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Recent content by Teemu

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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    One of the most successful lies of the devil is that "being in love" or longing for it is somehow more noble than other feelings, not just a form of lust. Love is a decision, not a feeling. Eros (romantic love) is not even mentioned in New Testament, only agape is. Jesus took away the right to...
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    Dry dating and social life since saved -

    In internet dating women's adds containing just photo/age/location tend to attract lots of already married or already dating men and men looking for 20-40 years younger woman than they them self are. So I'd say the likelihood of finding serious relationship in that 200 contact pile is relatively...
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    Forgiveness after cheating?

    Yeah I'd say the attempt to try lay the blame on that ex is worrying, if he can't remember anything, then he can't really say the ex was more sober, considering that alcohol compromises men's "functionality" more, it could be even possible that he was the more sober side during the intercourse...
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    sick of Church, Politics and shady Doctrine

    "Talking to stars" sounds like idolatry.
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    Sin causes suffering. Suffering caused by obsession with emotion of "being in love" is not really different from obsession with lust or any emotion. Also people should stop summarizing "being in love" with term love, since I don't think the Bible ever uses word love to describe "being in love"...
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    A person who says the right things but does the wrong things is a hypocrite. But doing the right thing when you feel not like doing it, keeping doing the right thing until it feels right is part of renewing your mind. There is nothing authentic in feelings, but many Christians seem to confuse...
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    Maybe butterflies is not really a good term. But the more intense phase of being in love, infatuation, limerence, what ever the correct term, generally goes over in few years. If we look at history and even on present day, the variety of marriage arrangements and the view on love varies...
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    Sorry if it came out harsh, but I have given advice. Try to change your views of love and happiness, this is the only permanent fix, first with the Bible then with historical, sociological and scientific facts. All of them conflict with the modern romantic view of love. Both happiness and love...
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    So the "true love" towards this woman who showed you "true love" ended before the relationship and marriage with your present wife? How could it end if it was "true love", either before the relationship or during it? What will you do when you run out of "true love" towards your next wife?
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    Before 19th century, majority of Christian marriages were arranged marriages. Were they all unhappy? No. They were probably more happy in their marriages than people are in modern day in their marriages. There was no Hollywood and other neo-romantic crap feeding this myth that love is a feeling...
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    Help! I Am Not Attracted To And Do Not Really Love My Wife

    True love is defined in the Corinthians 1:13 it is not a feeling. The greatest reason for divorces nowadays is emotional materialism. Ecclesiastes 5:10 "Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income. This too is meaningless.". Just like this...
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    What to say to a non-believer

    Well, religious people give far more to charity too, and are generally much more happy, Arthur C. Brooks got nice statistics on them, so you could say that it helps both helping poor and dealing with poverty if it hits you.
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    What to say to a non-believer

    If parents have experienced that their Christianity has helped them greatly in their life then not teaching children Christianity makes as much sense as throwing the children in the pool and telling them to find their own swimming style. Rightly understood Christianity offers great solutions to...
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    Are Christian nations more peaceful?

    Past affects but it doesn't control the future. Despite of slavery there is less racism towards blacks in America than Europe. There had been shift towards modern racial antisemitism since Enlightenment and quite a few Catholic clergymen died in camps too, and many Christians risked their lives...
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    Are Christian nations more peaceful?

    Great job at defending Christianity by removing Christ from Christmas and Christmas carols etc... Whether we see Nazism or Communism as secular atheistic movements or as New Age religions that sprouted up due to widespread secularism/atheism to fill the hole really makes no difference at all in...
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