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Recent content by question33

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    I just don't knwo how to deal with that woman!!!

    I just went through a very similar situation. Divorce was finalized on June 3rd. I was way too giving. And she just took and took and took. I wound up losing my kids, my house and 2/3 of my income in court... (My states Divorce laws are a huge joke) So now I am paying for my children to...
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    The long lonely stretch

    How long does the loneliness last? Six months into a divorce of a marriage of 18 years. She had a habit of dating while married and wouldn't quit. A couple months from it being final and the pain finally starts to fade the absolute loneliness settles in. Does it really take years to get...
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    What age and how much to divulge

    Amazing, purely amazing. I am maybe halfway the divorce and my wife decides it's time for the other guy to move in. Well, it seems my 17 year old daughter had a talk with her about how it was against the bible and she put it off and said she would read her Bible. Then when I had the kids over...
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    she: I don't want to be a preacher's wife anymore. ???

    I agree with the previous poster completely. I wish I had been much more aggressive when I figured out my wife was having an emotional affair. I don't know if it would have saved my marriage, but it would of saved me a lot of grief. There is nothing wrong with people knowing the truth. And...
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    Advice for the wicked

    That you actually have these thoughts are a good sign. Seek and you shall find. There are a lot of people who go through life without ever thinking of such things. And reading between the lines (and I may be wrong) you are right in that she will have a very difficult time maintaining her...
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    Divorce and Trust

    In the middle of a divorce... Is it normal for the other spouse to have escalating trust issues? My Ex to be seems to trust me less and less. I notice that it is independent of my words and action. I just got to the point that I pretty much ignore it and act on my own conscious. She admits...
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    Is the grace of God a blank check to sin?

    When you a sin over and over you will grow it accept it. Then you will be putting one more thing between yourself and God and it will deaden your sensitivity to other sin. To me its a scary concept that perhaps that you could cut yourself off from God entirely. I believe that once you...
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    what do you think????

    I spent a whole lot of time contemplating this subject this year. I also believe it is adultery only. I have taken my fair share of mental/verbal abuse. I don't believe that it is necessary for one to just take it. A person needs to protect themselves. And I don't see anything wrong with...
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    Are you still friends...

    How odd, My soon to be ex expressed that she wanted to be friends "after this is all over" twice during my mess of a year leading to the divorce. I believe I have been the best friend for the longest time in her life. However I don't see how that would ever work. I know about her unresolved...
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    just found out....

    Going for a divorce after three years seems awful trigger happy to me. And the judgmental side of me sees it as a severe lack of faith on his part. Seems like it took at least five years before my soon to be ex and I had a workable relationship with somewhat defined roles and boundaries. It...
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    Husband has walked out on us, now other woman living with him

    Yep, Reminds me of my soon to be Ex also. Became very involved in Christianity. She was infatuated with the concept that you could become a Christian and then lose your salvation. Also was very legalistic and saw apostasy everywhere in the church. I didn't realize till much later she was...
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    New Territory

    ANurseInChrist, Thank you so much for your input. Things have been so chaotic that I feel like I am just making life altering decisions on the fly. Thankfully I have a lot of extended family backing, but sometimes that seems to be a mixed blessing. Everyone has different advice. Most of my...
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    How did you know when to finally LEAVE?

    After my Christian Councilor suggested I file after six months of trying to get through to her. And my pastor supported it. But the last straw was when my wife started taking my children on outings with the other man. While still living with me and refusing to move out.
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    New Territory

    I am new to this section of the board. My story up to this point is posted under "Ghost Husband" in the marriage restoration section. This has been one heck of a year. Sorry, I know a bit long... I moved out while the divorce goes through. I married young and never really led the single...
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    Need comments on my actions

    It sounds like you shook her up a bit with divorce talk. To me it seems obvious that she gets something of value out of her relationship with you. Or she would have reacted quite differently when you said it. My wife said nothing when I said I was filing... Just cold emptiness. Your wife...
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