Looking for some prayers over a big change in the works

Fenwick said:

Well, if anyone's interested I wasn't able to do it this weekend so I'll still be needing all your prayers in the near future, haha. The opportunities just never presented themselves so it's something I still have to do between now and March 19. She suggested it'd be better to speak to her dad/parents closer to the date anyway because of the language barrier, if I talk to them too early then they might get confused about when I do it. As for her kids it was the same issue, just not the opportunity. At first she wasn't sure I should talk to them just yet, but they it seems like over the weekend she changed her mind a bit, but that happened so late in the game I didn't have a chance to. So that's also still ahead.

On a funnier note, I almost blew the surprise last night at dinner. I was asking if I might be able to talk to her dad after we got back from the restaurant (he hadn't been feeling well yesterday which is why I didn't do it before)... that's when she said I should think about talking to them closer to the date and I said "Well I was going to tell them I'm doing it in March", she responds "...what?" and without thinking I just said "Yeah, in March" and then I realized I gave her the month. Luckily I didn't give her anymore details but man!

Now the trick is finding a chance to do this with limited time. I'm not going up there this weekend (if anything she's going to visit me here), which only leaves me maybe three more weekends to do it. Time is tight!

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Fenwick said:

It is exactly that: exciting and nerve wracking.

Her dad's from El Salvador and her mom's from Ecuador, they immigrated here in the late 70s and they speak almost zero English. I think they'll understand what I say if I keep it short and sweet, but I can't leave too much room for speculation. Yeah they seem to like me though, so hopefully that works in my favor.

Her kids seem to like me, her son is quiet but her daughter is initiating more conversation with me. I really get a kick out of her. I'm hoping her son warms up to me more but I don't want to push it either. He's a really good kid and I hope I get to be friends with him. Both of them, really.

I think I'll talk to them separately just cause I think the content of what I need to say will be much different between her dad/parents and her kids. She also suggested talking to the kids individually since I'd probably get more of a response out of them compared to if they were together.

With her dad I just want to be straightforward, "Sir I want to marry your daughter and I'd like your blessing." With her kids I want them to know I'm not trying to replace their dad, I'd like to be friends with them if they want, or whatever they need me to be for them. Hopefully they'll understand that their blessing is important to me, but I'm not necessarily asking their permission either (them or her dad's).

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Fenwick said:

I think I'll do this without her present just because with her parents it'll be a short conversation anyway, and she thought it'd be better if I spoke with her kids alone because if she's there they might not speak their minds—which I want them to feel free to do. If she's there they might say what they think she wants to hear. If they have questions, concerns, or skepticism of any kind I hope they feel free to express it and dialogue with me a bit. If I can, I'd like to help them understand the situation better (if needed).



Thank you! I pray the same, I really hope that's how it turns out. I'm kind of bracing myself for the chance that it won't go smoothly, at least with her kids, but I hope and pray that it does.



I'll do it at their house, I think that would be better because they wouldn't feel quite as put on the spot and it would be the comfort and security of "their turf", especially for the kids.



Ha! Believe me, so is mine. I think I'm overplanning, focusing on too many details, and what's may be why I almost spilled the beans over dinner last night lol.



Thank you so much Michie, that means a lot!

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Fenwick said:

Thanks for saying that Michie, I feel the same way. It's impossible to ignore the way things have aligned over the past 7-8 months. From the most unlikely connection in the very beginning to the confirmations we've had over time to the job, all of it.

Your encouragement means a lot, thank you!

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