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Women are using the 6-6-6 dating rule to find the perfect man — but is it hurting their chance at finding love?

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I don't fit the gold standard, in fact, I'm light years away from the gold standard. Yet I'm still trying to improve myself purely for health and spiritual purposes. Like I'm keeping in shape but doing it entirely with diet and exercise. No surgery, no drugs.

What you're doing for yourself is laudable. Whether it's recognized or not. You're trying and that makes a difference. That's why you'll be okay because you haven't given up.

I'm not concerned not fitting the gold standard anyway, I'm not looking for women who fits the gold standard and I'm assuming there are also women who thinks the same because otherwise, I'll have no hope of finding someone!

They'll get to women eventually and it's already underway. She'll have her walk of shame as well. Perhaps it's necessary to bring an end to the gender wars. They've gotten ridiculous and we don't see each other anymore.

It's not the fact you're attracted to height, fitness or want discretionary income. It's when that's all you see or all that matters that's problematic. We're more than that and it seems we've forgotten.

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Young people are working through religious trauma en masse, after the rise of fundamentalism in the 1980's and 1990's. Sometimes that involves alot of drama and poor choices, but I can understand where they are coming from.

Oh, I understand very well where they're coming from. For a while as a teenager, I suffered from a similar, even if "lite" 1980's form of this sad outlook on life and sexuality. I had little desire as a teenager to associate with Christianity and I identified with the more or less rebellious, M-TV generation side of things.

Obviously, this choice of 6-6-6 nomenclature by some women today to identify and label their desires into a meme and forumula isn't something completely new. However, I'm just not sure that the spread over the population "en masse," as you pointed out, is purely the result of ONLY trauma.

I'm not buying the "trauma card" as the trump explanation in the new game of social development. Sure, I get it----some people really have experienced a measure of religious trauma due to the psychological inner-cult of their particular family or church, being that those family's or church's ideological structures are obtuse and at times hellacious.

But I have a difficult time buying into the idea that every person out there today who is choosing the route of outright polyamory and then delineating their course of decision along the lines of an overt "anti-christian" 6-6-6 formula is all due to trauma.

Sure. We're all sexual beings and social creatures, and the Sexual Revolution isn't new, but there seems to be an inner ID in all of this, driving everyone's sexual EGO with a new impetus beyond what I even saw growing up from the 1960's through the 1980's.
 
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In case the discovery has scared you, Dating by Blaine advised that 'none of these traits are a requirement for most women.'

She added: "Height, income, and physique are a tiny subset of the hundreds of traits that make up the greater tableau of who you are, and who she’s hoping to meet."

Without mincing her words, the writer focused her attention on the men on the receiving end.

She added that hearing about the '666 rule' allows men to 'evade responsibility for their dating woes.'

She concluded: "For example, it’s a lot easier on your ego to believe that women aren’t interested in you because you’re short ("my height’s out of my control" —> "being single and unhappy isn’t my fault”) than to believe that women aren’t interested in you because you’re insecure, low-empathy, creepy, or boring."

Much to think about.



 
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I don't believe this is genuine. I hadn't looked at the article and pieces in the Post are for the populace. I was on a site with profiles three weeks ago and didn't see the slogan. Nor have I encountered anyone insisting on a six-pack in addition to the pair. I believe that was added to facilitate the 6-6-6 moniker.
Yeah, I agree with you that the New York Post isn't the New York Times in power and influence, and if the yellow-journalism here in the OP article is exaggerating the claim about the 'new usage' of 6-6-6 among some women (some women), I don't think it's far of .......** cough** ....... the mark to say that it has some currency.

The piece is meant to encourage its use among women and make men despondent about their prospects. They want to trigger them and it's evident in the symbolism and timing of the article.

It was right before a full moon and eclipse. You'll notice a lot of orange in the images and there's a reason for that. We've entered the ember months (all months ending in ember) and the period is more challenging in the spirit realm and requires reinforcement. Some people produce ember month prayers for that reason.

Symbolically speaking, orange relates to fires and decapitation in this period. You may have noticed its appearance in the media and associated it with fall. But that's not what it means all the time and you have to look at the piece to see who's losing their head or taking it.

The ideal is surrounded by the hue and represents the aggressor while the others are victims. The obvious outcome of something like this is negative. Back in the day men rated women by numbers. But only the devil could turn that on its head and create a slogan that uses the same against them.

You can't change your height and impressing the need for greater income in this economy would be frustrating. This is a period when a man is more likely to need support than demands. That's why they did it. They know layoffs are increasing and things are getting harder. You destroy your enemy while he's weak.

~bella

.... sister Bella, it's beginning to feel like every day, or even every year, is set to become "Ember." At least, that's what I've come to feel since, like everyone else, I saw this years Olympics. It's just further coalescence.

Great comments, Bella !
 
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Research it.

Research it? Do you mean, like go out to the google search engine, plug in 6-6-6 dating trend, press enter and find something like this, sort of research? ;)

"The 666 dating trend has returned" -
Even if this meme isn't wide-spread, it's ridiculous that someone thinks this social phenomenon some women [SOME] may use needs to be made into a meme.
 
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"Nearly Half of Young Men Aren’t Dating" and "Most young men are single".

That means the "looking for the Mr. Perfect" young women are either dating older rich guys or taking turns on the few young ones.
 
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Research it? Do you mean, like go out to the google search engine, plug in 6-6-6 dating trend, press enter and find something like this, sort of research? ;)

"The 666 dating trend has returned" -
Even if this meme isn't wide-spread, it's ridiculous that someone thinks this social phenomenon some women [SOME] may use needs to be made into a meme.
Yes research it. It’s nothing new. It’s been going on for years although the requirements are completely superficial now.
 
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"Nearly Half of Young Men Aren’t Dating" and "Most young men are single".

That means the the most young women are either dating older rich guys or take turns on the few young ones.
I think that has more with delayed maturity due to the culture now than silly dating trends.
 
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I think that has more with delayed maturity due to the culture now than silly dating trends.
I would say it has something to do with the fact that women are less and less attractive. Most of them are overweight, many of them tattooed, with weird hair colors, unpleasant to be with and lost femininity.

And many of those who still look at least averagely good, have the unrealistic requirements as said in the OP.
 
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I would say it has something to do with the fact that women are less and less attractive. Most of them are overweight, many of them tattooed, with weird hair colors, unpleasant to be with and lost femininity.

And the minority of those who still look good, have the unrealistic requirements as said in the OP.
I’ve seen that but I have also seen many women that take pride in their appearance as well. A lot of it has to do with where you go.

Also, the hook up culture does not help matters.
 
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I would say it has something to do with the fact that women are less and less attractive. Most of them are overweight, many of them tattooed, with weird hair colors, unpleasant to be with and lost femininity.

And many of those who still look at least averagely good, have the unrealistic requirements as said in the OP.

Women aren't complaining about singleness. It's primarily men bringing it up and mentioning statistics. The ones who do aren't blaming their appearance for the imbalance or their lack of success. They say they're not responsive or looking for someone else. They're not talking to the women you described.

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Women aren't complaining about singleness.
They are, quite a lot. Even though most young women are not single at a specific time (or at least they think so), their relationships are so unstable that their relationship situation is like a roller coaster. One month in a relationship, another one without it or in a different one.

It's primarily men bringing it up and mentioning statistics. The ones who do aren't blaming their appearance for the imbalance or their lack of success. They say they're not responsive or looking for someone else. They're not talking to the women you described.
I guess those actively complaining men are those who still try to date with good looking women, but cannot find any success. However, a lot of Western or Asian men simply stopped looking, because its not worth it anymore. Even if they found an average looking girl, the relationships are so emotional, exhausting and difficult today, that its not lasting too long.
 
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Yeah, I agree with you that the New York Post isn't the New York Times in power and influence, and if the yellow-journalism here in the OP article is exaggerating the claim about the 'new usage' of 6-6-6 among some women (some women), I don't think it's far of .......** cough** ....... the mark to say that it has some currency.

The height and money for sure but abs? ;-)

I like tall men but never had it on my profile. I put no one over 40 before and they went postal! They flooded my inbox with accusations of discrimination and related nonsense. It was hilarious.

... sister Bella, it's beginning to feel like every day, or even every year, is set to become "Ember." At least, that's what I've come to feel since, like everyone else, I saw this years Olympics. It's just further coalescence.

Great comments, Bella !

Thankie Brother Philo ~snugs

I'm getting increasingly blasé about it all. The train has left the building and ready or not it's coming. You'll look back and say 2024 wasn't that bad. Which lets you know we're headed for worse.

~bella
 
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They are, quite a lot. Even though most young women are not single at the specific time (or at least they think so), their relationships are so unstable that their relationship situation is like a roller coaster. One month in a relationship, another one without it or in a different one.

There's a difference from cycling between men and having an empty dance card. They're not single. They're relationally unstable. That's not the same. The fact that they can trade in men that frequently is a clue. People genuinely struggling to make connections don't behave like that or have the opportunity to do so.

I guess those actively complaining men are those who still try to date with good looking women, but cannot find any success. However, a lot of Western or Asian men simply stopped looking, because its not worth it anymore. Even if they found an average looking girl, the relationships are so emotional and difficult today, that its not lasting too long.

The constant references to women based on their appearance is what started this. A person who wants to settle down is looking for a companion. Not a face or a number. If you keep referring to women that way don't be surprised when they do the same. That's why you have a meme.

The majority are struggling because they had no preparation for marriage at home and the bulk of their knowledge about the opposite sex is derived from the internet. They rely on strangers to tell about her character and shortcomings and she's equally clueless where he's concerned.

Most of this stuff is foolishness and meant to sow discord and wrong judgment. You can't have a healthy relationship listening to poison about one another. Men and women are still coming together but you won't know that if you're in a bubble.

~bella
 
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I don't believe this is genuine. I hadn't looked at the article and pieces in the Post are for the populace. I was on a site with profiles three weeks ago and didn't see the slogan. Nor have I encountered anyone insisting on a six-pack in addition to the pair. I believe that was added to facilitate the 6-6-6 moniker.

The piece is meant to encourage its use among women and make men despondent about their prospects. They want to trigger them and it's evident in the symbolism and timing of the article.

It was right before a full moon and eclipse. You'll notice a lot of orange in the images and there's a reason for that. We've entered the ember months (all months ending in ember) and the period is more challenging in the spirit realm and requires reinforcement. Some people produce ember month prayers for that reason.

Symbolically speaking, orange relates to fires and decapitation in this period. You may have noticed its appearance in the media and associated it with fall. But that's not what it means all the time and you have to look at the piece to see who's losing their head or taking it.

The ideal is surrounded by the hue and represents the aggressor while the others are victims. The obvious outcome of something like this is negative. Back in the day men rated women by numbers. But only the devil could turn that on its head and create a slogan that uses the same against them.

You can't change your height and impressing the need for greater income in this economy would be frustrating. This is a period when a man is more likely to need support than demands. That's why they did it. They know layoffs are increasing and things are getting harder. You destroy your enemy while he's weak.

~bella

I'm interested in physical fitness, which means tangentially I encounter the bodybuilding scene (most of which is really toxic), and most women actually don't find muscular physiques all that attractive. It's men that find that sort of thing "attractive", generally speaking, not women. Sometimes even to a degree that is unhealthy (eating disorders and body dysmorphia are on the rise in young men, not coincidentally). Women tend to judge men that are moderately fit and not overweight as the most physically attractive.
 
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The constant references to women based on their appearance is what started this. A person who wants to settle down is looking for a companion. Not a face or a number. If you keep referring to women that way don't be surprised when they do the same. That's why you have a meme.
I have no idea what you are referring to. In any case, nobody wants to just "settle down with whomever". If its supposed to be some quality relationship, there must be some attractiveness and long-time perspective.
 
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We are being tricked by our DNA. Evolution has programmed men to overvalue youth and beauty, whereas women are wired to overvalue physical strength and ability to provide resources. In the primitive world, these values made sense to promote preservation of the species. In the modern world, they do not.

To quote from Bill Maher, and to represent the male perspective, "30 minutes of great sex is not worth 23 1/2 hours of weeping and burning the pillows."

Seriously though, both men and women would, I think, be well advised to be wary of the direction their reptilian hindbrains want them to go. That way lies disaster.

As dull and as boring as it may sound, I believe people should be looking for commitment, compatibility, and communication and toss standards like abs, the 6 feet, the 100k+ (used to assess men) and youth and beauty (to assess women).
 
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I'm interested in physical fitness, which means tangentially I encounter the bodybuilding scene (most of which is really toxic), and most women actually don't find muscular physiques all that attractive. It's men that find that sort of thing "attractive", generally speaking, not women. Sometimes even to a degree that is unhealthy (eating disorders and body dysmorphia are on the rise in young men, not coincidentally). Women tend to judge men that are moderately fit and not overweight as the most physically attractive.

Exactly. That's why I questioned the abs inclusion. It was a thing years ago but women aren't turning down men because they don't have a 6 pack. Most men don't.

I've always preferred a long and lean physique. Some definition is fine but I'm not into bulk. I don't know many who are unless they're with an athlete.

~bella
 
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