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Men don't lose their jobs for becoming parents.

Men don't get 52 weeks off for being parents.

As I understand it, in Australia, once you've exhausted your paid sick leave, you can be fired if you can't return to work after three months (which would be unpaid leave). So nobody is arguing for being paid indefinitely while being unable to work.

Right...so you exhaust your work leave in 4 months and let go....because of the barrier keeping you as an employee created by yoour leave.



None of which has anything to do with pregnancy discrimination, when most employers don't offer paid maternity leave, either!

Right but the barriers for employers and coworkers is still there. A sick employee is a burden an employer isn't expected to keep after 3-4 months. A pregnant employee gets a year.

That's still a barrier for the women, though.

No it's not...women have choices, those choices have consequences.

Still seems dodgy to me, but I'm not an expert on American workplace law, and I imagine they have good lawyers advising them, so presumably they've found a loophole.

It's a contract.


On the one hand, the person whose maternity leave contract comes to an end isn't being "fired." It was only ever for a fixed period and he had all the benefits of it. Nobody has treated him unfairly.

Nobody has treated the pregnant woman who signs a contract unfairly either.


But a contract that tries to deliberately suppress avenues for justice for mistreated employees is a whole other level of iniquitous.

She signed a contract agreeing to that for employment....just like the guy signing a contract saying he's fired when the new mother returns.


I think every workplace needs rules against harassment and bullying.

I agree.


I'm not sure I"d say it's "just" a feeling, but in the workplace this is irrelevant.

It is though.



"Mutual support contributes to important team outcomes.

Regarding work, not your personal life.

Teams who engage in mutual support are more effective. That is, they make fewer errors, help each other out, can correct their own issues, can redistribute tasks so work is completed effectively and efficiently, and are more resilient."

Again, you're talking about work...I don't have to adopt your worldview for us to work as a team.



From here: https://www.apa.org/education-career/k12/support-instructor-script.pdf

I would add, safety - including psychological safety - in the workplace is something your employer has an obligation to ensure for all the employees.

That's a ridiculous statement. Your employer isn't obligated to protect your fragile feelings.

I'm just going to ignore the ludicrous red herring comparison to being a vampire.

I wish it were. It's called a xenogender. Xenogender - Nonbinary Wiki

Not only is this considered valid by many of trans activists but you should consider it valid for this discussion....because it's exactly the same arguments. Why can't someone be a vampire? If they feel like a vampire, and identify as a vampire, they are a vampire. They can go by pronouns like vamp and vampself.

I wish I were making this up. It's a clear result of people indulging in the delusion of others.
 
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I get the concept as a model of understanding and categorising people. as below ↓ :)

Biological Sex
View attachment 334425
Gender Spectrum


Yes - "Gender Dysphoria" in the UK. (Although Im not a medical person - I'm sure we are all oversimplifying things haha)

Like their "gender energy" is so strong it overrides there biological assignment - creating an incredible tension within a person (dysphoria)
I think I'm understanding??
And to add > One attempt to relieve the dysphoria is to align your sex with the gender as well as requesting society to align their align their behaviour towards you with your perception of your gender (not theirs).

At least thats how I've understood the basic discussion.
Along with loads of subsidiary discussions about the components of the model.

???
Sounds about right to me. And I like the diagram. It clarifies it quite well.
 
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Notice how you said 'You Will' use pronouns like its a moral imperitive.
It's morally incumbent on you to treat everyone with respect. Referring to my nephew as 'she' would be disrespectful and insulting. Do I care about what you believe? Do I care if you think people are deluded? Do I care if you think they're mentally ill? Not in the slightest. I can't emphasise that enough. But I do care about how you might act towards my friends, family or work colleagues. I do expect you, and will actually demand from you that if it's concerning people who are close to me that you do show that respect

If it was in a social situation and it concerned a friend or relative then choice would be yours. It always will be. But if you refused to do as asked then you would be simply ignored. You would be excluded from the group. No-one would talk to you or acknowledge you. And if it was a work situation then I'd refuse to work with you and leave it to the company to solve the problem.

And now you can correct your statement about the majority of people not accepting pronouns. I'm still waiting for that.
 
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You are very vague in your rebuttal. Some of the evdience, what evidence? You can't just make a vague assertion and then offer no support.
My assertion would be that your evidence, at best, shows that there are some very basic emotional reactions linked to survival, which appear consistently and early in our development.

That is such a far cry from morality being inborn it's not funny. Empathy is not morality. Recognising altruism is not morality. Morality involves complex higher cognitive functions, which are not developed in infants and which are something we develop and learn as we grow.

Kohlberg's stages of moral development would be a good place to begin to consider how morality develops as we grow.
Why, being social creatures requires being moral by the fact that just living together brings out dilemmas we have to deal with that involves making moral judegments about behaviour.
And you've never noticed that toddlers don't have the capacity to manage those situations and dilemmas?
tell me if we are made in Gods image and therefore have the spark of the divine in us how does this not mean part of that is Gods laws.
Again we come back to the question: what does it mean to be made in the image of God? Common answers over the millennia of Christian thought have included dignity, agency, free will, rationality, relationality. What Christians have not tended to see it as meaning is that we somehow arrive with a pre-programmed moral sense. Far from it; the traditions which have wrestled with this most deeply have all ended up emphasised the formation of the conscience as a critical developmental (and teaching) task.
In fact research also shows that belief is also inbred as divine ideas like a moral lawgiver, a creator entity, life after death (a soul) ect.
Really? Then how do you explain atheists?
The studies already factored this out.
Not possible. The infants had had contact with other people, which means, experience and learning from interacting with and observing them.
Later studies with infants found their belief in divine concepts and moral sense are not simply anthropomorphized from adults.
How on earth do you gauge the religiosity of pre-verbal infants?
Why is it that you keep making these absolute claims like "Oh dear Lord, no" or "absolutely not" and then I can easily refute this by just showing one counter view.
You might think you're refuting what I'm saying, but it is not in the slightest bit convincing. To be blunt, to me, your claims are completely unsupported, and a very ill-informed and simplistic take on history, science, and theology.
The Church done horrible things this century but we still knew about the Truth of Human Rights.
No. No we didn't. Not in the sense you mean. You might find it interesting to investigate the principle of "Error non habet ius" and the way it has been applied.
You mean modern perspective on the same Truth principles that have been around throughout our history.
No, I do not. I mean you are claiming a continuity of "truth principles" that is, in fact, not the case.
I just showed you even secular rulers knew these truth principles of equality and freedom even in the ancient world let alone Christians.
If that were true, we wouldn't have had millennia of slavery; of the divine right of kings; of patriarchy, and so on. You cherry-pick a few statements here and there and say this illustrates some universal truth, but the vast weight of evidence is that people did not think, or write, or live, in accordance with the truth you're claiming they all knew.
Let me ask you why did the declaration of the US and other nations say that the natural Rights of all are self-evident and inalienable. What did they mean is they did not mean self-evident.
Look at what the US's declaration of independence was doing; it was justifying separation from England, from the crown, and from the claims made about the authority of the crown. They are justifying their rebellion by claiming they have a right to rebel. Of course they're going to use the strongest rhetoric they can muster.

What you have to consider is that, at the time, these arguments were not universally accepted. They were by no means taken as self-evident by all, not least by the people asserting the authority of the crown. They then had to fight a war about it, and if they'd lost, this declaration would have become an obscure historical footnote. But history, as they say, is written by the victors...
The principle of limiting governments and Kings was about equality, about every person having equal Rights to life. It put the commoner on equal footing to governments as far as individual Rights were concerned.
If that were true, we wouldn't have seen (for example) the death penalty continue. The power of kings was limited, in order to contain their destructive potential, but it wasn't about equality.
I agree our conscience can be lacking, we can trick it, we can knowingly over ride it. But this does not negate that there are truths we can know in the world including moral truths, Gods perfect law which is written on our hearts, our conscience.
No, I'm not talking about tricking or ignoring one's conscience. I'm talking about a conscience which, to be blunt, gets it wrong.
But somehow your then taking this to claim there are no moral truths we can know through our conscience.
No, that's not what I'm claiming. I'm rejecting your position that our conscience is inborn and infallible. That doesn't mean we can't have a well-formed conscience, but that's not a given.
Anyone can claim I didn't know it was wrong or I didn't feel or think it was wrong.
Anyone can, in fact, not know that something was wrong.
You keep making these absolute claims and I keep knocking them down.
Lol.
Most Historians and even the UN acknowledges that the foundations for Human Rights has been around for millenia. I have already provided support for this.
This is like saying that Christine de Pisan was the first feminist. It's true that there are themes in her work which relate to later feminist ideas, but to claim her as a feminist is to project a whole social development and worldview backward onto her in a way which anachronistically distorts who she was.

So yes, it's true that there are ancient documents and moments which relate to later ideas about human rights. But to claim those as some sort of ancient expression of those ideas about human rights, and the worldview around them, that we hold today, projects our modern situation backward onto them in a way which anachronistically and profoundly distorts their historical reality.
It elevates all humans from the corruptable to the incorruptable.
All humans? I would have thought that would be something we might claim for those who are in Christ.
But those who believe women are not made in Gods image are blanatantly denying Gods Truth and even the Truth of secularists such as in the US and most nations Declaration.
All I am doing is illustrating for you that your take on what it means to be made in God's image is not even universally agreed by Christians.
Just because this Truth exists doesn't automatically mean that everyone will agree
Aren't you the one who's been claiming that everyone, everywhere, has always known this as some transcendant, overriding truth?
Yes we do in Gods hands.
We don't even all believe in God. This is no basis for agreed human rights in a secular pluralist society.

Men don't get 52 weeks off for being parents.
Again, either parent can take parental leave.
Right...so you exhaust your work leave in 4 months and let go....because of the barrier keeping you as an employee created by yoour leave.
Because you're not able to return to work. But that's not (generally) true after having a baby.
A pregnant employee gets a year.
You're very stuck on that figure. In America it's twelve weeks, which really isn't that big a deal.
No it's not...women have choices, those choices have consequences.
Women face choices men never have to make, and face barriers as women because of that.
Nobody has treated the pregnant woman who signs a contract unfairly either.
If the contract sets out to deliberately strip her of her legal rights, it darned well is unfair!
It is though.
Not when it comes to the need to interact respectfully with your co-workers.
Regarding work, not your personal life.
How you relate to and communicate with others in the workplace is not a matter of one's "personal life."
That's a ridiculous statement. Your employer isn't obligated to protect your fragile feelings.
To some degree, they are. Eg. see here:
"As an employer you must:
Provide a healthy and safe workplace both physically and mentally. This is a legal requirement under work health and safety laws.
  • Prevent harm by identifying and managing any factors that can impact workplace mental health.
    ...
  • Keep a record of workplace illness or injuries, including psychological injuries. You can do this by having a ‘registry of injuries’. SafeWork NSW has advice on having a register of injuries."

    And here, which mentions global standards around this: Psychological health and safety in 2023: What’s changed?



 
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Again, either parent can take parental leave.

When you originally stated this, you framed it as requiring the wife's permission. It's not something men simply get because it's available to single mothers but not single men.



Because you're not able to return to work. But that's not (generally) true after having a baby.

There's plenty of conditions and illnesses that can require more than 3 months off before returning to work.

Yet your nation doesn't extend that benefit to men. Why not? Do you suppose that after a certain amount of time it's a burden to employers and coworkers?


You're very stuck on that figure. In America it's twelve weeks, which really isn't that big a deal.

At Hobby Lobby it appears that it's zero....and they hire more women than men. A good indicator that maternity leave is the barrier here....not women.

Women face choices men never have to make, and face barriers as women because of that.

This undermines the whole idea that trans-women are women. Yet you see it fit for businesses to try to force me to lie and pretend they are because you happen to see this sort of dishonesty and lying as something moral.

Just out of curious, how do you square this with the commandment against lying? How do you promote the idea that you shouldn't bear false witness while simultaneously promoting the idea that trans women are effectively women?

Your statement that "women face choices men never have to make" is a rather revealing statement when the context clearly refers to getting pregnant. It seems when push comes to shove...you believe in a biological definition of women that excludes transwomen.

Ultimately the only difference between you and I on the issue of whether or not transwomen are women is that I'm honest....and unafraid of the consequences of my honesty.

If the contract sets out to deliberately strip her of her legal rights, it darned well is unfair!

I'm assuming that your country doesn't allow hiring or firing on the basis of biological sex. Therefore, the contract any man signs for employment until a woman returns also violates his rights.

After all....if he were a woman all she would have to do is get pregnant towards the end of her contract and she could effectively get paid maternity leave as well.


Not when it comes to the need to interact respectfully with your co-workers.

What's respectful about lying to them? What's respectful about demanding your coworkers lie?

Since we both now agree that he isn't a she....it seems even more disrespectful to request/demand this.

Your god hates lies, doesn't he?

Proverbs 12-16 to 12-22.

16 Fools show their annoyance at once,
but the prudent overlook an insult.
17 An honest witness tells the truth,
but a false witness tells lies.
18 The words of the reckless pierce like swords,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
19 Truthful lips endure forever,
but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.
20 Deceit is in the hearts of those who plot evil,
but those who promote peace have joy.
21 No harm overtakes the righteous,
but the wicked have their fill of trouble.
22 The Lord detests lying lips,
but he delights in people who are trustworthy.

Not only does your God detest lies....but he finds it foolish to immediately chafe at a mere insult.

What exactly do you do in the church? How do you define failure at the position again? It seems like your council on this strays far from the council of your god.



How you relate to and communicate with others in the workplace is not a matter of one's "personal life."

Someone's personal opinion on their feelings as it relates to how they choose to live their lives is entirely the realm of "personal life".

To some degree, they are. Eg. see here:
"As an employer you must:
Provide a healthy and safe workplace both physically and mentally. This is a legal requirement under work health and safety laws.
  • Prevent harm by identifying and managing any factors that can impact workplace mental health.

Look....bad laws are bad laws. I'd call a law that requires your employees to adopt a particular worldview irrelevant to the workplace a bad law.




  • ...
  • Keep a record of workplace illness or injuries, including psychological injuries. You can do this by having a ‘registry of injuries’. SafeWork NSW has advice on having a register of injuries."

How does one prove a "psychological injury" occurred?
.

Global standards? There's no law without enforcement.

 
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When you originally stated this, you framed it as requiring the wife's permission.
Permission might be too strong a word. Like all things in marriage, the spouses are going to need to agree as to how to share work and parentin.
It's not something men simply get because it's available to single mothers but not single men.
If a single man had custody of a child, it would be.
There's plenty of conditions and illnesses that can require more than 3 months off before returning to work.

Yet your nation doesn't extend rhat benefit to men. Why not? Do you suppose that after a certain amount of time it's a burden to employers and coworkers?
I suppose they had to draw a line somewhere, on when it was okay for an employer to fire an employee who had an illness-related reason for not working.
At Hobby Lobby it appears that it's zero....and they hire more women than men. A good indicator that maternity leave is the barrier here....not women.
And yet they still discriminate against women around childbearing. So no, the leave isn't the barrier.
Just out of curious, how do you square this with the commandment against lying?
I don't see it as lying to allow a degree of flexibility in social categories based on gender.
Ultimately the only difference between you and I on the issue of whether or not transwomen are women is that I'm honest....and unafraid of the consequences of my honesty.
I don't have a problem allowing transwomen to be treated socially as women, while acknowledging that biologically they are not natal women. It's really not that difficult a concept.
I'm assuming that your country doesn't allow hiring or firing on the basis of biological sex. Therefore, the contract any man signs for employment until a woman returns also violates his rights.
An employment contract for a fixed period has nothing to do with the sex of the successful applicant.
After all....if he were a woman all she would have to do is get pregnant towards the end of her contract and she could effectively get paid maternity leave as well.
No. She wouldn't even be leaving for maternity leave before the contract ends.
What's respectful about lying to them?
Again, I don't see it as lying.
Someone's personal opinion on their feelings as it relates to how they choose to live their lives is entirely the realm of "personal life".
Not when others engage in harassing behaviour about it.
I'd call a law that requires your employees to adopt a particular worldview irrelevant to the workplace a bad law.
You don't have to adopt the worldview. You just have to align your behaviour with workplace policies.
How does one prove a "psychological injury" occurred?
See here: Psychological Injury At Work: How To Claim | Owen Hodge Lawyers.

Or here: Common Law Claims - Psychological Injury | Law Partners
 
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Post 1740. Where you said:

'Its the principle of rejecting an entire idenity thats the problem. We don't have the Right to delete an entire identity group from society.
Lesbians reject trans women because they are males and not females. In other words they are saying they don't believe transwomen are real women.'

That couldn't be clearer. There is no doubt that it was specifically and unequivocally stated in regard to transwomen and people (lesbians in this case) rejecting that 'entire identity'. You literally said that we don't have that right. And, in passing, even if it was a general comment, it stands on its own and would include everyone. Including those that identify as being trans
This is getting comical now as you are more or less saying that Stevevw who is aganist Trans ideology and has clearly shown this is now advocating for Trans ideology by supporting Trans identity and as a logical follow on Paidiske arguing the opposite is now anti Trans when she is a known supporter of Trans.

I mean Paidiske was the one actually debating me and was in more of a position to know where I was at and not once did she come to the same conclusion as you. Thats because she knew where I was coming from which was to show the irrationality of Trans ideology applied to Rights.

Anyway so you have used my own quotes to make this case right that I am supporting Transwomens identity rights or should support them because that is what my quote meant right. Therefore though its a hassel and I should not have to do this I can do the same.

Now you are going to have to explain how these quotes which clearly contradict your claim and there are plenty more which either directly or indirect contradict your ill formed conclusion. At the very least this weakens your arguement but I would say it completely as you say dismatles it.

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There can be no appropriate guidelines apart from banning transwomen altogether. No amount of hormone treatment to reduce testosterone will change the existing male development.
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Its simple logic. If Trans ideology believes there is no such thing as the category 'biological women' then biological women are erased.
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Well now thanks to Woke ideologues womens bathrooms are not even safe because men can legally enter them now.
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Trans ideology and Critical Race theory are unscientific ideological beliefs like religious belief. Why is it ok for certain beliefs to be enforced and not others.

Whose side am I on.
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Consider the logic. One the one side is Trans identity that wants the Right to be recognised as a real identity of the opposite sex. On the other are Christian beliefs which don't recognise the Trans identity as real. In fact not just Christians but many non Christion professionals or even gays and lesbians.

Even from the outset I made my position clear.
#53
For example the debate about a biological women not being a women according to Trans ideology. This is a fundemental Truth of God and I think is important in standing up for because its a misrepresentation and may lead to many children being harmed.

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But the damage has already been done because we have a lot of kids and adults who are confued by the false claims about sex and gender identity like a little boys can become real girls

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If someones worldview belief is that humans can be the opposite sex in reality then fine keep it to yourself. But don't push it on society like Trans ideology does.

But ironically you even argued I was a Transphobe rather than supporting Trans Rights
Bradskii said #312
Many of the College’s most radical views target transgender people, and in particular, transgender youth. That you are using them to further your arguments says more about you than the matter at hand.

So you already know my position you describe it through my use of what you call transphobic support references. You said this says more about me than the matter at hand. So whats my position. Am I transphobic or an advocate for Trans ideology and identity. Seems I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't in your book.

I have many more like this. I could also provide you with posts or quotes showing the reasoning behind my position which would clearly show that I could not be considered supporting Transideological beliefs or thinking and how supporting trans ideology actually undermines Christian and Western traditional truths such as science, logic, rationality and objective reality.

I will reply to the rest later as I think its a waste of time.
 
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It's morally incumbent on you to treat everyone with respect. Referring to my nephew as 'she' would be disrespectful and insulting. Do I care about what you believe? Do I care if you think people are deluded? Do I care if you think they're mentally ill? Not in the slightest. I can't emphasise that enough. But I do care about how you might act towards my friends, family or work colleagues. I do expect you, and will actually demand from you that if it's concerning people who are close to me that you do show that respect

If it was in a social situation and it concerned a friend or relative then choice would be yours. It always will be. But if you refused to do as asked then you would be simply ignored. You would be excluded from the group. No-one would talk to you or acknowledge you. And if it was a work situation then I'd refuse to work with you and leave it to the company to solve the problem.

And now you can correct your statement about the majority of people not accepting pronouns. I'm still waiting for that.
Ok so lets clear things. As I have already said in this thread that using pronouns depends on the situation. Obviously we need to be polite and coureous in social settings and use pronouns when asked. But as I qualified that when it comes to debate on the issue as a norms in society or for determining the reality of biological sex or generally as far as enforcing speech on others then this is a different matter.

Thats because pronousent a bigger issue about reality, about whether a subjective sense of self is a real objective thing in the world that can actually trump our lived reality of sex. It also represents a change in thinking where we can now use subjectivity in general as the real measure of what is going on. If one is willing to give up long held facts and truths for subjective feelings in one area then this opens the door for other areas. Then we are in big trouble.

AS far as the majority not accepting pronouns I will get to this but after you deal with the first issue I have already replied to.
 
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Permission might be too strong a word. Like all things in marriage, the spouses are going to need to agree as to how to share work and parentin.

I got a feeling that nearly no men are taking maternity leave.

If a single man had custody of a child, it would be.

So you win custody of your child after 5 years and you can take a year of leave?



I suppose they had to draw a line somewhere, on when it was okay for an employer to fire an employee who had an illness-related reason for not working.

And yet they still discriminate against women around childbearing. So no, the leave isn't the barrier.

They aren't discriminating....those women signed a contract. If some guy working for a year in Australia gets fired once the new mom returns to work and it's not discrimination because he signed a contract....neither is this.

I don't see it as lying to allow a degree of flexibility in social categories based on gender.

You said....

"Women face choices men never have to make, and face barriers as women because of that."

In context, you were talking about pregnancy as that choice.


I understand tying women to pregnancy was an accident....and you didn't intend to let the mask slip....

You're essentially saying transwomen aren't women. Transwomen only face choices men make. Transwomen don't get pregnant. They can face problems women don't ever have to face (like erectile dysfunction).

If women face choices men never have to make.....then transwomen are men, because they never have to make those choices.

You're not being "flexible" with the category of women at all...you're just pretending that transwomen are women. You don't actually believe it.







I don't have a problem allowing transwomen to be treated socially as women, while acknowledging that biologically they are not natal women. It's really not that difficult a concept.

Exactly. They aren't actually women. They're men. Woman and man are biological categories....not imaginary identities. You may be ok with lying to them...but I'm not. I shouldn't have to be comfortable with lying because you're uncomfortable with the truth.


An employment contract for a fixed period has nothing to do with the sex of the successful applicant.

What percentage of maternity leave is taken by men? Is it even close to 50%?

No. She wouldn't even be leaving for maternity leave before the contract ends.

And she gets 18 weeks of paid leave, which men won't get.


Again, I don't see it as lying.

Women face choices transwomen will never have to make.

Not when others engage in harassing behaviour about it.

Don't bring your personal life to work.

You don't have to adopt the worldview. You just have to align your behaviour with workplace policies.

Aka lie.



I'm sorry, here in the US we all know those claims are largely cow pies. Lawyers tell clients to get a few therapy sessions in before the trial to soak up as much damages as possible and the person stops seeing a therapist after the trial ends. It's just a trick to get more money.
 
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This is getting comical now as you are more or less saying that Stevevw who is aganist Trans ideology and has clearly shown this is now advocating for Trans ideology by supporting Trans identity...
You wanted to know how it could be shown that you were referring to transwomen.

'You will now have to show how I intended for that statement to apply to Transwomen.'

That has shown to be true. I'll quote you directly again:

'Its the principle of rejecting an entire idenity thats the problem. We don't have the Right to delete an entire identity group from society.
Lesbians reject trans women because they are males and not females. In other words they are saying they don't believe transwomen are real women.'

Now I think you have grasped the problem. You are claiming that lesbians reject an 'entire identity', that being transwomen. You then state as clearly as it's possible to state, that we don't have the Right to delete an entire identity group from society. And that 'we' wasn't quoting someone else. It was your statement. It included all of us. And it includes you.

So maybe the coin has dropped. You, on one hand (as you so obviously have shown), do actually reject that group from society. You point out that (as far as you are concerned) lesbians do as well. But then, in the same breath, you say that it's something that they shouldn't do because 'we don't have that right'.

Well, if they shouldn't do it, then we shouldn't either.
 
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Ok so lets clear things. As I have already said in this thread that using pronouns depends on the situation.
What you believe and why you believe it doesn't interest me. When you are with like minded people, you can berate people, denigrate people, call them mentally ill - who really cares. How you think of others is your own business. That's between you and your God. But in a social situation, if someone politely asks you to use a particular pronoun when referring to them, I expect you to do so. I expect you to treat the person with respect.

I don't know what the situation would be like where you come from, but where I come from, if you refused - you would be the one that would find he was rejected. You would be excluded from the social setting. It's quite possible, in fact probable, that you would be asked to physically remove yourself. If it was a business situation then, personally speaking, I would refuse to work with you. And knowing most of the people I worked with, that would be a common response.

Now, you have one more question left unanswered: Where did you get the information that the majority of Australians had problems with pronouns. It wasn't in the link you provided (it showed the exact opposite), so where did it come from?
 
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Ok so lets clear things. As I have already said in this thread that using pronouns depends on the situation. Obviously we need to be polite and coureous in social settings and use pronouns when asked. But as I qualified that when it comes to debate on the issue as a norms in society or for determining the reality of biological sex or generally as far as enforcing speech on others then this is a different matter.

Thats because pronousent a bigger issue about reality, about whether a subjective sense of self is a real objective thing

Have you actually studied philosophy? You assume the self is a real thing at all, that it's just a given fact about reality, when philosophers are in no way in agreement on that point. There are plenty of philosophies and worldviews that aren't dependent on that notion.

Given that, I don't think it's unreasonable or dishonest to take the experience of transpeople seriously, as an act of charity and intellectual humility, if nothing else.
 
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Have you actually studied philosophy? You assume the self is a real thing at all, when philosophers are in no way in agreement on that point. There are plenty of philosophies and worldviews that aren't dependent on that notion.
I don't think you'll find much traction with that view. A few people in this tread have an extreme black and white view of the world. Men are men, women are women and 'gender'? Pfft. It simply doesn't exist. Masculine and feminine are mysterious concepts that don't change one's biological sex!

Well...yeah. That is quite right. That's part of the problem.
 
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I got a feeling that nearly no men are taking maternity leave.
They can take parental leave, though. They mostly choose not to.
So you win custody of your child after 5 years and you can take a year of leave?
No, but if you're the primary carer of your child during it's first year of life, you can.
They aren't discriminating....
They fired a woman for falling pregnant. That's pregnancy discrimination.
You're not being "flexible" with the category of women at all...you're just pretending that transwomen are women. You don't actually believe it.
I'm making a distinction between social category and reproductive physiology.
Woman and man are biological categories....not imaginary identities.
They're biological categories, but they're also social categories, in ways which don't always line up neatly.
What percentage of maternity leave is taken by men? Is it even close to 50%?
About 12%, apparently. But so what?
And she gets 18 weeks of paid leave, which men won't get.
Not if her contract finishes first.
Don't bring your personal life to work.
Yet we all bring ourselves to work, and that means sometimes that the personal encroaches on the professional.
I'm sorry, here in the US we all know those claims are largely cow pies. Lawyers tell clients to get a few therapy sessions in before the trial to soak up as much damages as possible and the person stops seeing a therapist after the trial ends. It's just a trick to get more money.
I'm not saying nobody ever tries to game the system, but the point remains: employers have a legal responsibility for psychological safety in the workplace. Which is why policies around not bullying, harassing, or otherwise interacting poorly with your colleagues are in place.
 
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They can take parental leave, though. They mostly choose not to.

I'm sure you believe that.

No, but if you're the primary carer of your child during it's first year of life, you can.

OK so like "stay at home dads" and "taking maternity leave" we'll just put this is in your list of technically possible situations that never really happen.

They fired a woman for falling pregnant. That's pregnancy discrimination.

No she chose to get pregnant, andshe signed a contract.


I'm making a distinction between social category and reproductive physiology.

It's the same category.


They're biological categories, but they're also social categories, in ways which don't always line up neatly.


You know why I've never had to tell anyone my pronouns?

Because it's the same category.

About 12%, apparently. But so what?

See above lol.

Not if her contract finishes first.

So a woman brought in to replace a woman on maternity leave can take maternity leave....you know what would be stupid for that employer to do? Continue hiring women.

Yet we all bring ourselves to work, and that means sometimes that the personal encroaches on the professional.

No...we don't. I don't ask anyone to change the rules just for me. I suppose that's one thing women and trans women have in common.

I'm not saying nobody ever tries to game the system, but the point remains: employers have a legal responsibility for psychological safety in the workplace.

Liability. They are liable....not responsible.


Which is why policies around not bullying, harassing, or otherwise interacting poorly with your colleagues are in place.

Having a different opinion isn't harassment and you think they're men just the same as me.

I'm simply honest about it.

Every single demand you cater to is biologically based....whether it's women's restrooms (no urinals in a women's restroom), women's sports, or HRT...we aren't talking about social categories here...we're talking biological differences.

Again, my entire life I've never required anyone to conform to my beliefs to work. I also don't care if someone holds a different view from me...it's not offensive.
 
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No she chose to get pregnant, andshe signed a contract.
It doesn't matter whether she signed a contract, it's still discrimination against her because she's pregnant.
It's the same category.
It doesn't have to be.
you know what would be stupid for that employer to do? Continue hiring women.
Again, you beautifully illustrate the barriers women face.
Liability. They are liable....not responsible.
Liable literally means legally responsible.
Having a different opinion isn't harassment
Of course not. But how you express it, can be.
 
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You know, I tried writing a long, thoughtful, reasoned reply to all of this. But I'm out of patience with it, not least because I can't any longer believe some of these arguments are being made in good faith. But I think you are helping to demonstrate neatly exactly why workplaces put such policies in place.
All your long reply did is further demonstrate that why there is no reasoning with your side. It's your way or the highway. It's alter your way of thinking or you will be punished. Its suspend reality and truth in favor of delusion and a lie.

The question has to be asked on who the real bullies are. Who IS making the good faith arguments? The side that says "you can do whatever you want as an adult, but just don't demand that I as an adult believe in the same truth and alter my perception and the words I use and you live your life and I'll live mine OR "I can do whatever I want as an adult. And you must believe the same things I believe, alter your way of life for me, alter your perceptions for me and you must believe the same truth as me and use the words I want you to use or you will face punishment up to and including firing.".

Which side is the most reasonable one again?
 
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It's alter your way of thinking or you will be punished.
Do you not understand that workplaces which fail to put such policies in place, open themselves up to significant liability? And that the reason for this is because real harm can be done in the way that we treat one another?

It seems to me that this is the fundamental issue being dodged by those who don't want to adjust their behaviour in any way; that unless we set some baseline expectations for respectful interaction, there will be those who will push it to the point of harm.
 
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But in a social situation, if someone politely asks you to use a particular pronoun when referring to them, I expect you to do so. I expect you to treat the person with respect.

I don't know what the situation would be like where you come from, but where I come from, if you refused - you would be the one that would find he was rejected. You would be excluded from the social setting. It's quite possible, in fact probable, that you would be asked to physically remove yourself. If it was a business situation then, personally speaking, I would refuse to work with you. And knowing most of the people I worked with, that would be a common response.
Well now. Look who is impolite now. If I politely declined to use the desired pronoun then suddenly you and others turn into raging bullies deciding that I had to be removed from society over a word. A dishonest word at that. It's completely impolite to say I do not wish to use the pronoun. It's just as impolite to demand that someone who doesn't want to must do so. Demanding someone lie is bullying.

Sounds like you and all your friends are a bunch of bullies. You see we are not asking that someone be totally rejected out of society and business over this. You are. All over a he or she.
 
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I don't think you'll find much traction with that view. A few people in this tread have an extreme black and white view of the world. Men are men, women are women and 'gender'? Pfft. It simply doesn't exist. Masculine and feminine are mysterious concepts that don't change one's biological sex!

Well...yeah. That is quite right. That's part of the problem.

That reminds me of an American TV show in the 70's, All in the Family. It featured an aging New Yorker couple, set in their ways, beginning the show singing about a time when "girls were girls and men were men". The chief protagonist, Archie Bunker, was a misanthropic and bigoted patriarch who is revealed to be merely a simple man trapped within a schema of highly rigid thinking and bad ideas.

Frankly, it's difficult to watch the show now days, as Archie Bunker is such a misanthropic, disagreeable, and verbally abusive character.

 
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