MJ Conflict: Relating to the Apostles/wrestling on when to Save or Sever Others

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Concerning this, I was noticing the extent of how often it seems many don't seem to think that Paul had it right on many points----and though I don't go as far as to support what can come off as "Paul Bashing", I think it can sometimes be appropriate to sometimes question what Paul and any other Apostolic figure/Biblical character since it does serve as opportunity for discussing the reality of what we all deal with...and that's flaws. Flaws in personality, as well as simple struggles and things (as it concerns personality differences) that can cause people to do as they do.

People can easily react to what others do/assume "THey just do that because they want to upset others..."---or they can read scripture where they see something and say, "Man, if I was there in their position, I'd do it differently!!!!"....but as the Word doesn't always give all the details behind every situation, what we often have is a mere snapshot of an event....and sometimes, that snapshot only shows actions rather than showing the real mindsets behind what occurred. In realizing this, IMHO, we can better have grace for things in the Word and better relate to characters.

In example, Acts 15-16 came to mind recently (in light of discusison elsewhere which brings up Paul and Barnabas)..as the Apostle Paul did not want to take John Mark on his missionary journey's because the man was "not profitable." Later at the end of Pauls ministry the Apostle said to bring John Mark saying he was "now" profitable.

Some say that Paul was correct for blasting Mark as he did in Acts--and assuming that Barnabas was the weaker of the two. However, with .Acts 15:35-37., there is a context which others may not see clearly. Prior to that, John Mark was Barnabas Cousin (Colossians 4:9-11/Colossians 4 ), whose mother often opened his home the apostles (Acts 12:11-13 / Acts 12 (). Later, he joined them (Acts 12:25 )... But later abandoned them halfway (Acts 13:12-14 /Acts 13 ). No reason is given for this.


THere are some Suggestions other scholars have brought up that make John Mark's situation seem to be more sympathetic rather than condeming him as a coward:

  • (1). He was homesickl

  • (2) he resented the change in leadership from Barnabas (his cousin) to Paul;

  • (3) he became ill (an illness that may've affected all of them---see Galatians 4:13);

  • (4) he was unable to withstand the rigors and dangers of the missionary journey;

  • (5) he may have planned to go only that far but had not communicated this to Paul and Barnabas.


Of course John Mark was REMEMBERED by Paul/criticisized. For taking him along would've possibly been a mistake if he hadn't of PROVED HIMSELF first---and this is something Paul seems to have learned a lesson from in choosing to lay hands too quickly on a person who hasn't proven themselves ( 1 Timothy 3:9-11 / 1 Timothy 3 ,1 Timothy 5:21-23/ 1 Timothy 5).

But nowhere in the text does it say WHY John Mark left...and reading into it something negative simply because Paul is often deemed to only be "positive"/above struggle himself may not be reasonable.



Moreover, TAKING NOTE of PAUL not taking John Mark as a sign of it being good seems to assume that it was COMMENDABLE. That can be an argument from silence that can be argued BOTH WAYS, especially seeing that Paul was Human and showed signs of MATURITY. Seeing the myriad of possibilities that John Mark may've left, it seems possible that Paul was in error for implicitly accusing John Mark of lacking courage and commitment.

Despite John's depature, Barnabas overlooked it/again suggested Mark. Though Paul disagreed, Barnabas took Mark with him in patience, and the young man repaid his investment---with Paul himself changing his mind about Mark (Colossians 4:9-11) & coming to later realize how vital Mark was to the growth of the early church ...even seeing him as a good friend/trusted leader (2 Timothy 4:10-12 / 2 Timothy 4, Philemon 1:24Philemon 1:23-25 / Philemon 1 ).

Could it not be possible that Paul, alongside the believers w ho said nothing, could've been wrong in spurrning John as a deserter? God was Sovereign in the entire ordeal/works even through conflict/disagreement, as the issue caused the two preachers to form two teams, opening up two missionary endeavors instead of one (Acts 15:39-40/Acts 15 ).


But it can be also be said that it perhaps BARNABAS who was the more commendable one in the story-----whose encouragement made all the difference, just as it did when Barnabas first came alongside Paul at a time when he was a newly born believer, and when none of the apostles would associate with him, fearing him and REMEMBERNG ALL OF HIS OLD FAULTS THAT HE REPENTED OF. Though underst andably reluctant to welcome him, only Barnabas proved willing to risk his life to meet with Paul and then convince the others that he was no longer a former enemy..and just as it was when Barnabas sought Paul to ministry with him in Antioch, too, and was an example of ministering with kindness/encouragement (Acts 11:22-24 / Acts 11 , Acts 9:27-15:39, 1 Corinthians 9:5-7/ 1 Corinthians 9, Galatians 2:1-3 Galatians 2.


If you were in the situation that Paul and Barnabas were in, what do you feel you would do with any possible scenarios that were in place with why John Mark left? Would you relate more so with Paul if you felt someone wasn'nt trustworthy? Even for those who DON'T like Paul, would you feel that you would have done differently if someone seemed to be inconsistent in ministry? Or would you do as Barnabas and stay? Things can differ depending on the person...and it gets even more crazy when considering the family dynamic--in light of how Barnabas was John Mark's cousin and its generally the case that many cultures often give positions to people based upon FAMILY relationships rather than CHARACTER alone....especially within Middle-Eastern contexts.
 
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Something else that I wanted to give, as it concerns considering personality bents making a difference in interpretation of actions...for some of the actions of Barnabas are not surprising. As one of my dear brothers in the Lord said best:








IBlue Letter Bible Defines Encouragement as the following:
Greek for G3870
παρακαλέω


Transliteration

parakaleō

Pronunciation

pä-rä-kä-le'-ō
(Key)

Part of Speech

verb


Root Word (Etymology)

from G3844 and G2564

TDNT Reference

5:773,778



Outline of Biblical Usage
1) to call to one's side, call for, summon
2) to address, speak to, (call to, call upon), which may be done in the way of exhortation, entreaty, comfort, instruction, etc.
a) to admonish, exhort
b) to beg, entreat, beseech
1) to strive to appease by entreaty
c) to console, to encourage and strengthen by consolation, to comfort
1) to receive consolation, be comforted
d) to encourage, strengthen
e) exhorting and comforting and encouraging
f) to instruct, teach


Here is a webster’s defintion:
1. to inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence. 2. to stimulate by guidance, approval, etc. 3. to promote; foster
Both of these definitions are very similar. In other words to encourage simply means to strengthen or comfort or to call to ones side, a helper. It is the same Greek word used as the name of the Holy Spirit “paraklētos”.



I believe encouragement to be one of the most underated leadership qualitites in all of Christandom. I think the gift goes seemingly ignored. I also believed it is a trait that leaders in the local assembly must pray for and cultivate if they are to lead God’s people God’s way.

One thing that I realized quite early in my Christian walk is that people can become discouraged quite easily. Christianity really is warfare. It is a race to be run and the crown of glory is our prize. We have a real adversary and demonic warfare is not some antiquated biblical truth. It is real, it is fierce and it can be devastating. Satan doesn’t play the game to knock you off the horse, he comes to destroy. Jesus tells Peter that “Satan has asked for you that he may sift you as wheat”. Other writers describe Him as a lion, so the devastation that he desires to bring is real and we are in imminent danger. So discouragement is lurking on the horizon for each of us.

Because of that we need to be encouraging the people of God daily and this takes vital relationships. Encouragement is investing in the life of others for their good, while simultaneously realizing that this may not be reciprocated. It is an emptying of ones self interest. The leadership today says “what have you done for me lately”. What you have done drives the relationship. Think about it. A Coach encourages, CEO’s encourage, Cheerleaders encourage, even close relatives and loved ones encourage. However, most of this encouragement can be for the benefit of themselves and not you. I believe biblical encouragement to be a total divestiture of self interest and a using of ones resources to invest in the betterment of others. There are three examples I want to pull from the life of Barnabas.

1. In Acts 4 we see Barnabas selling a parcel of land and laying it at the feet of the apostles. The apostles immediately (through some knowledge of the work of the Spirit) that Barnabas has the gift of encouragement and they even name him by this gift. Barnabas gets nothing in return and if you were to contrast Ananias and Sapphira with Barnabas you will see immediately a motive for fame and popularity for their donation.

2. The next time we see Barnabas he is bringing Paul into the “Church”. We know the story of Paul’s conversion, and we see him immediately wanting to be accepted by the disciples and wanting to share this story. However, the disciples think this dude is being slick. They figure that “he wants us to come out (don’t forget they go underground after Stephen’s death) so he can kill us”. So they say “no way”. This must have been the most discouraging thing ever for Paul. Just think about it. He has the miraculous encounter with the risen Savior, he goes blind and receives a prophecy, he is eager to share this (don’t forget what happens when those who endorsed his martyring ways found out that he has converted over to this false religion) with those whom he formerly persecuted and they say no.

Who comes along and risks his life to be an encouragement? Barnabas (Acts 9). Barnabas could have been wrong about this, however he risked his own life in order to not only encourage Paul but the whole church as we see that in verse 31
31 So the church throughout all Judea and Galilee and Samaria had peace and was being built up. And walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, it multiplied.
3. My third example shook me. It is found in Chapter 11 of Acts. This actually begins a shift of the Spirit to Paul and a decreasing of sorts for Barnabas. The persecuted Jewish Christians are going throughout the Roman empire and begin to take the Gospel throughout. The problem is that they are only proclaiming to Jews (vs 19) some of these brothers get a wild hair and begin to preach to the Gentile converts and “many turned to the Lord” (vs 21). Word gets back to Jerusalem and who do they send? Barnabas and the bible says “he exhorted (encouraged) them”. Barnabas could have stayed their and got his shine on; however he remembers this bold brother named Paul (who was a Jew by birth but a Roman Citizen and as we find out versed in Roman philosophy and rhetoric). He goes to search for Paul until he finds him, brings him back and then the bible says “THEY met with the church and taught a great many of people” (vs 26b).

From that point forward we begin to see a shift. Paul becomes the leader, to the gentiles and even says “I am the Apostle to the Gentiles”. Paul goes on to write 13-14 books of the New Testament, and it all started from one brother “encouraging” him, namely Barnabas. We later see them in a disagreement over John Mark, where Barnabas stays to encourage Mark and he goes on to write the first Gospel.

Barnabas is a mark of a biblical leader. We never see Barnabas write a book of the bible, we don’t see people arguing over him much in Academic circles, but the fruit of His encouragement is how the Gospel went westward and ultimately into the whole world and it started with a gift that is not mentioned enough in the local assembly. Encouragement takes a divestiture of self interest. It is coming along side of people and bringing them along side of you. It is a getting underneath and individual and propping him up and it a gift that we see consistently through the book of Acts “strengthening the church” (each time Barnabas is mentioned the church is strengthened or grows).

As leaders we are to covet such a trait. Paul says “don’t look out for you own interest” he also says “think of others more highly than yourself”. This is the mind of Christ. Christ displayed this gift without the limitation of sin. We see him encouraging the disciples for 3 years and then after His resurrection encouraging them some more. We see the Holy Spirit being called the “Comforter” or the “Encourager”. One of His functions in our lives is to encourage us. So to lead His sheep we are to encourage them and this takes, time, sacrifice, relationship and a commitment not to give up on others.


That really made me process back when he stated such....

When seeing Barnabas's example contrasted with Paul, I think that growing in encouraging others was something He had to struggle with and grow in.....and that doesn't mean that he is any less of a figure to listen to. What it does mean is that he was human.

Some say it's not possible that Paul could've matured. But Is it possible that the Paul of 2 Timothy 2:23-25/ 2 Timothy 2showed the same attitude towards the Galatians? If not, why not? If so, how so? Let’s say for argument sake that we are dealing with a different Paul, in terms of these two books lying at opposite ends of his writing career. If so, and I’m willing to grant this very reasonable line of thought, then isn’t the Paul in 2 Timothy (facing martyrdom) much more mature than the Paul of Galatians (at the very beginning of his writing ministry)? Certainly, there's evidence of this in other places, like his progressive humility in 1 Corinthians 15:7-9 /1 Corinthians 15to Ephesians 3:7-9 /Ephesians 3 ( 1 Timothy 1:14-161 Timothy 1 ) or else his separation with John Mark in Acts 15 and his request for John Mark’s assistance in 2 Timothy 4/2 Timothy 4:10-12? Is it possible that if he had it to do over again he might change his tone a bit toward the Galatians like he did toward John Mark? The argument of inspiration with the inclusion of the human side makes this a tough argument to think through, indeed. But it is certainly one worthy to consider.

In saying "Well, the Bible MARKS PEOPLE DOWN, so WHAT'S THE PROBLEM??", in Paul's examples when he gave letters to the churches, The only examples we have of folks whose names were brought up were all men who had issues of UNREPENTANCE. Notable examples would be folks such as Hymenaeus/ Philetus and Alexander ( 1 Timothy 1:19-20 (in Context) 1 Timothy 1 ,2 Timothy 2:19 ), alongside Alexander the Coppersmith and Demas ( II Timothy 4:9-16 )---with Demas being one of Paul's Co-Workers (Colossians 4:14, Philemon 1:24). All of these men were in a PRESENT STATE of SIN whenever they were named in examples to others.

And any others named by Paul were always named for their GOOD DEEDS/WORK IN THE LORD, whether Tychicus (Acts 20:4, Ephesians 6:21, Colossians 4:7, Titus 3:12), or numerous others he gave shout-outs to throughout his epistles (Romans 16:1 , 1 Corinthians 16:19 )

For anyone trying to trip about that--be it with saying that its either wrong to remember others or wrong to not forget/note them---does anyone here try to actively do differently in their everyday lives? I ask because in reading the text of scripture, I'm finding more and more how easy it would've been to relate to the apostles in what they did if seeing others who do the same today...or examining ourselves for where we already do so.
 
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