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My family member ( we are so close) and I were having a nice time watching television together but he kept on cursing and using the f word. I was extremely upset and bothered so I told him to ssh already. I was so fed up, as a Christian I do not accept cursing. Well he flipped out on me and kept yelling and cursing at me not to ssh him ever again that that was disrespectful and I have to apologize. I did feel bad for saying ssh , I always handle his cursing in a loving caring way but I’m just so done so I said that. I’m just so fed up and hurt because I don’t understand why he has to be like this. Some days he says he doesn’t wanna curse because it’s a sin and other days he says he couldn’t care less. He has extreme anger problems and yells at me often. But he is also so loving and kind to me , I’m just hurt and broken. I love him so much and this pains me. Please pray
 

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My family member ( we are so close) and I were having a nice time watching television together but he kept on cursing and using the f word. I was extremely upset and bothered so I told him to ssh already. I was so fed up, as a Christian I do not accept cursing. Well he flipped out on me and kept yelling and cursing at me not to ssh him ever again that that was disrespectful and I have to apologize. I did feel bad for saying ssh , I always handle his cursing in a loving caring way but I’m just so done so I said that. I’m just so fed up and hurt because I don’t understand why he has to be like this. Some days he says he doesn’t wanna curse because it’s a sin and other days he says he couldn’t care less. He has extreme anger problems and yells at me often. But he is also so loving and kind to me , I’m just hurt and broken. I love him so much and this pains me. Please pray

Angry people are unpredictable. You must bear that in mind when you deal with him. You can't foretell what will set him off. It's like walking on eggshells. I understand you're close but the Lord has to change his heart. I would pray and leave it at that. Unless you're willing to bear his tirades. I wouldn't.

I would encourage you to step out of the room when it happens. Its negative and unhealthy and damaging to your psyche. No one deserves that.
 
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I did feel bad for saying ssh , I always handle his cursing in a loving caring way but I’m just so done so I said that.

Walking away can make a huge statement (I have a brother with outrageous anger issues..

We are put together in such away that if we continue to be pushed we get down right angry. IMO that's because there are cases when kindness simply is not going to work and we deal with that with an actual reflex of hopefully controlled anger, because it's necessary to get their attention, and it sounds like you did just that..

"Be angry but sin not"...you sinned not. :)
 
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Lord bless Annalafrenchy7, and this prayer. Let Annalafrenchy7's family member change and have good characters, bless their relationship, let both have respect, love and understanding for one another, please bless. In Jesus gracious name, Amen!
 
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Thank you all for your kind words and advice. He texted me and told me he was so sorry for what the way he reacted .
I'm glad to hear he apologized. And I agree with what was stated above, he shouldn't have yelled at you like that.

If someone is easily upset, they may have a spirit of anger. I believe it would help to pray for that source of anger to depart, and to ask God's Holy Spirit to soften their heart. Seeking to show love and honor to them (especially if they're family), in spite of their anger, will also help I'm sure. God always blesses obedience.

1 Peter 2:17 NIV - "Show proper respect to everyone . . ."
1 Peter 3:9 NIV - "Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing."
Romans 12:21 NIV - "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

Hope that offers some encouragement. =)
 
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