In the video below Peter Singer equates morality/ethics with mathematics, which is a concept that I'd never considered before. Most people probably agree that mathematics is objective. It's true independent of our opinions about it. And I can see how it could be argued that morality is exactly the same. In math the understanding that 1+1=2 doesn't instantaneously lead to an understanding of Pi, because although the latter is equally true, coming to understand that it's true is a complicated process. Perhaps the same is true with morality. As with mathematics, morality may be objectively true, but understanding why it's true may be just as complicated as understanding why Pi is true. You don't instantly go from understanding that math exists, to understanding trigonometry, and you don't instantly go from understanding that morality exists, to understanding that slavery is immoral.
Thus there may be an objective morality, but as with math we're still in the process of understanding it, and the fact that we may disagree about what's moral doesn't by necessity mean that morality is subjective. It just means that we don't have a sufficient understanding of morality so as to understand why things are moral, and so instead, morality without God looks subjective, when it really isn't.
And in my opinion, having some God attempting to dictate to me what is and isn't moral will never be as gratifying as actually understanding why things are immoral without a need for that God.
Your last statement is a powerful statement that I share. I do believe in God and it isn't just because someone told me He exists, but because I've have a personal relationship with Him.
It is very grievous to me when believers often stress do's and don't's over walking in his Spirit of love. The main word being stress.
But do know as Christian, we believe the scriptures are God breathed, and they clearly say that this wasn't God's way. We were meant to be united to Him by his Spirit through Christ where his love is our driving, Spiritual force.
God added "the law" as a means to work with man's choice of judging good and evil on their own and being their own god instead of being embodied by his Spirit of love. I know I've said this before, bear with me as working towards something. It was a temporary measure and a shadowy reflection of God's heart to maintain some semblance while He reconciled humanity back to Himself, for all who believe, we are being perfected in his love.
From what I know of God and scripture, I would say to you, that in your last statement, God shares your sentiments.
I don't see that morality can be objective, as I understand objectivity, because morality is a code of ethics based on the knowledge of good and evil. Love is a spiritual force. And one can argue that it is not, but as believers this is at the foundation of our belief system. We believe this Spirit that embodied us transcends morality.
Again, is this a moral code? I would say no.
For debate's sake, let us say it is. Then I would say this morality cannot be confined to a moral code, but it is driven by God's love.
I often see in layers and I believe there are layers to morality. The outer layer is the less substantial, so to speak. There is another, deeper layer that humans can find connection, even if they don't agree on surface. That deeper layer is our common human emotions of love and hate, joy and sorrow, pain and pleasure, etc. This some describe as the faculty of the soul.
At the deepest level, as believers, we believe that is about being connected to God's Spirit, that embodies and drives us by his love as we allow Him into the driver's seat. That transforms all other layers above it into commonality with his heart / Spirit.
More I can say on it, but short on time now.
But listen, God's design was never meant to be about a code of ethics to do or don't do. It was always about connecting us to his Spirit by way of Christ. He was just working within the freewill of man and his choice / desire to go about godliness apart from Him and judge right and wrong of themselves. The bible clearly states it is just a shadow of his heart because as Jesus said on the sermon on the mount, the heart of the matter is really the matter of the heart.
It was always in his design to make us like Him, Not that we are the Almighty as the Source and driving force, but as children embodied by his Spirit and transformed into his image.