- Aug 4, 2020
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One of our adult daughters (in her 30's) is currently living with my husband and I for a few weeks before moving out of state to start work elsewhere. She is currently in between jobs, but does have a new situation lined up out of state and she is financially independent.
Hubby and I are Christians, and our daughter, sadly, wants nothing to do with God. Daughter is moody. Think "16 year old moody" in a 30 something body. She barely wants to talk with us, and only says the minimum to be "polite". There is an edge to her voice and tension in the air ... though there is no particular topic going on that we are discussing. She is also upset with us because we are of the opposite political party from her, though we make it a point to never talk about politics with her.
I find myself getting hurt when she pushes us away ... we can all go on a walk together but she will put in headphones, walk ahead of us, and not say one word to us. I can take her in the car to run an errand and she will say the bare minimum of polite words, and pop in those headphones again.
I learned awhile ago that the one of the best things I can do is not give her any advice on any subject unless she specifically asks for it. She is an adult and can easily make her own decisions.
In Corinthians it says that "love keeps no record of wrongs". I find myself dwelling on how her actions and moodiness hurt me, then I start to feel sorry for myself, poor me and "she is not showing us any respect as people" and I go down an emotional path that does not strike me as being too mature or loving. The more she shuts us out, the higher the wall I build around me is.
I really don't know what the right way to feel or act towards her is. If she were not my daughter, I probably would have ended the relationship years ago, because I would not want to put up with being "treated like crap". But she is my daughter and I love her, I'd like the relationship to grow and heal.
I'm not sure what the most loving way to react to her would be? I'm too busy nursing my own so called "hurt" of her treating us poorly and without respect, to lift my head out of this self-pity fog. I ponder that there have been many times in my life when I wanted nothing to do with God, and he still pursued me with love.
Hubby and I are Christians, and our daughter, sadly, wants nothing to do with God. Daughter is moody. Think "16 year old moody" in a 30 something body. She barely wants to talk with us, and only says the minimum to be "polite". There is an edge to her voice and tension in the air ... though there is no particular topic going on that we are discussing. She is also upset with us because we are of the opposite political party from her, though we make it a point to never talk about politics with her.
I find myself getting hurt when she pushes us away ... we can all go on a walk together but she will put in headphones, walk ahead of us, and not say one word to us. I can take her in the car to run an errand and she will say the bare minimum of polite words, and pop in those headphones again.
I learned awhile ago that the one of the best things I can do is not give her any advice on any subject unless she specifically asks for it. She is an adult and can easily make her own decisions.
In Corinthians it says that "love keeps no record of wrongs". I find myself dwelling on how her actions and moodiness hurt me, then I start to feel sorry for myself, poor me and "she is not showing us any respect as people" and I go down an emotional path that does not strike me as being too mature or loving. The more she shuts us out, the higher the wall I build around me is.
I really don't know what the right way to feel or act towards her is. If she were not my daughter, I probably would have ended the relationship years ago, because I would not want to put up with being "treated like crap". But she is my daughter and I love her, I'd like the relationship to grow and heal.
I'm not sure what the most loving way to react to her would be? I'm too busy nursing my own so called "hurt" of her treating us poorly and without respect, to lift my head out of this self-pity fog. I ponder that there have been many times in my life when I wanted nothing to do with God, and he still pursued me with love.