dzheremi
Coptic Orthodox non-Egyptian
- Aug 27, 2014
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- Oriental Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Private
According to the rules of my Church, we are not allowed to marry outside of it, so dating is a pretty strict no-no (and in Egypt they don't do western style dating anyway). This might make more sense if you consider that Egypt, where the vast majority of Coptic people live, is ~90% Muslim, and Islam and Christianity have very different ideas of what marriage is.
Outside of the MENA region, though, I have known several Coptic people who not only dated non-Christians, but married them. One older guy in the community where I used to live in Albquerque married a very nice Jewish woman. They can't commune anymore (marrying outside of the Church incurs automatic excommunication), but he still came to liturgy to receive the general absolution, blessing of the cross, etc., especially if HG Bishop Youssef was visiting us. Still, the Church is very clear on this, and the only exceptions are by specific agreement with other churches that have generally limited applicability outside of wherever they were signed (e.g., mixed Coptic-Greek couples in the Patriarchal territory of Alexandria).
So I voted 'other', since I don't live in Egypt so there isn't the same societal pressure or danger that finding a partner outside of the religion means converting to another religion, but it still is the case that it's not really allowed in the sense that it might be in other churches. Probably nobody can actually stop you (and they might not even want to at first, if it doesn't seem like it's advanced enough to hear wedding bells; they'd be much more likely to encourage you to bring her/him to church), but there's an expectation that you should know better, and if you don't they're more than happy to tell you all the reasons for this kind of restriction.
But the Copts are famously strict about this sort of thing. Basically any time I went anywhere outside of my home church people would eventually ask me "Who are you married/engaged to?", because that's the stereotype of how white people end up in the Church. Hahaha.
Outside of the MENA region, though, I have known several Coptic people who not only dated non-Christians, but married them. One older guy in the community where I used to live in Albquerque married a very nice Jewish woman. They can't commune anymore (marrying outside of the Church incurs automatic excommunication), but he still came to liturgy to receive the general absolution, blessing of the cross, etc., especially if HG Bishop Youssef was visiting us. Still, the Church is very clear on this, and the only exceptions are by specific agreement with other churches that have generally limited applicability outside of wherever they were signed (e.g., mixed Coptic-Greek couples in the Patriarchal territory of Alexandria).
So I voted 'other', since I don't live in Egypt so there isn't the same societal pressure or danger that finding a partner outside of the religion means converting to another religion, but it still is the case that it's not really allowed in the sense that it might be in other churches. Probably nobody can actually stop you (and they might not even want to at first, if it doesn't seem like it's advanced enough to hear wedding bells; they'd be much more likely to encourage you to bring her/him to church), but there's an expectation that you should know better, and if you don't they're more than happy to tell you all the reasons for this kind of restriction.
But the Copts are famously strict about this sort of thing. Basically any time I went anywhere outside of my home church people would eventually ask me "Who are you married/engaged to?", because that's the stereotype of how white people end up in the Church. Hahaha.
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