Oh good grief, you guys...I'm 5'5" (165 cm), thanks to having short parents (5'2" and 5'8", respectively), and while I may never have had the experience of women beating down my door for dates, I'm also not a "woe is me" sad sack, so I've done okay. There are women out there who will date you if you're short; you just have to have other qualities that they want in men, which can be hard to develop if you're hyper-focused on how women don't want you because you're too short for them or whatever. Fine. I'm not denying that there are women like that (I don't think anyone would), so guess what? They're as dead to you now as you are to them. Forget about them. Now there are fewer to have to sift through. That's a good thing. To hear some women tell it, being inundated with unwanted and uninspired male attention from men on dating apps, most of whom are desperate to get any attention at all, is a big reason why they end up deleting or going silent on those apps. Try to see it from their perspective, please: if every time you opened Tinder or OKCupid or whatever, you were flooded with a million "Hi"s, "Hey"s, and some things I wouldn't repeat on a Christian website, in very short order you'd burn out and/or become very selective and not shy about stating the selection process up-front, wouldn't you? I know I would, and I've never even used any of those apps, nor of course been a woman. That sounds exhausting even second-hand, but it appears to be the reality for many women in the modern dating scene. The power is definitely tilted their way (always has been; only the methods of selecting have changed), but that's apparently not as great as it sounds.
So y 'know...a little less whining and a little more empathizing and being willing to be discerning yourself (read: don't even bother with women who won't even bother with you; don't send generic messages out in a scattershot fashion; etc.) could do wonders. I can only assume that most men won't do this because they're fixated on the 'unfairness' of it all, which ruins their chances of getting a mate. (Would you want to date someone who presents themselves as a complainer against your entire gender? I wouldn't, since I, like everyone, want to be taken on as an individual).
There's also the reality that many women who are willing to date you are not necessarily the type that you want to date. I've heard some really wild reasons for passing on perfectly normal and decent-seeming women, e.g., "I don't like how close she is to her cats" (wouldn't want to date a crazy cat lady, eh gentlemen?), "she called/texted too much" (the horror! the horror of having a woman want to talk to you!), "she didn't like how much time I spent video gaming/drinking with my friends/smoking marijuana" (never mind that there are women who would conceivably be fine with all of those things, this particular woman you are dating should want to date someone who lives in a way she does not want around her, just because you want her to, I guess? I still don't get this one), etc., etc. My point in all this isn't to say "Therefore no women ever have ridiculous standards for who they'll date", but that everyone does; it's just that women can afford to be more up-front about what they want because the 80-20 rule is in play, and obviously favors them. If the genders that this applied to were reversed, you'd likely see a lot more men with "No fat chicks" (even if they themselves are fat), "No feminists", "No this", "No that" all over their profiles. As it is, generally-speaking the men who do put things like that in their profiles are passed over, because it reads like entitlement to think that you can come on to a dating platform with nothing but your cheetoh-stained fingers and your love of Japanese swords and fedora hats and dictate to women who have perhaps hundreds of way better options than you a click away what they can and cannot be if they want to date you, god's gift to women that you are. NB: this is purposely stereotyping the guy involved, but a lot of guys who don't fit this physical and hobbies description still very much give off strong "entitled gross dork who is delusional about what he brings to the table" vibes, or whatever you'd call it. Entitlement only works when there's enough for everyone to go around. When things get lean (say, because the dating app about you use is 80% or more lonely, schlubby men), and 'hard cuts' have to be made, the majority end up taking it on the chin.
