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Hegseth Boosts Video of Pastors Saying Women Shouldn't Vote, Advocating Repeal of 19th Amendment

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Of course we should, when those decisions are based on a distortion of the Scriptural text, promote harmful ideologies, and are highly correlated with controlling and abusive behaviour. Frankly, we'd be remiss if we didn't.

And yep, I can critique bad theology, and change my own tire, all at the same time. Amazing what an educated woman who's been treated equally to men can manage.
There is nothing biblically distorted about the gender roles between the husband and wife in the video. Otherwise, I challenge you to prove otherwise.
 
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You are completely ignoring the point. But perhaps that is my fault. I can understand how using an analogy so extreme such a men fighting with women can be so unsettling that it completely overshadows the point that is trying to be made......
Its not "unsettling". Thats just you trying to blame your terrible argument on your imagined fragility of others.

The problem is that even if youre completely right about the physical fighting situation, its a circumstance that just doesnt translate to the other 99.9% of life: making meals, fixing things, leading people, building stuff, etc etc.
 
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This topic really interests me as a drummer.

For decades drum kit was imagined as just very masculine to the point that people thought it almost felt unnatural for women to be doing it. And while there were a few great woman drummers out there, most people thought them a novelty/curiosity more than musically serious. Almost like it was unseemly for women to demonstrate that much internal rhythm.

Cut to the last decade or so and the females are crushing it. At sxsw where we've showcased 3 years running, theres young bands from all over the world with gal drummers who are really good. An even when they dont show off a million skills theyre laying down punchy muscular rock parts that kick the songs with zero "gender penalty" or other imaginary problem.

Just an example in my face of reality outrunning doomed old attitudes.
 
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Its not "unsettling". Thats just you trying to blame your terrible argument on your imagined fragility of others.

The problem is that even if youre completely right about the physical fighting situation, its a circumstance that just doesnt translate to the other 99.99% of life: making meals, fixing things, leading people, arguing on the internet, etc etc.
Moving on. Do you think a feminists fighting for equality deserve to feel offended if a man doesnt give up his seat to her on the subway? A strangly simple question that no liberal seems capable of answering.
 
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Moving on. Do you think a feminists fighting for equality deserve to feel offended if a man doesnt give up his seat to her on the subway? A strangly simple question that no liberal seems capable of answering.
I literally answered it. Or am I not liberal enough? Should I get my husband and have him answer it? Both because he’s a man but also because he is so liberal that there’s no denying he’s a liberal.
 
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Moving on. Do you think a feminists fighting for equality deserve to feel offended if a man doesnt give up his seat to her on the subway? A strangly simple question that no liberal seems capable of answering.
No. A healthy strong woman can stand just as well as a healthy strong man.

That said, Im not going to get bent out of shape if people cling to some of these older cultural norms in day to day interactions with strangers, the ones which arent really harmful either way. Its just not that big of a deal. And sometimes its simply expressing consideration for others, which is nice - even if harmlessly misplaced.

What is a big deal is that law and custom doesnt shut out or discourage anyone from conducting their life as they see fit - so long as they arent harming others.
 
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Moving on. Do you think a feminists fighting for equality deserve to feel offended if a man doesnt give up his seat to her on the subway? A strangly simple question that no liberal seems capable of answering.
Several posts answer your question but you are dismissing them.
 
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Its not "unsettling". Thats just you trying to blame your terrible argument on your imagined fragility of others.

The problem is that even if youre completely right about the physical fighting situation, its a circumstance that just doesnt translate to the other 99.9% of life: making meals, fixing things, leading people, building stuff, etc etc.
Should a feminist deserve to be upset if you did not give up your seat on the subway train?
 
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Several posts answer your question but you are dismissing them.
I did not ask them, I asked you. And no, they didnt answer the question. Every one of them distracted away from the question and said what they would do, not if the woman deserved to be offended. Including you. So again I ask, SHOULD A FEMISIST DESERVE TO FEEL OFFENDED IF YOU HAD NOT GIVEN UP YOUR SEAT ON THE SUBWAY. The appropriate answers are either a yes or no and a reason why.
 
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Idid not ask them, I asked you. And no, they didnt answer the question. Everyone of them distracted away from the question and said what they would do, not if the woman deserved to be offended. Including you. So again I ask, SHOULD A FEMISIST DESERVE TO FEEL OFFENDED IF YOU HAD NOT GIVEN UP YOUR SEAT ON THE SUBWAY. The appropriate answers are either a yes or no and a reason why.
I answered the question, but the whole premise is laughable. You want us to guess what a character you created in a story of your own making would do in the next part of the story you’ve invented. That has no relevance to reality, feminism, or equality, any more than Harry Potter has relevance to reality, equality, or the male experience.
 
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I did not ask them, I asked you. And no, they didnt answer the question. Every one of them distracted away from the question and said what they would do, not if the woman deserved to be offended. Including you. So again I ask, SHOULD A FEMISIST DESERVE TO FEEL OFFENDED IF YOU HAD NOT GIVEN UP YOUR SEAT ON THE SUBWAY. The appropriate answers are either a yes or no and a reason why.
It is not a yes or no question and I gave my answer. To add, No one has a right to a seat and no one is required to give up theirs. If someone wants to remain seated while it would be more considerate to offer their seat, then that is on their own conscious. If the fictional woman is offended, then that is how she feels. You decided she should be offended, a more likely alternative is that she is used to crowded trains and just ignores the men.

A question to you is have you ever encountered this blue haired feminist as described in the wild, or is this a convenient straw man used to argue against feminists in general?
 
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Should a feminist deserve to be upset if you did not give up your seat on the subway train?
Answered directly in post 346. With explanation and supporting thoughts.

You should read it!
And let me know what you think.
 
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I did not ask them, I asked you. And no, they didnt answer the question. Every one of them distracted away from the question and said what they would do, not if the woman deserved to be offended. Including you. So again I ask, SHOULD A FEMISIST DESERVE TO FEEL OFFENDED IF YOU HAD NOT GIVEN UP YOUR SEAT ON THE SUBWAY. The appropriate answers are either a yes or no and a reason why.
So I got my husband to weigh in. He said:

“Well it’s his scenario and he’s got a thing for blue haired liberal women being the mascot of evil so obviously the woman is going to be upset because that’s the reaction he wants her to have. It’s his story, you know he will say she’ll be mad because that’s what he wants her to be. This isn’t a story about feminists or feminism or equality in society. This is a story he made up to explain that he’s mad at women. I already figured out 10 pages ago so who cares? Of course the guy with the worst option about women is going to create a fantasy about them being terrible people, because none of this is about women and what they want or need. It’s all about him and why he doesn’t want to give it to them.”
 
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So again I ask, SHOULD A FEMISIST DESERVE TO FEEL OFFENDED IF YOU HAD NOT GIVEN UP YOUR SEAT ON THE SUBWAY.
I am not responsible for how other people react to my lack of altruism.
People feel as they feel.
Trying to wedge in a “biblical principle” into unique social situations brings about the risk of introducing several debate fallacies into the mix; notably special pleading and the Texas sharpshooter fallacy.
 
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There is nothing biblically distorted about the gender roles between the husband and wife in the video. Otherwise, I challenge you to prove otherwise.
That's just your opinion. We can disagree with it without having to prove anything to you.
 
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I've already pointed out that the draft issue is just a political football. Whenever it's brought up by either side, they're just moving a goalpost...as you did here.
Just moving them back to where they were when Oompa see them up. This thread has nothing to do with actual military combat or who is physically capable of it.
What do you mean by "disrespectful" in this particular argument? I don't think any socially mature individual in modern society should respond to, say, a crass remark, with physical violence...male or female. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" is how I was taught to respond to basic "disrespect" on the street.

Or are you arguing that physical violence initiated by one party should never be responded to with physical violence?
You'll have to ask Oompa about that. It's his argument, and I'm not sure I even understand it. As far as I can tell, he thinks men have a right to respond to insults with violence and other men have to put up with it, so if feminists, women who want to be treated like men, won't put up with it they're not being fair.
 
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That's just your opinion. We can disagree with it without having to prove anything to you.
I asked a self confessed Christian to provide Biblical evidence as to why the husband in the OP video is wrong.This is not "just my opinion." It is what is instructed in Ephesians 5. Respectfully, if you are not a Christian, I care nothing about your opinions about biblical Christian roles between a husband and wife.
 
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I am not responsible for now other people react to my lack of altruism.
People feel as they feel.
Trying to wedge in a “biblical principle” into unique social situations brings about the risk of introducing several debate fallacies into the mix; notably special pleading and the Texas sharpshooter fallacy.
Another non-answer from a deflecting liberal who refuses to accept the obvious. We are done.
 
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So I got my husband to weigh in. He said:

“Well it’s his scenario and he’s got a thing for blue haired liberal women being the mascot of evil so obviously the woman is going to be upset because that’s the reaction he wants her to have. It’s his story, you know he will say she’ll be mad because that’s what he wants her to be. This isn’t a story about feminists or feminism or equality in society. This is a story he made up to explain that he’s mad at women. I already figured out 10 pages ago so who cares? Of course the guy with the worst option about women is going to create a fantasy about them being terrible people, because none of this is about women and what they want or need. It’s all about him and why he doesn’t want to give it to them.”
So another non-answer to a simple question. Again I ask, SHOULD THE WOMEN DESERVE TO FEEL OFFENDED IF A MAN DOESNT GIVE HER THEIR SEAT? The answer is either a simple Yes or No with an explanation. No liberal has yet been capable of doing so. Including you and your husband. Probably another leftist liberal. Because you have proven incapable of honest discourse, we are done.
 
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I asked a self confessed Christian to provide Biblical evidence as to why the husband in the OP video is wrong.This is not "just my opinion." It is what is instructed in Ephesians 5.
It is your opinion, and his, about what is instructed in Ephesians 5. If you want to argue with another Christian about your interpretation of Ephesians 5 you should do it in another forum, because it has nothing to do with voting rights in a secular state.
Respectfully, if you are not a Christian, I care nothing about your opinions about biblical Christian roles between a husband and wife.
And the rest of us need not care about yours.
 
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