- May 24, 2021
- 594
- 203
- 46
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Messianic
- Marital Status
- Single
I never said to be hard hearted, just to have a thicker skin. There is a difference.
I’m a very sensitive person and I get hurt easily.
Upvote
0
I never said to be hard hearted, just to have a thicker skin. There is a difference.
The answer really lays in the previous letter to the Church of Philadelphia. The word Philadelphia actually means “Brotherly Love”.
I’m a very sensitive person and I get hurt easily.
Again, as was I. That is why I had to learn to have a thicker skin. I was bullied in school, partly because of how sensitive I was and would cry at the drop of a hat.
So how do I develop this thicker skin?
Basically all I did was start letting things "roll off my shoulders" so to speak. It's hard, but the more you let things go, it becomes easier. I still get up in arms about things or take things to heart, but I don't think I will ever not let somethings get to me.
I too am guilty.Why can Christians be so mean sometimes? Yes, I see it also in myself. I understand that iron sharpens iron and that as Christians we are to rebuke and chasten but I have to ask myself if this level of meanness and lack of love is what Yeshua intended for his Church? And yes I am guilty as well like I said.
You have hint on a fair inconsistency within Christianity.Why can Christians be so mean sometimes?
It can go the other way. Some people just destroy others.... I understand that iron sharpens iron...
I don't know about it being simple like this. When you start getting down to it - who should rebuke and chasten who? Every christian to every other christian about everything that's wrong? All the time? Probably will only work with a huge about of wisdom, respect, love and tact - otherwise I reckon this idea unchecked would ruin a lot of people and relationships....and that as Christians we are to rebuke and chasten...
I very much doubt He wants us to be mean and unloving.... I have to ask... if this level of meanness ... lack of love is what Yeshua intended ...? ...
You have hint on a fair inconsistency within Christianity.
I'd answer this on a case by case basis if I could. I've interpreted most of the meanness to be...
1) Some Christian's are just plain mean - some anger, hatred, old wound, or something or other bubbling up into their faith.
2) Some have been really young. I've thought they were young and tough but really inexperienced. I thought they had never really suffered before. They seemed like they had never experienced "dying inside" or how hellish life can be.
3) Sometimes I thought it was culture seeping into their religion. Their faith being a mean spirited callousness towards "bad guys".
4) Sometimes I thought people had just decided on how they will read the bible. The decisions they made about it have led to them carrying out poor behaviour towards others. They made these decisions because they lacked insight, or were not interested in "truth" but rather just in absolving themselves.
5) Sometimes I thought it was basically an old fashioned fear religion coming into Christianity. When people point the finger at the homosexual but fail to address their own imperfections - it's basically a fear sacrifice to appease an awful god. It's also obnoxious, foolish, self-righteous self-flattery (It's usually at someone else's expense and never at their own).
???
I'm mean to other Christians too sometimes. I've been guilty of No. 1, 2 & 4. Not sure about 3. I can't bear the hypocrisy of 5.
I think Christian's would do much better to just do the bad thing without bringing God into it.
I was a tough tough kid. I thought...Yes, I think you have some good insight here.
As we suffer God changes our hearts and we grow. It’s easy I think for a person who has never truly suffered to be super cold. Of course suffering can also possibly have the opposite effect depending on how we react to it and make us bitter and cold. But suffering I think can really mold our lives and make us more empathetic towards others.
Yes. It's one of the hardest ones to reconcile with faith. It can crush you.... Of course suffering can also possibly have the opposite effect ...
Yes. It's one of the hardest ones to reconcile with faith. It can crush you.
My hope - what I hold on to - is that the suffering will eventually end, in this life (I hope) or the next. At that point, I hope it qualifies me to be a good leader in some important job for God. ???
How do you make sense of Christians being mean?
There's a spectrum of meanness. If your threshold of pain on that spectrum is lower than most people's, then sometimes you'll see things as mean that most people won't see as mean. This is where thicker skin can benefit you. However, there are also Christians who speak and act in ways that most people will also recognize as mean. They need to remember to love and not be mean.Why can Christians be so mean sometimes? Yes, I see it also in myself. I understand that iron sharpens iron and that as Christians we are to rebuke and chasten but I have to ask myself if this level of meanness and lack of love is what Yeshua intended for his Church? And yes I am guilty as well like I said.
There's a spectrum of meanness. If your threshold of pain on that spectrum is lower than most people's, then sometimes you'll see things as mean that most people won't see as mean. This is where thicker skin can benefit you. However, there are also Christians who speak and act in ways that most people will also recognize as mean. They need to remember to love and not be mean.
Given this spectrum, and also how highly general this inquiry is, I'm not sure what you're struggling with more right now.
It's not necessarily God's will, but a proper response is important every time. What that proper response is will vary.Well a lot of people have treated me pretty badly and yes many of them are Christians. It’s been hard on me but I guess I need to accept it as God’s will and learn from it and deal with it. Yes trials and tribulations can be hard but I guess as the scriptures tell us this testing develops character and I guess the biggest lesson to learn is when mistreated to try and give a proper response.
Because they can be. At the end of the day, you can only depend on Christ. I learned not to depend on Christians very early in my walk with Christ. Fortunately, he put a few caring people in my life along the journey. Most however fail to show the love of Christ. This site is no different as most are only here to correct everyone else a prove how "spiritual" they are.Why can Christians be so mean sometimes? Yes, I see it also in myself. I understand that iron sharpens iron and that as Christians we are to rebuke and chasten but I have to ask myself if this level of meanness and lack of love is what Yeshua intended for his Church? And yes I am guilty as well like I said.
Why can Christians be so mean sometimes? Yes, I see it also in myself. I understand that iron sharpens iron and that as Christians we are to rebuke and chasten but I have to ask myself if this level of meanness and lack of love is what Yeshua intended for his Church? And yes I am guilty as well like I said.