Trying to be patient

sk8brdkd · Aug 11, 2013

I emailed a pastor on Thursday and just trying to be patient and hope that he responds.

About a week and a half ago, I emailed my old high school teacher as well at his school email address (i actually didn't expect him to email me back bc he won't be back in school til late august).

Anyways, I have a situation goin on and actually, it's been going on for about 2 years now, it's just gotten a little deeper these last few months.

Back in June, I had emailed 2 other pastors both whom just never responded to me and I emailed the 2 of them about 8 times in a month in a half, so, gave up on them. Which is why I decided to email a different pastor that I know and trust, so, now, am Trying to wait patiently to see if he emails me back.

I honestly only feel comfortable speaking about this situation w/ either this pastor or my high school teacher. I know I can trust their advice and I know they will do their best to steer me in the right direction. I've tried contacting this teacher over the last year and a half about this situation but, he's just so busy that he's never emailed or called me back. I KNOW it's not that he doesn't care bc i kno he does as he was my mentor for about 4 years n he really helped me out a ton and i would really like to speak to him about this situation as it's really really bothering me.

But, my patience is wearing thin waiting to hear back from 1 of these 2 people. Only bc I've been waiting for nearly 2 years to talk to someone about this.

I've been tempted to message this one guy on facebook who works at the school and ask him if there's any way to get a hold of this teacher but, i've been afraid to message him and ask him that bc i feel like i'd be interupting this teacher's summer vacation but, i can't get a hold of him any other way right now. Should I just message this other guy to see if he can get a hold of this teacher, or, should i just wait and try to keep emailing the teacher in Hopes that he'll respond to one of my emails?!? What should i do???

ThyLovingkindness · Aug 11, 2013

I have an idea. Do nothing!

Ash8676 · Aug 11, 2013

Lord, help this individual and give her guidance in her situation. Allow one of the people she e-mailed, to respond to her and help her with what is going on. Help them with wisdom, when they answer her and help her with her situation. I pray for this, in Jesus name, Amen.

You should tread lightly and give this to the Lord. Do not contact the person that knows the teacher, cause that will just make the teacher angry with you. I know that it is hard to have patience and have to wait, but in the end, waiting and having patience may give you just what you need.

food4thought · Aug 12, 2013

Hi Sk8;

I just prayed for you. Something struck me as I read your post... as Christians we need to surround ourselves with godly, trustworthy people. The fact that there was nobody in your immediate life whose wisdom you trusted enough to bring this problem to is in itself a big problem. You NEED people in your day to day life that you can share anything with... if you are not in a church fellowship, I strongly urge you to find one. If you are in a church, but don't trust anyone there with your life struggles, you need to examine your motives for not allowing any of them intimate access to your life, and maybe even find a different church if there just isn't anyone there you trust.

God bless;
Mike

PS: 2 year is a long time to wait... God wants us to trust Him above anyone else... maybe God wants to give you the wisdom you need Himself. Perhaps what I said above and this last little bit are the reasons God has made you wait so long. Hope this helps.

puppii · Aug 12, 2013

Ash8676 said:
Lord, help this individual and give her guidance in her situation. Allow one of the people she e-mailed, to respond to her and help her with what is going on. Help them with wisdom, when they answer her and help her with her situation. I pray for this, in Jesus name, Amen.

You should tread lightly and give this to the Lord. Do not contact the person that knows the teacher, cause that will just make the teacher angry with you. I know that it is hard to have patience and have to wait, but in the end, waiting and having patience may give you just what you need.

Agree

SplendidTree · Aug 12, 2013

Praying!

child630 · Aug 13, 2013

Father God, in Jesus name, lead her and guide her. Give her patience and peace.

christsoccer · Aug 13, 2013

sk8brdkd said:
I emailed a pastor on Thursday and just trying to be patient and hope that he responds.

About a week and a half ago, I emailed my old high school teacher as well at his school email address (i actually didn't expect him to email me back bc he won't be back in school til late august).

Anyways, I have a situation goin on and actually, it's been going on for about 2 years now, it's just gotten a little deeper these last few months.

Back in June, I had emailed 2 other pastors both whom just never responded to me and I emailed the 2 of them about 8 times in a month in a half, so, gave up on them. Which is why I decided to email a different pastor that I know and trust, so, now, am Trying to wait patiently to see if he emails me back.

I honestly only feel comfortable speaking about this situation w/ either this pastor or my high school teacher. I know I can trust their advice and I know they will do their best to steer me in the right direction. I've tried contacting this teacher over the last year and a half about this situation but, he's just so busy that he's never emailed or called me back. I KNOW it's not that he doesn't care bc i kno he does as he was my mentor for about 4 years n he really helped me out a ton and i would really like to speak to him about this situation as it's really really bothering me.

But, my patience is wearing thin waiting to hear back from 1 of these 2 people. Only bc I've been waiting for nearly 2 years to talk to someone about this.

I've been tempted to message this one guy on facebook who works at the school and ask him if there's any way to get a hold of this teacher but, i've been afraid to message him and ask him that bc i feel like i'd be interupting this teacher's summer vacation but, i can't get a hold of him any other way right now. Should I just message this other guy to see if he can get a hold of this teacher, or, should i just wait and try to keep emailing the teacher in Hopes that he'll respond to one of my emails?!? What should i do???

Praying for your situation :crossrc:

LoricaLady · Aug 15, 2013

Since you asked for advice I will telll you frankly what I think. If the teacher is married, be grateful for the time when he was a mentor, but don't try to hang onto him. It would no longer seem appropriate and might give his wife the wrong idea about your motives, possibly. If I were a wife in that situation I would want my husband left to attending to young ladies only under professional circumstances, i.e. in schoo. No use causing conflict in a home.

If he is not married - ditto the pastor - and they are not responding then their silent answer is "Sorry, I'm too busy."

Praying that you will get good counsel one way or another.

child630 · Aug 15, 2013

Father God, in Jesus name, help her to have patience.

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OntheHorizon · Aug 18, 2013

Sk8

Maybe these people cant help you. I know that's hard but maybe you have to choose what you will do. Don't be afraid, you are good, strong, wise, capable... you may not have all the answers but you can choose your own path. You're an adult that teacher would probably just encourage you to make your own decision. Don't be afraid. You can do this. You can and eventually you must make your own path and step forward, assurance of success and all the answers is something no one has. You are capable, you can do it.

DiscipleHeLovesToo · Aug 18, 2013

sk8brdkd said:
...I know I can trust their advice and I know they will do their best to steer me in the right direction...

at some point in your life you need to put this level of trust in hearing from God directly - maybe that time is now and they are led by God to not respond so that you will seek His leading directly.

this should help:

Hearing From God | Moore Life Ministries - Branson, MO

sk8brdkd · Aug 19, 2013

DiscipleHeLovesToo said:
at some point in your life you need to put this level of trust in hearing from God directly - maybe that time is now and they are led by God to not respond so that you will seek His leading directly.

this should help:

Hearing From God | Moore Life Ministries - Branson, MO

I will check that link out, but, before I do, I just want to say that I have been seeking God's help on this issue for awhile now. I did attempt to seek advice from fellow friends but, I never felt "peace" about it--- and I chose not to follow their advice bc I didn't feel like it was good.

Awhile ago while praying, it almost seemed like God was telling me to talk to someone and I was like, well, who better to talk to then either one of these pastors or my high school teacher.

From praying, I really really don't kno how God is leading me other then to continue praying for this person, However, everything that has happened w/ this person over, i'll say the last year, is just too much. I need to talk to someone about it. I've let it go and let it go continuously but, now I need to step up in faith, reach out and say, I can't do this on my own. I need someone to step besides me and help me walk through it.

sk8brdkd · Aug 19, 2013

OntheHorizon said:
Sk8

Maybe these people cant help you. I know that's hard but maybe you have to choose what you will do. Don't be afraid, you are good, strong, wise, capable... you may not have all the answers but you can choose your own path. You're an adult that teacher would probably just encourage you to make your own decision. Don't be afraid. You can do this. You can and eventually you must make your own path and step forward, assurance of success and all the answers is something no one has. You are capable, you can do it.

I understand what you're saying and i'll say for 99% of the things, you are right. I can make my own decisions and what not but, for this situation, I cannot. I already tried the last 2 yrs to do it on my own, make my own decisions and everything, have been "down the fire pit" and back often and I feel like i'm going in circles.

I feel like I need to sit down w/ a pastor or this teacher and confess to them. I need to clear my conscience. This situation is eating me from the inside out esp more so now then before bc of what is going on in this other person's life.

Aren't we told in church that the christian life isn't easy and that we shouldn't walk it alone if there's something that we Can't get pass alone? I know I've heard that many times at church. That as Christians, we should walk w/ each other thru the good times and bad times. Well, for me, this is a hard time and just wanting to speak to a pastor I know about it or, like i said that teacher just to be able to release it all. I'm ready to listen to them, I'm ready to clear my conscience and receive some help/discernment from whomever.

I will continue to be patient but, this whole situation is Really starting to affect my health in a negative way.

OntheHorizon · Aug 19, 2013

Don't give in to guilt. I don't know what youre dealing with but guilt doesn't help. Friends and mentors are good, but sometimes they don't appear and does that halt your story? No. Just be prepared to move forward on your own because you may very well have to and don't ever be afraid because you'll do great if just keep trying.

I hope you find the help you need, I've needed it to but if they hadn't came I would have made it eventually

sk8brdkd · Aug 19, 2013

food4thought said:
Hi Sk8;

I just prayed for you. Something struck me as I read your post... as Christians we need to surround ourselves with godly, trustworthy people. The fact that there was nobody in your immediate life whose wisdom you trusted enough to bring this problem to is in itself a big problem. You NEED people in your day to day life that you can share anything with... if you are not in a church fellowship, I strongly urge you to find one. If you are in a church, but don't trust anyone there with your life struggles, you need to examine your motives for not allowing any of them intimate access to your life, and maybe even find a different church if there just isn't anyone there you trust.

God bless;
Mike

PS: 2 year is a long time to wait... God wants us to trust Him above anyone else... maybe God wants to give you the wisdom you need Himself. Perhaps what I said above and this last little bit are the reasons God has made you wait so long. Hope this helps.

You're right ---well, partly right. I actually have spoken to a few christian friends about this, but, being that they're on the same level as me, all they could tell me was pray about it. Well, I have been praying about it for months and months and so now, I'm seeking advice of someone older like these pastors who probably know a lot more about situations like this then my friends do.

Oh and I do have 2 friends that i can share anything w/, however, they aren't christians (i know what u meant but, just had to say).

I do attend church, not often, but, i do and at church, i'm friends w/ 2 guys whom one of them i started slowly opening up to about this situation. He was actually the very first one who suggested that I speak w/ a pastor about it and that's from not telling him much about it. He just thought it would be best and, honestly, i agree.

I'll be honest w/ you. I deeply struggle w/ trust. 1 non christian friend i have, I've known him for almost 6 yrs now. It wasn't until maybe 2 yrs ago that I started sharing stuff w/ him, deep/personal stuff and, his advice has helped a lot. Another friend, known him 2 yrs, but, it wasn't until last sept, that i started opening up to him --- i actually became closer friends w/ him faster then the other friend and usually when i'm struggling w/ something, i choose to tell this 2nd friend bc i fully trust him, but, yet again, no, he's not a christian, YET.

sk8brdkd · Aug 19, 2013

OntheHorizon said:
Don't give in to guilt. I don't know what youre dealing with but guilt doesn't help. Friends and mentors are good, but sometimes they don't appear and does that halt your story? No. Just be prepared to move forward on your own because you may very well have to and don't ever be afraid because you'll do great if just keep trying.

I hope you find the help you need, I've needed it to but if they hadn't came I would have made it eventually

i agree w/ you

Honestly, I'm surprised i've made it this far w/ what's going on. But, I stick to praying for this person in which the situation i'm in and although it's extremely difficult at times and i don't always make the wisest decisions, like u said, life is still moving forward.

I just feel a strong need inside of me to talk to someone about it. I've let bits n pieces of this situation out to diff people but, have never shared the entire thing. Most people I've shared this w/ have been btwn the ages of 24-28. I'm looking to share it w/ someone in their 40's+ bc they've been thru life a little more and probably know how to handle situations like this better then people who are in that age bracket as we're still learning life, or, that's how i feel anyways.

OntheHorizon · Aug 19, 2013

understandable

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