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    Why don't women ask me out?

    Hi to the topic starter, You asked why women don't approach you for a date. Without seeing you myself I can't be sure, but my guess is that since you don't want to take/feel incapable of taking the risk of asking a woman out yourself, you're also giving her the impression you're too scared of...
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    How to handle my husband.

    A few things have really coincided there, haven't they? Sorry to hear things are rough. Congratulations on the newborn, by the way! How to respond to your husband. Well, I think I'd say something like: - Ask how he feels about the assessment and the job hunting. Note: he may not feel the way...
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    Self-centeredness and Narcissism

    If it's any help, I was brought up by a person who I am certain has NPD. She will never acknowledge that she has it, because Ns never pay attention to what is wrong with themselves. But based on 30 years of observation, I swear she is. One of the main problems with an N is that they have flaws...
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    I need advice from dog lovers

    I'm sorry about your dog's accident. I've had dogs all my life - and when they get sick it is terrifying and depressing. It is up to you and the vet to discuss the dog's quality of life, but I can say that dogs don't have body image issues so there is a chance he won't particularly care about...
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    If you help someone get back on their feet

    Sounds like someone's tried to put themselves into a 'one-up' position with you after helping. Am I right? I agree with what you're saying: that it would be helpful if a person who likes that one-up territory were to be explicit about it first, so you knew what you were getting into. But you...
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    Hello all

    Hallo there, and welcome! Personally, I think age is not important. I'm sure I've got some sort of prejudice about it tucked in my brain somewhere - don't we all, about everything? - but none that I can identify. Hope you enjoy your time here!
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    not very important topic

    I can identify with the feeling of having more than one self. I think if more people recognised and accepted that they are complex enough entities to have conflicting desires, moods, levels of confidence and all kinds of other things then they'd find life a lot clearer to understand. I...
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    Stay At Home Mom - Is It My Job?

    I think you have a natural pattern of work hard > slack off a bit and let things get a bit messy > get stimulus to start working hard again > and the cycle goes arouhnd again. I think this is the natural you and not to worry about it. You work hard but you are also generous with yourself when...
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    How to get husband to open up

    A few tecniques for getting any person to talk: Mirroring - if the person says something that might be hinting at more to be said, mirror a word or phrase of what they've said back to you. E.g., "I had a terrible day today." "Terrible?" It's a good one to do, partly because you can get the...
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    What does it mean to academically train your mind?

    Well, I'm getting a degree at the moment to become a counsellor, and the method I've chosen is called Transactional Analysis. And I love it! I'm proud that I'm getting an education but the real glory in it for me is that TA is organised and helps me to see the full range of human behaviour...
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    Urgent prayer needed..heart broken into a million pieces...

    As he is so young - only 18 - I'd honestly say just give him time. For whatever reason, he feels very strongly about remaining in the position of atheist. But he has years ahead of him. So just let him find his own way in his own time. It might be that he finds his way back to Christianity. Or...
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    Question about Love vs respect

    I think both genders need both love and respect and that they are separate things. My father loves me but does not respect me. I respect a boss I worked for a few years ago but do not, and have never, loved her. So I'm not sure if it's ultimately helpful to try and divide between men and women...
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    Question About Psychotherapy vs. Counselling

    tl;dr version: What do you lot think is the difference between the two? Long version: I'm a counselling student and am about to start my diploma. As part of my training I have to have therapy sessions for the duration so the other day I looked on an online directory of my local area for a...
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    I feel like I'm such a horrible person.. I need a little advice

    If you're finding that you snap at her (or feel like snapping at her) on a fairly regular basis then it might be worth tracking the feeling to its source and working out where the problem really lies. This isn't necessarily something you can do in one short step (if it was, you'd have solved it...
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    hey ladies i need your opinion

    To me, texting is a very throwaway way of communicating so if you can't do it face to face, perhaps an email or even better, a phone call would be better. I'd be tempted to go with phone call as you get to hear her tone of voice and she yours, so more of what is actually said in the conversation...
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