People who use God as a reason to show they aren't interested

ChicanaRose said:

Yes, and the above-mentioned people usually try to push others (like me) into doing the same, saying, "You should talk to him," "let him know you are interested," etc. The flesh lacks respect for both self and others. I felt rushed and pressured, which are things I should not feel from a friend.

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The Holy Spirit always discusses my prospects and He has mentioned Christian acquaintances in my quiet time over the years for prayer.

But He has yet to tell me a specific person is His choice. On one occasion He addressed someone’s qualities and enabled me to see him through His eyes. And I regret the positive things I shared and openness it inspired within me. I should have remained silent.

I think there are well-meaning people. But you must entrust your heart to the Lord. He knows the person best suited for you and I.

ReesePiece23 said:

, if I see these signs, then I know I'm IN. If not, then I do not pursue under any circumstances.

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You never see these signs and you're always slithering up to women who you're convinced like you when they are actually terrified of you.

You seem to assume that the small giggle they're continuously using is a sign of attraction, when it is in fact, a sign of horror. And the hair twizzle is not what you think it is either so drop it.

Ha ha, but no, joking aside, enjoy your life and enjoy your journey with God - they are the only things that actually matter.

Elliewaves said:

Sometimes even if a woman is direct and says there is no chemistry or they are not attracted to a man, the guy still thinks it's an excuse or they think it's unclear what she really means. And a woman can give that look if she truly feels that way. Maybe a guy's approach is weird and he takes everything the wrong way. If you are rejected even as an easy let down the message is still clear- she's not interested, move on.

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Sometimes men won't accept that you are not interested. A few weeks ago this was my side of the conversation.

I said 'I'm not interested
'Yes, definitely
'My life is too busy and I'm not interested in anyone at all'
'Even if I met someone who was everything I find attractive I'm still not interested
'No I don't want to try going for a cup of coffee to see if I feel anything'
'Thank you, I'm flattered that you think that but I'm sure that I won't change my mind'
'No, I don't want to have your phone number, I have enough friends who I already don't have time to contact'

They are all true.

Sam91 said:

Sometimes men won't accept that you are not interested. A few weeks ago this was my side of the conversation. '

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You were very polite. He sounds desperate. Bleh.

LaBèlla said:

You were very polite. He sounds desperate. Bleh.

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Yeah He admitted near the end of having liked me for a while because he thinks I'm kind and attractive. I was nice to him at a bus stop last year and he has asked me out before about 6 months ago. Only that time I didn't think he liked me in that way but said no anyway. Hopefully he won't again.

Sam91 said:

Yeah He admitted near the end of having liked me for a while because he thinks I'm kind and attractive. I was nice to him at a bus stop last year and he has asked me out before about 6 months ago. Only that time I didn't think he liked me in that way but said no anyway. Hopefully he won't again.

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It would be better for him to find someone who reciprocates. Hopefully he does.

It is uncomfortable to be on the receiving end of unwanted advances. Especially when you’ve made yourself clear. I don’t know if some men believe we’re playing hard to get. But that approach rarely works.