...every day. Your wife is supposed to see you through the blood of Jesus and you are to see her the same way. In other words a reset . Ive rambled on but hope it's been of some help.

Neostarwcc said:

Will you marry me? My wife didn't get the proposal she deserved and everytime I see her beautiful face I want to ask her to marry me. And then I realize, I got married and missed my chance seven, eight, ...etc years ago.

I can never show my wife just how much she means to me. Because, I screwed up our dating life and when we met. I screwed up our marriage and, I'm sick of the fighting I just want to say "Will you marry me?" And have us be in love again.

Is that normal?

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I'd have to find a wife first, every woman that I have either loved or approached loving is married now. I still question some of those missed opportunities sometimes.

That being said, looking at the situation objectively, it doesn't make sense to me why you can't show your wife just how much she means to you. She's still there, after all. It'll take a different form than your old proposal (which worked, BTW), but I don't know why it wouldn't be possible.

Kind of out of habit, but sometimes I do want to ask my wife to marry me because I used to say it so much as conversation filler when we weren't married.

Old habits are hard to break, I guess.