Would you marry a woman who was a former stripper or X-rated star if she turned into a Christian ?

[Divide]

I love your realistic response. Unfortunately I think many Christians these days give unrealistic overtly positive responses. Last question why might they be more deceptive ?

Many reasons. Depends what their in to. Materialism, lust for sex, lust for food, keeping up with the Jones's, power, control, trinkets.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

... I see this thread has taken a nose-dive.

So how about we do this instead? How about we stay focused on that which the OP originally laid out rather than going off on erratic tangents from the focus and for which noone could possibly provide any decisive, final "Word of Wisdom"?

 

[QuestionQuest74]

Here is a tip I learned as an intelligence analyst:

When goal is to get information from a source and you've finally got them talking...don't argue with them.

When did I argue?

 

[timothyu]

Can't women be expected to suck it up when they get said no too? What does think when she hears no? Oh no that is offensive to me because everybody should want me.....That's weird.

A Christian woman became very angry at my no as she believed it was my God given duty to marry based not on compatibility but belief and duty to God's command to marry. She assumed that because I didn't want to marry her, it meant I had no use for marriage at all and was not the Christian she thought me to be.

 

[Divide]

A Christian woman became very angry at my no as she believed it was my God given duty to marry based not on compatibility but belief and duty to God's command to marry. She assumed that because I didn't want to marry her, it meant I had no use for marriage at all.

It's like they say, hell has no fury like a woman who's been scorned (rejected).

 

[Divide]

I remember reading about some experiement they did where they a girl look through pics of men and rate them according to desirability. Then her last choice of all of them was locked into a room with her for 48 hours (I think). Now she was pretty so the man showed attention to her. This idsgusted her and she was harsh to him and said leave me alone. Then they let a new girl into the room with them both and the man of course showed the new girl attention because the other one was hostile to him.

But the first girl began to compete for his attention when the other woman came in. She missed his attention and didnt even like him or want him.

Girls are sure wired weird, lol.

 

[Hazelelponi]

You think so? So her sins did no damage to her? What about Romans 12:2 ? Has she been transformed in her mind by the word of God that she never puts down? Or does she even study?

I'm guessing you are a young man because you find that to be wife material? You may change your mind when you are older. But by then, how much contention will there be?

No, I'm a woman. I'm just a Christian who changed her life.

As I earlier noted, I'm a former Muslim. I have my own baggage that comes into my present, and I absolutely believe that it takes a special man to be my husband.

But there was one. I'm married to a great Christian man that I am perfect for and who is perfect for me.

I feel the same about a former SW as I do myself... It won't be just any Christian man, I think we have to be very particular and really know ourselves before we can decide if we can handle some of a person's baggage (please see my first couple posts in this thread)

But I absolutely believe that someone with a non-believing background can (and do every day) become very real Christians. And probably far better Christians than many pew sitters out there.

Didn't Jesus say the one who is forgiven much loves much?

 

[timothyu]

What of the non sex trade woman who through no fault of her own, was brought up by circumstance to believe sex equates love and had been around the block with many users until she perhaps realized love was something else? Would she be suitable? There are more of these in the world than in the trade.

 

[timothyu]

But the first girl began to compete for his attention when the other woman came in. She missed his attention and didnt even like him or want him.

Humans tend to follow their animal instinct. That is why the Kingdom is so alien to them.

 

[Divide]

No, I'm a woman. I'm just a Christian who changed her life.

As I earlier noted, I'm a former Muslim. I have my own baggage that comes into my present, and I absolutely believe that it takes a special man to be my husband.

But there was one. I'm married to a great Christian man that I am perfect for and who is perfect for me.

I feel the same about a former SW as I do myself... It won't be just any Christian man, I think we have to be very particular and really know ourselves before we can decide if we can handle some of a person's baggage (please see my first couple posts in this thread)

But I absolutely believe that someone with a non-believing background can (and do every day) become very real Christians.

I'll buy that mostly. There is always an exception to the rule and I am well aware of this. I'm not saying that a colorful past is not able to be overcome either. Mostly, I'm saying that time is too short to take on a project like that, unless the Spirit led me to do it.

 

[Divide]

What of the non sex trade woman who through no fault of her own, was brought up by circumstance to believe sex equates love and had been around the block with many users until she perhaps realized love was something else? Would she be suitable? There are more of these in the world than in the trade.

I wouldnt say no. I'd have to meet her.

 

[Divide]

There are more of these in the world than in the trade.

And they're all married already!

 

[Divide]

... I see this thread has taken a nose-dive.

So how about we do this instead? How about we stay focused on that which the OP originally laid out rather than going off on erratic tangents from the focus and for which noone could possibly provide any decisive, final "Word of Wisdom"?

I'm trying to stay on topic, but this marriage thing is a huge deal in life for a man. (used to be anyway). and there are delicate considerations to be ironed out or else the marriage would probably be doomed to failure. So I dont think they're really tangents.

 

[Hazelelponi]

I'll buy that mostly. There is always an exception to the rule and I am well aware of this. I'm not saying that a colorful past is not able to be overcome either. Mostly, I'm saying that time is too short to take on a project like that, unless the Spirit led me to do it.

And for you I'm sure that won't be an issue, God will likely never call you to that. . but if someone has truly become Christian she will likely make someone a good wife. Just throwing that out there.

The first thing you have to do is use the Bible to judge whether or not she is a Christian (we look at actions and not words) and make sure she's been walking the walk for a couple years at least...

If she checks likely a good Christian box, then you can decide if you can personally deal with the baggage she brings - we aren't all the same - and take the issue to God.

 

[timothyu]

And they're all married already!

Perhaps. But any mate, male or female may match up without ever knowing what love actually is. What we really seek is a reliable best friend once all the hormones have settled.

 

[timothyu]

then you can decide if you can personally deal with the baggage she brings

Might it not be a matter of the guys own hang-ups about sharing (even if he is the last as the old saying goes, you may not be my first but you'll be my last)) a woman who may have had hundreds if not thousands of men?

 

[Divide]

Didn't Jesus say the one who is forgiven much loves much?

Yes He did. And that's very astute of you to know that.

Nobody is worse than another. But Marriage is a special coming together and it takes two very special people to become matched up. You sound like you have been very blessed. Praise the Lord!

 

[Hazelelponi]

Might it not be a matter of the guys own hang-ups about sharing (even if he is the last as the old saying goes, you may not be my first but you'll be my last)) a woman who may have had hundreds if not thousands of men?

Yes. That and more.

 

[Divide]

And for you I'm sure that won't be an issue, God will likely never call you to that. . but if someone has truly become Christian she will likely make someone a good wife. Just throwing that out there.

The first thing you have to do is use the Bible to judge whether or not she is a Christian (we look at actions and not words) and make sure she's been walking the walk for a couple years at least...

If she checks likely a good Christian box, then you can decide if you can personally deal with the baggage she brings - we aren't all the same - and take the issue to God.

That makes sense to me.

 

[Hazelelponi]

Yes He did. And that's very astute of you to know that.

Nobody is worse than another. But Marriage is a special coming together and it takes two very special people to become matched up. You sound like you have been very blessed. Praise the Lord!

Marriage is a special thing and we really do have to give grave consideration before jumping in. I agree!