- Oct 13, 2020
- 41
- 34
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Lutheran
- Marital Status
- Married
Title says the question. We rushed into marriage after college. We didn’t give our relationship time to mature while dating. I didn’t know who she truly was. We’ve been married for about 8 months. She is miserable because I don’t love her like I did when we were dating. The truth is, I don’t. I love her like a close friends but truthfully I am completely romantically disenchanted. I want to love her and give her affection to make her feel loved but truthfully I find it so hard. I find her cute but not attractive which makes any form of physical Intimacy hard when you feel like you’re kissing, hugging, having sex with your best friend. I believed her to be a Christian when we first married but her actions and word have me questioning daily the truth of that. This has been a huge factor in my falling out of love. A lot of it has to do with her behavior as she has bipolar like mood swings what seems like daily. The truth is, I’m not here to rant. I truly want rekindle my love for her. I want to touch her again and not cringe or be able to look deeply and lovingly in her eyes without feeling uncomfortable. Above all though, I want to love my wife to please my Father I’m heaven and to love her like Christ loves his church. I pray and pray daily that God would aid us but to avail though I trust He is always at work. I want no pity but real ways that I can rekindle my love for my wife or if that is impossible to be able to love my wife and make her feel loved selflessly?