Starting to hate my parentd

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

vinsight4u said:
Can your bf give you an incentive to save your money?
Buys you a special gift, takes you to a fancy dinner? I used to treat myself as I reached various goals, not just on money, but other type of things too.

I dont treat myself ever. That's the crazy part..,I save..or try to...and then my parents need help.

Plus I'm in an LDR...

I have no issue with saving.

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

I'm reallythinking about just living in my car...I dislike them that much.

vinsight4u · Jan 6, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
I dont treat myself ever. That's the crazy part..,I save..or try to...and then my parents need help.

Plus I'm in an LDR...

I have no issue with saving.

Took me a moment to figure out what LDR means. long-distance relationship? You might try treating yourself as you reach goals. Set just some small ones to get you started. The treats don't have to require money. You just say, that when I get those new books I need, then I will go sit by the lake and just have some peace and quiet time.
Then go relax, and celebrate that you reached a goal.

vinsight4u · Jan 6, 2018

Instead of waiting for when your bills are due, can you pay them as you have the money? Make that insurance payment as early as the company will let you. This would then not leave the cash available for your mom to find a use for their house or such. You would have already spent it on your bills first.

vinsight4u · Jan 6, 2018

So now my situation is, the insurance for our cars is going to lapse, my mom wanted me to give her half of 300 to keep her car on the insurance while mines sits... She tells me I can drive her car but the issue is she gets off work too late for me to make it to my first job and my boss doesnt want to here any more late excuses.

Now i just got money depoaited in my account...so I have abt 200 to work with...I could easily get my own insutance now...
But my mom wouldnt have a car to get back and forth to work with,
...
Like when I had to choose helping my mom with rent over getting a car...and my dad who doesnt contribute making me feel guilty for gwtting my own car ...even though he would purposely make me late for work when he had to take me because he didnt feel like taking me.

Idk I feel trapped financially. My insurance lapses Tommorow.
...

===============This is from your post on 12-22-17.

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

vinsight4u said:
So now my situation is, the insurance for our cars is going to lapse, my mom wanted me to give her half of 300 to keep her car on the insurance while mines sits... She tells me I can drive her car but the issue is she gets off work too late for me to make it to my first job and my boss doesnt want to here any more late excuses.

Now i just got money depoaited in my account...so I have abt 200 to work with...I could easily get my own insutance now...
But my mom wouldnt have a car to get back and forth to work with,
...
Like when I had to choose helping my mom with rent over getting a car...and my dad who doesnt contribute making me feel guilty for gwtting my own car ...even though he would purposely make me late for work when he had to take me because he didnt feel like taking me.

Idk I feel trapped financially. My insurance lapses Tommorow.
...

===============This is from your post on 12-22-17.

Nope that 200 still wasn't enough the insurance I wanted to go with requires 221 down..not only that but I had to pay on bill,give my mom gas money so that 20p slowly evaporated,

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

vinsight4u said:
Instead of waiting for when your bills are due, can you pay them as you have the money? Make that insurance payment as early as the company will let you. This would then not leave the cash available for your mom to find a use for their house or such. You would have already spent it on your bills first.

I think I'm just gonna luve out of my car and just get away from my mom and dad theyre being difficult.

vinsight4u · Jan 6, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
Nope that 200 still wasn't enough the insurance I wanted to go with requires 221 down..not only that but I had to pay on bill,give my mom gas money so that 20p slowly evaporated,

Are you telling us that you are in a situation where you have a newly purchased car/paid off though, but have yet to get insurance ever for it?
How did you have a refund from school? Did you pay and then not go? Last year, you did not attend college? Did you take it on the net?

StillGods · Jan 6, 2018

Leave and let them figure out their own finances. They are adults, before you had money they raised you found money etc themselves - they are not as helpless as you think they are. They are adults who are big enough to look after themselves. It will be hard but move out and leave them. It's the only way. You may not want to hear that but its reality. They are not going to change so you have to.

mina · Jan 6, 2018

They have set up a pattern of behavior with you. Unless they have a moment of conviction and rrepentance they will not change . Tell them how you feel and make plans to get out from under their roof.

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

vinsight4u said:
Are you telling us that you are in a situation where you have a newly purchased car/paid off though, but have yet to get insurance ever for it?
How did you have a refund from school? Did you pay and then not go? Last year, you did not attend college? Did you take it on the net?

No my car is old its a 2003.

Ill tell more after work

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

StillGods said:
Leave and let them figure out their own finances. They are adults, before you had money they raised you found money etc themselves - they are not as helpless as you think they are. They are adults who are big enough to look after themselves. It will be hard but move out and leave them. It's the only way. You may not want to hear that but its reality. They are not going to change so you have to.

It wont be hard...I'm thinking of trailer living...

Bible Highlighter · Jan 6, 2018

#1. You need to forgive your parents (even if they are in the wrong).
#2. You need to do good in return unto them (within reason). But never return evil for evil.
#3. You need to get out of their house ASAP (but I would not live in your car).
Try finding a room mate or find a room for rent in a loving home.
#4. Change banks and get a PO Box as a forwarding address.
#5. Do not let your parents know where your new address will be.
#6. You can send them money every once in a while (with your PO box as your return address) but only give money to them when you have it.
#7. Get yourself established so as to love God and love others. It is not good that you hate your parents no matter how bad they may be towards you.
#8. Pray for your parents and that they may come to know Jesus for real.

Bible Highlighter · Jan 6, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
It wont be hard...I'm thinking of trailer living...

There are actually nice trailer communities. I lived in one for about a year. It was really nice. It was like a park. Granted, it was more for older people but I got into the place (even though I was younger) because I took over my step grandmother's place (and they allowed a super small percentage of younger adults to live there). All the trailers there looked like houses and it was really pretty there. Lot's of squirrels and it was near a golf course. Real quite, too. I loved it there.

I will pray for you to find something nice like that or close to it.

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joshua 1 9 · Jan 6, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
My mom is giving onky until next week to get the insurance for my car...

Only thingbis I can never get my savings over 300 before I have to clean it out ...

Thing is... I had my insurance money months before but I had to keep freaking helping her to the point of cleaning out both accounts(when I had 2 jobs -2 different cards)

And what I gave still ridnt help...I could have gotten th3 insurance then.

I swear I feel like quit5ing and just being a burden on her because ev3rytime I try to be independent sh3 just messes it up for me or holds me back som3 how.

I hate my parents so much..

I want yo move but I cant because my stupid brother went back on his word and wants to be alone.

2018 is starting off crappy.

You need to learn how to hide your money and not let people know what you have. Just complain about having to pay for this and that and you do not seem to have anything left over. If people know you have money they are gonna try to get it. I know people that are millionaires that act like they are penniless and can not find two nickles to rub together. They claim they are so poor they can not even pay attention.

Sola1517 · Jan 6, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
My mom is giving onky until next week to get the insurance for my car...

Only thingbis I can never get my savings over 300 before I have to clean it out ...

Thing is... I had my insurance money months before but I had to keep freaking helping her to the point of cleaning out both accounts(when I had 2 jobs -2 different cards)

And what I gave still ridnt help...I could have gotten th3 insurance then.

I swear I feel like quit5ing and just being a burden on her because ev3rytime I try to be independent sh3 just messes it up for me or holds me back som3 how.

I hate my parents so much..

I want yo move but I cant because my stupid brother went back on his word and wants to be alone.

2018 is starting off crappy.

You've got my prayers.

As a 23 year old without a college degree I know the struggle is real.

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

joshua 1 9 said:
You need to learn how to hide your money and not let people know what you have. Just complain about having to pay for this and that and you do not seem to have anything left over. If people know you have money they are gonna try to get it. I know people that are millionaires that act like they are penniless and can not find two nickles to rub together. They claim they are so poor they can not even pay attention.

Yeah ill try

Sola1517 said:
You've got my prayers.

As a 23 year old without a college degree I know the struggle is real.

Thank you...its even more real when your parents just keep kicking you while youre down.

I'm trying so hard not to hate them I really am.

I been off work for an hour and ive been calling them and they arent picking up. Trying to lyft myself home and it keeps freezing on me...

Sola1517 · Jan 6, 2018

Far Side Of the Moon said:
I been off work for an hour and ive been calling them and they arent picking up. Trying to lyft myself home and it keeps freezing on me...

Are you outside? Cause I'm pretty sure it's cold no matter where you live in the States.

Far Side Of the Moon · Jan 6, 2018

I'm thinking about section 8 housing...

Will this hurt my credit score?

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