Have you ever been cheated on?

Yes, I have. It wasn't really very much of a shock when I found out, as I guess you could say I had seen the relationship heading south beforehand. For me what hurt more than the cheating itself was the way I was treated afterward, as the bad guy, as if I was the problem (granted I was not perfect but I put in effort to not do that sort of thing myself). That did tarnish my view of women for a short time, but I think that's just normal, temporary bitterness that anyone might go through.

No... but it probably would have happened eventually if I hadn't ended it when I did.

Not that I'm aware of.

No, not that I'm aware of. I did date a girl who still had a thing for her ex though, even though he didn't live nearby and didn't want to be with her anymore. I wished she would have just told me, I really had to pry it out of her. She seemed like she was confused about her feelings herself. It did make me bitter for a little while because it felt like she had strung me along or mislead me intentionally, but I got over it.

Fortunately no… I couldn't imagine how that would feel.

Yes, twice by the same girl. First time she had already made plans to visit some family friends before we had started dating, didn't think much of it. She came home and broke up with me about a week later, almost immediately posting pictures of herself and the family's son together on Facebook. A month later we got back together, and after dating for maybe three weeks I caught her meeting up with a guy to go out dancing after she told me she was going home for the evening.

Oddly enough it didn't effect my overall impression of women, I just chalked it up to her plethora of personal and family issues. That being said, if I date a woman who exhibits any similarities to that girl, it immediately sparks all of my insecurities.

No, I wasn't cheated on really, but the person I was with, who claimed to love me and be with me, was on the side 'secretly' browsing dating sites looking for someone better. I was never anyone's first option...just the second choice of desperate girls who never really cared for me.

I have been, wasn't fun. Later found out that when she started seeing me she was still with her ex, so, that didn't feel too good either

yes, it happens and I just don't care.

Not yet!

I've been in both situations. where you're family is behind you and where you keep it secret. I just don't care. in the end I am wanting to know who brought it up first. famly is not so important to dicovery.

I've been in a relationship(Long distance) where the person left me for someone closer, but I believe her when she said nothing happened prior to that.

How did it make me feel? Well, when we first met she had gone through a lot of stuff and had lost her Grandfather and Grandmother recently. So I promised myself that I'd do everything I could to make her as happy as I could.

I felt like I'd failed her initially, but I suppose now I think about it, it really wasn't all down to me.

no. Haven't really been in one to be cheated on.

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Yeah, I have been, extremely frequently within the same relationship. It was pretty abusive, so I don't even know why I stayed in the relationship for so long. But I cared about her. The hardest part was how she started tearing me down and ripping me apart after I found out about the fifth or sixth time it happened (I lost count).
It did tarnish my view of girls, as I had seen it happen SO often with my friends as well, while they remained totally faithful, just like me.
However I've since had my faith restored in the opposite sex, so things are good now and I'm realizing that I'm in a much better place now that it's over.

HarborOrange said:

Yeah, I have been, extremely frequently within the same relationship. It was pretty abusive, so I don't even know why I stayed in the relationship for so long. But I cared about her. The hardest part was how she started tearing me down and ripping me apart after I found out about the fifth or sixth time it happened (I lost count). It did tarnish my view of girls, as I had seen it happen SO often with my friends as well, while they remained totally faithful, just like me. However I've since had my faith restored in the opposite sex, so things are good now and I'm realizing that I'm in a much better place now that it's over.

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Man I'm so sorry to hear about that, I'm glad things are looking up a bit though! It's funny how people who cheat get so defensive. I've seen it before, they're the hostile ones. It's weird...

Cogent said:

Man I'm so sorry to hear about that, I'm glad things are looking up a bit though! It's funny how people who cheat get so defensive. I've seen it before, they're the hostile ones. It's weird...

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Ah it's alright, I'm in a much better place now. I'm with a better girl and things are worlds better. So God definitely turned the situation around very rapidly.

It really is bizarre. I remember the last time it happened and I found out, I told her she needed to prove herself to me if we were going to make it work, then she said I was "using her." Bizarre stuff. She even started going after my family, which was pretty uncalled for.