Would you marry a woman who was a former stripper or X-rated star if she turned into a Christian ?

[bèlla]

Do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, “THE TWO SHALL BE ONE FLESH.”

You cannot have relations with a lot of people physically without encountering natural and spiritual consequences. Now we’re being told that sperm remains in a woman‘s body which heightens the seriousness. Attractiveness shouldn’t factor into your decision at all. It wouldn’t matter how pretty she is. The biggest question is can you live with it? Given the negative climate regarding body count and promiscuity it shouldn’t be undertaken lightly.

Can you look beyond it and love her in spite of her past? Will it impact your respect and regard? Would you hold her in a similar light as those who’ve lived differently? How will you handle your peers singing their praises about their spouses and highlighting qualities she lacks related to purity? While most women aren’t virgins they haven’t lived as she has. How will you deal with her reception with other women? There are some who won’t befriend her. They’ll be polite but may have reservations due to morality.

I raise these questions for your edification and in light of our culture. For many that’s a 304 in their mind. Even if she lives differently the majority will say you can do better looks or not. And they’re going to say the things I haven’t and cite acts she may have participated in and ask if you can handle it. The same holds true for OnlyFans and IG models. They’re earning their money on their back as well.

We have to pick and choose our battles and this is one I wouldn’t take on. Nor would I advise a man to date someone with that background and I wouldn’t consider a former pimp because I wouldn’t respect him. Go listen to the Diddy case. Law&Crime Network has someone in the courtroom and the coverage is fairly unbiased. Listen to the testimony from the victims and read the comments and see how you feel. That’s the reality of that life. It goes further and deeper than most will admit and there may be things she’ll never tell you because of that.

~bella

 

[Hvizsgyak]

If an attractive women that was a former sex-worker becomes a Christian woman would you date her and consider marriage with her ?

She would have to be a real Mary Magdeline. Of course, I'm happily married so this is just hypothetical .

 

[Richard T]

I do hope that most know that Rahab the harlot is in the genealogy of Jesus.
Also, perhaps no one else pointed out Luke 7:47?
""Therefore I tell you, because her many sins have been forgiven, she has loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little".
This suggests that those who have experienced significant forgiveness tend to express greater love in return. The concept emphasizes the relationship between forgiveness and love, indicating that understanding one's own forgiveness can lead to a deeper capacity to love others." Luke 7:47 - A Sinful Woman Anoints Jesus

So why limit God in his redemptive work? Perhaps we should reword this question: Would it ever be advantageous to marry someone with a great testimony of transformation versus someone who is simply ordinary?

I do like those who pointed out the practical aspects of such a union. There certainly could be scars that are not yet healed. I think too that calling would have alot to do with this. For instance many Christians actually also shun potential mates that have a desire for missions. Hopefully this is because they are not called, rather than they are unable to respond to the need that is out there.

 

[timothyu]

She would have to be a real Mary Magdeline.

Why would you say that? MM was never described in this category, except by humans outside of scripture.

 

[RDKirk]

Why would you say that? MM was never described in this category, except by humans outside of scripture.

Correct. Scripture says Mary Magdalene had demons oppressing her...nothing about her being a prostitute.

 

[timothyu]

Correct. Scripture says Mary Magdalene had demons oppressing her...nothing about her being a prostitute.

Was that not a pope's fantasy?

 

[Hvizsgyak]

Why would you say that? MM was never described in this category, except by humans outside of scripture.

Sorry, I thought about walking that one back after I posted it because I wasn't sure if Mary Magdeline was a prostitute at first. I probably should have gone with the lady at the well or the lady who the Jewish people were going to stone. But what I meant was that Mary Magdeline did a complete 180 in her lifestyle and if she were an ex-porn star (and I wasn't married already) sure, I'd marry her. Did that pass mustard?

 

[bèlla]

So why limit God in his redemptive work? Perhaps we should reword this question:

It isn’t a question of His redemptive work but what each one can handle. The same holds true for criminals, compulsive liars and the like. Just because they‘ve changed doesn’t mean you want to spend your life with them and we have a right to choose. It’s a lot to take on. If the question was posed in the singles forum you’d get a similar response and you know it.

Would it ever be advantageous to marry someone with a great testimony of transformation versus someone who is simply ordinary?

I would rather have a man who’s respectable with character than the other. Just because you didn’t know the Lord doesn’t mean you lived your life without a care. People have standards and I value that. And there’s nothing wrong with being respectable and living upright. It’s more admirable in my eyes.

~bella

 

[RDKirk]

Sorry, I thought about walking that one back after I posted it because I wasn't sure if Mary Magdeline was a prostitute at first. I probably should have gone with the lady at the well or the lady who the Jewish people were going to stone. But what I meant was that Mary Magdeline did a complete 180 in her lifestyle and if she were an ex-porn star (and I wasn't married already) sure, I'd marry her. Did that pass mustard?

"Pass muster."

"Muster" is an archaic military term for putting troops into formation for inspection. "Passing muster" means passing the inspection without fault.

 

[Hvizsgyak]

"Pass muster."

"Muster" is an archaic military term for putting troops into formation for inspection. "Passing muster" means passing the inspection without fault.

Whoops, thank you for that correction. I've been saying it wrong my whole life .

 

[Tropical Wilds]

We really need God's help. We see the results in marriages without depending on God's help. It really isn't working. And so God should have something to do with two individuals joining as husband and wife to each other, and God would. So we do need to consent to God, who would be the one who is most sure of who belongs together.

YMMV. The world is loaded with non-Christians and atheists' who have wonderful marriages and people who are hardcore Christians who have terrible ones. In my own life, the relationship most worth emulating comes from a couple I know who've been together, what, 30 years now? They're not married, never will be, are athiests who have no use for religion, yet they have the most happy, healthy, stable partnership. A true relationship of love and partnership built on mutual respect, trust, and admiration.

The worst... The worst 5, actually... Are all hardcore Christian, all "god fearing people" who are in church every Sunday, believe all the "right things," yet their marriage is something I'd go out of my way to avoid. Lack of equality, lack of mutual respect, lack of happiness, and a total acceptance of "well, that's the way it is..."

 

[Ignatius the Kiwi]

YMMV. The world is loaded with non-Christians and atheists' who have wonderful marriages and people who are hardcore Christians who have terrible ones. In my own life, the relationship most worth emulating comes from a couple I know who've been together, what, 30 years now? They're not married, never will be, are athiests who have no use for religion, yet they have the most happy, healthy, stable partnership. A true relationship of love and partnership built on mutual respect, trust, and admiration.

The worst... The worst 5, actually... Are all hardcore Christian, all "god fearing people" who are in church every Sunday, believe all the "right things," yet their marriage is something I'd go out of my way to avoid. Lack of equality, lack of mutual respect, lack of happiness, and a total acceptance of "well, that's the way it is..."

One wonders why we even need God in the first place with logic like this. Why do you think Atheism is superior to Christianity in guiding relationships?

 

[Tropical Wilds]

One wonders why we even need God in the first place with logic like this. Why do you think Atheism is superior to Christianity in guiding relationships?

I didn't say it was superior. I said YMMV because people of all walks have successful relationships. Logically, that means I think that we all have something to learn from everybody in forming successful relationships.

"Well Tropical Wilds thinks Atheism is superior to Christianity in relationships" is a random logic jump that you took all by yourself based off of your bias, your lack of attention to what I said, or your not understanding what I said, and not my statement.

 

[Ignatius the Kiwi]

I didn't say it was superior. I said YMMV because people of all walks have successful relationships. Logically, that means I think that we all have something to learn from everybody in forming successful relationships.

"Well Tropical Wilds thinks Atheism is superior to Christianity in relationships" is a random logic jump that you took all by yourself based off of your bias, your lack of attention to what I said, or your not understanding what I said, and not my statement.

So you would believe Christian marriage is superior to Atheist marriage? Or is God simply not necessary?

 

[Tropical Wilds]

So you would believe Christian marriage is superior to Atheist marriage? Or is God simply not necessary?

For the third time:

"I said YMMV because people of all walks have successful relationships. Logically, that means I think that we all have something to learn from everybody in forming successful relationships."

 

[Ignatius the Kiwi]

For the third time:

"I said YMMV because people of all walks have successful relationships. Logically, that means I think that we all have something to learn from everybody in forming successful relationships."

What do we have to learn from Atheism and modern relationships that would be better than what the Christian tradition has to offer?

 

[Tropical Wilds]

What do we have to learn from Atheism and modern relationships that would be better than what the Christian tradition has to offer?

Are we seriously asking what one can learn from people who aren't us, who have different experiences than us, and the dynamics of modern relationships when compared to non-evolved marital dynamics based off of a societal dynamic that hasn't existed in 2,000 years...?

I mean, everything from the establishment of hierarchy, to the division of labor, to the establishment of gender roles, to the role of the partners in a family unit, to the fact that consent and autonomy in a society where it's an inherent right all have... There's no limit on what we could learn from an atheist and/or somebody in a modern relationship, or really any class of people.

 

[Ignatius the Kiwi]

Are we seriously asking what one can learn from people who aren't us, who have different experiences than us, and the dynamics of modern relationships when compared to non-evolved marital dynamics based off of a societal dynamic that hasn't existed in 2,000 years...?

I mean, everything from the establishment of hierarchy, to the division of labor, to the establishment of gender roles, to the role of the partners in a family unit, to the fact that consent and autonomy in a society where it's an inherent right all have... There's no limit on what we could learn from an atheist and/or somebody in a modern relationship, or really any class of people.

Are you opposed to Hierarchy in marriage and relationships and gender roles? Are you saying Christians should abandon these beliefs?

 

[Tropical Wilds]

Are you opposed to Hierarchy in marriage and relationships and gender roles? Are you saying Christians should abandon these beliefs?

I am opposed to some of those hierarchies and gender roles, yes, which is why I'm with somebody who's got similar views and we can build a life together that we both like. If somebody else wants to do them and they find somebody else who shares that ethos and everybody participating is a consenting adult, then it sounds like it's a good match and go them.

As for if I think Christians should abandon those, allow me to bring your attention to what I've been saying all along (and your fourth direct reminder):

"I said YMMV because people of all walks have successful relationships. Logically, that means I think that we all have something to learn from everybody in forming successful relationships."

 

[Ignatius the Kiwi]

I am opposed to some of those hierarchies and gender roles, yes, which is why I'm with somebody who's got similar views and we can build a life together that we both like. If somebody else wants to do them and they find somebody else who shares that ethos and everybody participating is a consenting adult, then it sounds like it's a good match and go them.

Are you opposed to Saint Paul who told wives to submit to their husbands? Or where Saint Paul said a woman is saved in childbearing thus tying a woman's worth to her ability to reproduce?