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    Job loss.. And love

    I've been dating a guy for 4 months. I called him to tell him that I found out that I may be laid off. I have a very strong/successful career .. So does he. He seemed supportive., emotionally. Then this morning.. He texted very rarely. He was busy on business. But never ended up calling me...
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    He has herpes.

    Because she's single... And Christian. Wants a Christian's perspective. I just don't know the dating world.. Well enough to have good advice. Thought I could ask here.. For her.
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    He has herpes.

    A girlfriend asked me for advice and I have NO idea what to tell her. She is divorced and dating a guy who is also divorced. He was married for 15 years. She says that after a few dates they began messing around. She gave him oral. But hasnt had sex yet. Well he just told her 2 weeks AFTER...
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    Is this normal?

    The thing is a good friend of mine came to visit and got the vibe that my husband was very into me... She thought he acted "at times" very attentive. But he just seems to be clueless in certain areas. It's heart breaking for me because I'm just sick over it all. Once I start realizing how bad...
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    Is this normal?

    I've had a lot of marital issues but this recent situation is one I just feel I need objective insight on. A couple of months ago I was working on a peoject at work with a man who seemed to make some subtle advances. The project was intense but he would call or text at all hours. My husband...
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    Facebook Rants

    My husband and I both have very public jobs and I know that we have both been told that our Facebook pages are reflections of us and our employers. Well last year I found my husband complaining on Facebook ... About his boss. I immediately told him to take it down! He did, reluctantly. I...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    Well my husband wouldn't/shouldn't be blindsided by that news. I spoke about divorce/separation just 2 months ago and he said we couldn't afford it. The time prior to all of this .. He threatened suicide and I felt awful. So I didn't pursue it. But when I went back and said lets work it...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    I totally understand what you are saying. The problem is I also believe I'm paralyzed by fear of being alone. A couple of years ago, my husband was hitting on the bed Indian style. My son was bouncing around and we had asked him to stop. He did, but bounced right into my husband. I was in...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    I haven't told him this ... As of this week. But yes I've told him this gently...several times. It's been the theme in our problems and couples therapy. I am "venting" here... I obviously would cushion what I said to him. I know what I'm about to say is trivial stuff .. But it factors...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    Well I told him today that I didn't feel good about writing the erotica. He said "it's up to you.. But if you don't do that and chose to tone in down... You should work on publishing the other 2 books". So he understood what I requested... BUT now he wants me to write 2 more books to make up for...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    The story is true and I often get chastised because I offer my husband's side. I don't do that to nullify the advice I receive but rather help give the whole picture. I want objective advice...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    I agree. That's why I asked him to do this last month. He won't. So it's all on me. And downsizing would involve moving...and our cars are in the negative... We can't sell them. He won't do that. So it's all up to me.
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    No I don't agree that it's the way to go... But it's money and is it fair for me to tell HIM to go get a second job? I did last month and he threatened to go sweep floors overnight and a retailer or something. When I called his bluff, he just turned it back on me. What is FAIR for me to ask...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    Here's the hard part. When I get tough and stand up for what I think is right... He gets cold and difficult. He doesn't support me when he knows it won't lead to our/his benefit. And then I lose my strength and objectivity. I want to tell him that I don't want to file for bankruptcy and I...
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    Please tell me if I'm wrong

    I really appreciate your insight and suggestions. I can tell you even the smallest of efforts seem to go wrong. He often relies on me to push him to even buy clothes. He needs them for work, he says. And it is so odd... When I get him to the store he will say he doesn't need to buy the things...
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