There is nothing wrong with reading books or taking in what others have to say, if so then they might as well not even come here (or go to church, or counsel, etc)! Just make sure its founded upon the Word and does not contradict God, if so then a well-worded, applicable, and practical message can be just as edifying.
I will also second the book by Josh Harris. There are actually TWO books by him, the first is I Kissed Dating Goodbye and the second is Boy Meets Girl. Both focus on having a healthy, God-centered relationship by means of courting as opposed to the clichéd dating. Get ready to meet her parents.
I think there is something good to be had from what everyone else has said (solid advice in general), but I would like to emphasize something I believe to be critical not only to this matter, but others as well:
There is an underlying issue of
personal conviction. For whatever reasons, there are a lot of issues God has not made black and white. I for one believe it leaves an avenue for building a stronger personal relationship and it reemphasized the uniqueness of us all yet maintaining the identity that we are made in His image.
As a Christian, your main concern is your relationship with God. God is first and foremost and should receive your all.
That is the bottom line. Everything you do should be crosschecked with the effects it would have between you and the Lord. Will it edify you (and anyone else that may be affected) or will it weaken the relationship? What messages can you send by what you do? These are the questions you should ask yourself. With that in mind, take a similar approach when it comes to the whole dating thing. What are your focuses and what goals or outcome do you desire? Youve said that you want it to be a Christian relationship and thats good you have a focus. Now analyze what things can go wrong and what walls could arise between YOU and GOD or anyone else and GOD. Remember, this relationship is
three-way: you, GOD, and her.
There are certain limits that will tell you what you want and what your goals are no matter what you say with your tongue because the heart never lies. If you become saturated in certain things and lose sight of God and a Bible-founded dogma you know you need to turn to a different path, reorganize your thoughts, pray and get yourself in-line with where you must be.
If you can be happy, convicted that God is pleased and that youre growing in your faith, you know you are straight.
That is all.