Is it a sin to admire and longingly look at and check out (for a man) a woman's beauty if...

Servant68 said:

If the woman and her husband have now banned you from their place of business, which is apparently a road side fruit stand, then you have not only exceeded all standards of decency among normal people, but went straight for the status of "potential serial killer" in your level of creepiness. Congratulations.

My job is to interact with hundreds of people at my place of business while assessing them for being either potential threats or sources of information. Meaning I have to walk a fine line between being friendly and being suspicious of everyone. Whenever a female I come in contact with changes their hairstyle or gets a haircut, I make a verbal note of it in a way that conveys a positive message that makes the woman feel good about themselves without the impression that I would like to wear them as a skin suit.

Earlier this week I noticed an attractive married woman had gone to a shorter, edgier hair style and colored it darker. That could mean she is feeling unappreciated at home and wanted a bolder, sexier style. Or it could mean that her relationship with her husband was recently strengthened and the more confident cut was an indication that she was becoming more secure in her relationship. My comment to her was; "Shelby, I love your new hair style. That color really accentuates your green eyes. Good job!" All the while smiling and then giving her a thumbs up.

She blushed, smiled, and thanked me. She felt good about her appearance and didn't think I was hitting on her. Her self-confidence was boosted and if her husband was within earshot, he would not have gotten the impression that I was lusting after his wife, which I wasn't.

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Who said anything about banning or roadside stand? Your imagination is running gingerly away with you. LOL! About your unsolicited communication with that man's wife,
well, had it been my wife you said that too I would have instantly suspected you were furiously trying to get past me by putting on an act. The woman I complimented was just fine with my comment, smiled, said thank you we got along just fine. You see, it was her ridiculously insecure hubby of who took umbrage and put her under nagging pressure to try to look morose-something she never quite accomplished.

Actually, my compliment wasn't meant nor delivered as a come-on as you suggest. In fact, it was delivered with no tell-tale, suspicious, exaggerated self-consciously nervous pantomimes as yours was. Why, with all that histrionic display, any husband worth his salt would suspect that you were desperately striving might and main to throw up a smokescreen as camouflage in order to slyly and cunningly get your eager foot in the door.

So he either didn't hear or see you, or if he did, he probably evaluated your chances with his wife to be ZILCH based on maybe your physical appearance or age. Maybe heard his wife say that she considered you a father figure. Or maybe you don't physically look like a temptation threat even by a long shot. Please note that each husband knows his wife's weaknesses and preferences in age and appearance. So you very likely it wasn't your histrionic delivery that put him at ease but the assuring fact that you simply didn't fit the bill or you simply aren't worth getting all riled up about instead.. To me that seems far more likely than your claimed effectiveness of histrionic thumbs up graced by meticulously practiced, supposedly non-malicious, Alfred E Newman smile. : )

Neogaia777 said:

Do like the amoebas? What do you mean? Could you please explain, please? I'm afraid I don't know much about amoebas?

God Bless!

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They are microscopic, one celled animalcules who procreate asexually via nuclear fission. In short, they split in half and each half becomes a complete individual..

REPRODUCTION:
Binary Fission in amoeba:
Most single celled organisms use the method of binary fission for cell division and reproduction. These include paramoecium, bacterium, and finally amoeba. In this paragraph we will be focusing on amoeba’s cell division which is also its method of reproduction. In binary fission the amoeba consists of one parent which forms the 2 daughter cells. First, the amoeba cell undergoes nuclear division and replicates into two nuclei. The two nuclei divide and move to opposite directions in the parent cell. The cell then produces protiens and nutrients in preperation for binary fission. In the stage of binary fission, the cell divides and forms 2 daughter cells. This process generally occurs when environmental conditions are most favourable. That is, when there is enough food, water, and a favourable temperature.
https://mohtadialkhaliq.wordpress.com/2011/02/05/binary-fission-the-amoeba/

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This thread is hilarious...

You have any idea how many "good Christian" ladies, when talking with a guy they like, glance slightly "below the belt"? Acting all high and mighty...

Please...it's human nature and instict to look at each other.

Looking at a hot guy or woman and processing in one's mind that he/she is ''hot,'' seems to be simply biological. I think when we take that thought and attach sexual ideas to it, it has the potential to become lusting and ''sinful.'' But, I'm of the opinion that as humans, ''checking people out'' is rather harmless if we are just reacting to someone's beauty or good looks.

Noticing another person and being attracted? That seems pretty biological and ordinary. But looking longingly? I'd say that crosses a line. If I'm downright staring at a woman, there's no way lust isn't involved--more importantly it crosses a line toward objectification of another person. Speaking as a Christian I believe that is absolutely wrong, we are to regard our neighbor with love as fellow human beings created in God's image--when you objectify someone you deny their intrinsic and innate humanity and self-worth.

-CryptoLutheran

I prefer my women in a Burkini... so sexy!

GQ Chris said:

I prefer my women in a Burkini... so sexy!

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So a trip to France might be wasted for you (or at least to certain places where they still seem to be upholding the ban).

ViaCrucis said:

Noticing another person and being attracted? That seems pretty biological and ordinary. But looking longingly? I'd say that crosses a line. If I'm downright staring at a woman, there's no way lust isn't involved--more importantly it crosses a line toward objectification of another person. Speaking as a Christian I believe that is absolutely wrong, we are to regard our neighbor with love as fellow human beings created in God's image--when you objectify someone you deny their intrinsic and innate humanity and self-worth.

-CryptoLutheran

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If looking at one's stark naked wife longingly when we are about to engage in

congress is to objectify her and to cross a very thin line and deny her intrinsic luscious worth,

then we married men are all terminally, permanently, spiritually screwed and might as well

commit ceremonial seppuku and spare the Lawd God the trouble of smearing us off the face

of his sacred virginal Earth.

GQ Chris said:

I prefer my women in a Burkini... so sexy!

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Actually, if you live in the Middle East, long enough, Burqas will actually begin to look very nice especially when the wind is strong (not that I look!)

Some of the Burqas I examined, well, they look expensive and some are made of stretchable material that's why it can reveal a woman's features when the wind is strong! It's crazy what goes in their heads, well, they're finding loopholes!

Burqa
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burqa

I really don't see the attraction.

Radrook said:

Burqa
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burqa

I really don't see the attraction.

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It's not the same in real life. Especially in the richer Middle East states, some of them are actually stylish and some shows the eyes so women can show off their mascaras, eye shadows and eyeliners! Some of the (more expensive) burqas will subtly reveal a woman's figure. So them Arab women actually work out in the gym or in their homes!

Ironically, such kind of burqas can defeat the intended purpose of one.

timewerx said:

It's not the same in real life. Especially in the richer Middle East states, some of them are actually stylish and some shows the eyes so women can show off their mascaras, eye shadows and eyeliners! Some of the (more expensive) burqas will subtly reveal a woman's figure. So them Arab women actually work out in the gym or in their homes!

Ironically, such kind of burqas can defeat the intended purpose of one.

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True, there is a married Muslim woman who works as a receptionist at an outpatient clinic and her attire is one which provokes thoughts of having congress instead of discouraging such inclinations. In short, the male mind instinctively begins to disrobe her until she is divested of her supposedly anti sinful thought attire until she finally emerges as if from a cocoon stark naked in all her resplendent feminine glory..

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CodyFaith said:

-edited my post-

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So what is your post now saying since you edited it?

Radrook said:

So what is your post now saying since you edited it?

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It says -edited my post-...? :S

I posted something, and decided against it, 'cause although I might find it funny, others might not.

CodyFaith said:

It says -edited my post-...? :S

I posted something, and decided against it, 'cause although I might find it funny, others might not.

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Well, that is between you and your conscience. I personally don't consider God humorless. Look at the Platypus.

lol ^^

What's the joke?

ReesePiece23 said:

What's the joke?

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