Women are using the 6-6-6 dating rule to find the perfect man — but is it hurting their chance at finding love?

[dzheremi]

WOO HOO! Let's hear it for being short, fat, poor, and not having to deal with nonsense!

*parties a very small amount*

Seriously, though, I don't want a "perfect" partner. You know what I'd like? Someone I can live with, and who can live with me too. I figure anything more than that is just like a bonus or an add-on: great when you can afford it, but not really necessary. The car itself will run just fine without the $2,000 optional seat warmers.

 

[bèlla]

Even if this meme isn't wide-spread, it's ridiculous that someone thinks this social phenomenon some women [SOME] may use needs to be made into a meme.

It could be memetic magic. This is a short description.

~bella

 

[Ignatius the Kiwi]

No standard is inclusive. Whether it's height, weight, wealth or attractiveness. Someone falls short in the criteria they prefer. I don't have an issue with standards. No one can tell you what to like. They can advise you to expand your horizons. But at the end of the day you have to live with your choice not them. If that's a 5'10 goddess so be it. That's your thing.

It's always valuable to be wise. Modern women would do well to understand that the men they are casually hooking up aren't likely to commit to them and they have to bare the consequences of their promiscuity, that this is an unattractive trait in women and a bad way to live. We all ultimately have to live by our choices and we've seen in modernity that the choices each sex makes are disastrous for actually fostering a society where marriage is a good option. Both sexes feel incredible resentment, some for justifiable reasons and some for less justifiable reasons.

It wasn't that long ago when that was the case and the men told them no. They weren't going to compromise or give them a chance. Now the tables have turned and they're complaining. When you relegate people to numbers don't be surprised when it comes back to haunt you. And here we are.

~bella

Do you like the way things are currently? Do you think this is good for society?

 

[bèlla]

It's always valuable to be wise. Modern women would do well to understand that the men they are casually hooking up aren't likely to commit to them and they have to bare the consequences of their promiscuity, that this is an unattractive trait in women and a bad way to live.

Promiscuity is not attractive on anyone. Men included.

We all ultimately have to live by our choices and we've seen in modernity that the choices each sex makes are disastrous for actually fostering a society where marriage is a good option. Both sexes feel incredible resentment, some for justifiable reasons and some for less justifiable reasons.

Do you like the way things are currently? Do you think this is good for society?

One of things I've noticed about this topic is the idea everyone's upset and that isn't true. There's a segment of society that's disgruntled and their voices are loud. But people are dating and getting married nonetheless.

When I look at an issue I begin with the root and for humans that starts at home. When you've experienced a healthy environment and positive examples of masculinity and femininity you're less likely to hold negative views about either sex or susceptible to toxic rhetoric. You'll see it for what it is.

But if home goes awry you look elsewhere to fill in the blanks including the world. That's why it's so messed up. It's like the old saying about too many cooks. They have too many voices in their head and when that's the case confusion follows.

It's not a question of whether I like the way things are but the recognition it's not a healthy way to live. When that's your benchmark you'll avoid all the whackadoodles. Because you know it's crazy. There's a domino effect to that position. You attract others like yourself and comparable experiences follow.

There's a notion that everyone talks about this or feels this way and that isn't the case. Whether they're single or not. Nor is this the battle cry of all men. I never have these conversations outside of here because everyone's settled. You don't linger in that world when you've found what you've sought. You move on.

Most of the issues mentioned in this thread aren't things married people are focused on nor those in long-term relationships. This a problem singles are wrestling with. The rest are occupied.

~bella

 

[trophy33]

Most of the issues mentioned in this thread aren't things married people are focused on nor those in long-term relationships. This a problem singles are wrestling with. The rest are occupied.

This is a bit naive view. Married people divorce and people in longer relationships break up all the time. And frequently for the same or similar reasons why even dating is such a pain for many single people.

 

[bèlla]

This is a bit naive view. Married people divorce and people in longer relationships break up all the time. And frequently for the same or similar reasons why even dating is such a pain for many single people.

People happily married or partnered aren't usually discussing this topic unless they know someone dealing with the same. They have their own stuff to focus on.

~bella

 

[expos4ever]

This is a bit naive view. Married people divorce and people in longer relationships break up all the time. And frequently for the same or similar reasons why even dating is such a pain for many single people.

Really? I would be very surprised if many women leave a marriage only because the man is less than 6 feet tall, or makes less than 6 figures, or does not have abs.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

It could be memetic magic. This is a short description.

~bella

That's interesting. From the source you've shared and from what I briefly dug into online, the so-called "memetic magic" of R. Kirk Packwood seems to be sort of a mythicized adaptation of (and maybe an attempted reversal of) memetic engineering, another form of social engineering.

Memetic engineering - Wikipedia.​

I can see how a meme like the "6-6-6 dating rule" could qualify as a sort of allusion to "magic."

P.S. Of course, this sort of thing isn't new. The label is, though.

 

[bèlla]

That's interesting. From the source you've shared and from what I briefly dug into online, the so-called "memetic magic" of R. Kirk Packwood seems to be sort of a mythicized adaptation of (and maybe an attempted reversal of) memetic engineering, another form of social engineering.

Memetic engineering - Wikipedia.​

I can see how a meme like the "6-6-6 dating rule" could qualify as a sort of allusion to "magic."

P.S. Of course, this sort of thing isn't new. The label is, though.

Your post made me remember it!

Meme popped in my head and I remembered the message I heard on the subject. As @FireDragon76 shared, women aren't into that. But they had to add it for the meme.

I ran the numbers without the hyphens and the result was 700 or 777 in gematria. You don't need to be conversant in the subject to know that 7 and 10 refer to completion.

~bella

 

[trophy33]

Really? I would be very surprised if many women leave a marriage only because the man is less than 6 feet tall, or makes less than 6 figures, or does not have abs.

Financial or physical reasons are quite common causes for infidelity or endings.

 

[trophy33]

People happily married or partnered aren't usually discussing this topic unless they know someone dealing with the same. They have their own stuff to focus on.

Probably. Its logical that people unhappily married, after divorce or with difficulties in modern relationships/dating will be talking about this topic more.

Only a minority of people are happily married their whole life or fine with being single and not looking for anyone anymore. But these people can also give their opinion when such forum thread appears, like you or me. We all have eyes and ears and see other people, how they changed in for example the last decade or two, we can hear their troubles, we have our past experiences etc.

 

[expos4ever]

Financial or physical reasons are quite common causes for infidelity or endings.

Financial reasons seem plausible, so I will accept that. But I am quite skeptical that women would leave a relationship for height and or "abs".

 

[bèlla]

Probably. Its logical that people unhappily married, after divorce or with difficulties in modern relationships/dating will be talking about this topic more.

This subject is being discussed because of the internet and social media platforms. The diversity of people within that setting allows them to encounter information they wouldn't see otherwise.

But observe them amongst themselves and you'll see the difference. Look at the conversations in the singles forum versus the married one. They're not identical because they're in different seasons.

Only a minority of people are happily married their whole life or fine with being single and not looking for anyone anymore. But these people can also give their opinion when such forum thread appears, like you or me. We all have eyes and ears and see other people, how they changed in for example the last decade or two, we can hear their troubles, we have our past experiences etc.

Everyone is welcome to share an opinion. But weighing in doesn't mean you're dealing with that issue or the demographic. More importantly, you're not getting the whole story in a venue like this because there's things they can't discuss. But in an atmosphere more unfiltered you'll encounter the nitty gritty.

When I mention my old haunts I'm referencing spaces like that and I was there 3 weeks ago. No one had this on their profile and they can say what they want. But I noticed a difference and mentioned it on @DragonFox91's thread.

I've been in these communities for years and wouldn't judge the market based on an article or what someone posts on this site. That's not the whole picture. I need a wider sample and it can't be from christians alone or guys struggling to get a girl. They're a minority. You want to hear from people who don't have issues that are going on dates.

Everyone isn't struggling and you want to find out why some are and some aren't. There's a time factor no one discusses and I mentioned it on his thread. Things move in waves and when you're an outlier you have to catch the wave while you can because the darlings never change.

Geeks were in and now it's done and we're back to normal. When things are trending people are more receptive. The stereotype was altered because the media made them cool. Now we're back to hyper mode and tradition is it. So you don an apron and take a pic and here they come. A guy does the same before a workout or in a suit. The psyche was primed by the media. You're just giving it what it wants.

~bella