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Recent content by LilyBride

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    Movies Not Worth The Money

    The Pride and Prejudice movie was a BIG let down. It strayed so far from the book it was almost laughable. The movie we walked out on was Click. Too bad, too, we had been looking forward to it...
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    letting go

    I'll be praying for you and your marriage.
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    Is it a good idea to discuss marital troubles (or pre-marital troubles) with friends?

    I seldom talk to friends and I have already been burned talking to family. Most of my friends are unmarried and idealistic and just can't fathom that the honeymoon actually ends. They can be pretty judgmental and I've even had one tell me it was "good to hear about my mistakes so she doesn't...
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    just being mean (but doesn't mean it?)

    I'm so sorry!! Your husband is emotionally abusing you. It is inexcusable for him to say things to you like what you described in your first example. It doesn't matter one bit whether he "means" what he says or not, the affect it has on you (and your children) is the same. You need to let him...
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    Jealousy

    I don't think that the statement "Our God is a jealous God" refers to the kind of jealousy to which you and I are accustomed. I think it refers to the exclusiveness God expects from us in our love for him (ie, no idol worship). In marriage, a "jealous" love could also refer to the exclusive bond...
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    Looking for a Christian husband's devition online. r/o

    Hi, Chamudah! I ran a quick google search for you, and I found a list of excellent devotionals from http://www.crosswalk.com/devotionals/ . I didn't see any that were specifically for husbands or wives, but I think many of them would still be relevant. A personal recommendation would be 'My...
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    Feeling disconnected

    I don't think there's anything wrong with you, I just think that maybe you've become more accustomed to his deployments and they're not effecting you as much as they once did. I'm not sure how long you've been married, but it could also be that the "newness" of marriage has worn off a bit and...
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    Does success in marriage depend more on communication or obedience?

    I agree that communication is key. Obedience is important, too, but mindless, "obligatory" obedience threatens to be one-sided and there can be bitterness associated with it. Good communication makes obedience much easier.
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    DH just left for 9 weeks

    I'll be praying for you and your "little men." =) I hope time flies and he's back in your arms again soon.
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    Manipulative parent... advice?

    I need your opinion on something... I am trying to help out my older sister. She's in a really bad situation with my dad. Here's a little background: My mother died 5 years ago (I was 18, my sister 28) of a heart attack. She was truly the center of the family and acted as a buffer between Dad...
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    What's your bedroom like?

    Ours is pretty typical... a queen sized bed, my husband's keyboard, two chests of drawers and a side table. It's... cozy (and cramped!). We really don't have much decoration. We don't really have the money for it yet...
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    Speaking up

    If it is racially oriented, I'll just say "Please don't speak that way around me. I find it very offensive" and leave it at that. If it continues I walk away. As far as if it is my H 'semployee... if it was outside of a working emvironment, my reaction would be the same as above. If it were in...
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    Speaking up

    Normally I just let it go... provided it's not racially oriented.
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    help! sacrificing life dreams

    I really don't think that "master" is the proper wording here. A wife is to be submissive, yes, but the husband is also to love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. So there is a little godly sacrifice in order on both sides here. Just as she should be willing to compromise...