Wife has hypothyroidism and weight loss & knee injury. Prayers please

[Sergio Morales]

Hi all, very intimate prayer request. I posted on here 2 years ago about my then girlfriend who was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. She was struggling with weight loss and job prospects. That girlfriend is now my wife (we married in August of 2020), and recently she had a knee injury that was very severe at first but has gotten better over time, and she required crutches because putting too much weight on her left knee hurts too much to walk normally. She thought it was a tear or break and her hometown doc did an MRI and said she MIGHT need surgery and maybe a meniscus tear, so he sent us to another surgical doc an hour away and he said he saw NOTHING broken or torn, so he sees no reason for surgery.
He stated she is stuck between a rock and a hard place, because she has a painful knee injury which he thinks is made worse due to her weight (she was about 320 when I met her, she is around 340 now due to the injury and is mostly sedentary because of it). She has always struggled with weight loss because of her hypothyroidism condition, and does NOT eat poorly at all. Any normal person would have lost so much if they ate like her. She has virtually NO sugar, extremely low carbs, so we both survive on mostly meat and veggies. She has been doing this for a very long time, and did lose a little a couple years back but gets easily depressed and gains it back.

I myself am VERY healthy, at likely under 150 lbs, I exercise 3x a week religiously, jogging and elliptical, and virtually never get sick. My wife is also dealing with a digestive issue which causes sporadic diarrhea and frequent bathroom trips. It's one health issue after another and I always have to do cleanup for it as she can't now due to her knee. I try and try and she agrees she needs to get exercise but as of now she can only do upper body stuff due to her knee injury (before this injury she honestly just wasn't trying hard enough to get exercise, as her stubbornness and past horrible father upbringing makes her defensive at almost every corner). We are frustrated and trying to pray through it but I have been on double duty with cooking and cleaning and doing all these things for her she can't do herself. She tries to make it easier on me but she is on work disability and has tried opening an online pet shop (which isn't making any sales right now for whatever reason) and it is struggling. We are living on just my paycheck and having already hit 40, we don't know if we will ever be able to have children (and I did want to at some point). I honestly put up with it and struggle as to why God put me in this position but I DO KNOW that if I did not come into her life, she likely would be dead, as it was our relationship that made her see that she had thyroid issues to begin with (she was dangerously close to a very very bad thyroid shutdown before being put on medication about 2 years ago). I sometimes think i made a mistake marrying her but since I don't believe in divorce and want to stay true to my vow, I have to deal with this however long it takes. I am afraid that if I ever did give up, it would LITERALLY kill her and put me on a pathway to hell. This has caused frustrations on both ends, and has GREATLY diminished to practically eliminated our sex life, and we haven't even been married a year.

I know i need prayer but God seems and feels so far away right now. He honestly does not seem to care at all. I don't know how she will manage to lose weight (AND pride and stubbornness with the self-pity and negativity she carries) so as to lose a significant amount of weight with a knee injury AND hypothyroidism. Every time I try to offer advice it's just practically starting an argument or a fight. I HATE this. I NEED God to act, but I get mad at Him A LOT because of this. I don't know how long of this I am willing to take and feel like God put me here on purpose, between a rock and a hard place because He is angry with me, upset with me, or is punishing me for how I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 14 years ago. It makes it very very hard to depend on God because i feel like I'm depending on something that doesn't care and just says "deal with it, Im teaching you a lesson."
I had an opportunity to be with another girl before my ex, who had a son (unlike my wife now), and I do remember at the time being very attracted to her, but I broke up with her because she was Catholic and did not have the same faith as I did. I did that because i thought that was the Godly road to go, and have been tempted to regret my decision because of my current wife's health problems. I have been tempted to think doing the "Godly" thing is pointless, because if I had not cared and just stayed with the former girl, I really don't think I'd be struggling this much. Maybe, I don't know. I don't know anything.
I need prayer, very badly. I need God to act. Thank you very very much if you took the time to read all of this.

 

[LoricaLady]

Just fyi I have hypothyroidism and found the following very popular website to be so helpful: stopthethyroidmadness.com

I will pray for your wife's health and healing.

 

[dqhall]

Hi all, very intimate prayer request. I posted on here 2 years ago about my then girlfriend who was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. She was struggling with weight loss and job prospects. That girlfriend is now my wife (we married in August of 2020), and recently she had a knee injury that was very severe at first but has gotten better over time, and she required crutches because putting too much weight on her left knee hurts too much to walk normally. She thought it was a tear or break and her hometown doc did an MRI and said she MIGHT need surgery and maybe a meniscus tear, so he sent us to another surgical doc an hour away and he said he saw NOTHING broken or torn, so he sees no reason for surgery.
He stated she is stuck between a rock and a hard place, because she has a painful knee injury which he thinks is made worse due to her weight (she was about 320 when I met her, she is around 340 now due to the injury and is mostly sedentary because of it). She has always struggled with weight loss because of her hypothyroidism condition, and does NOT eat poorly at all. Any normal person would have lost so much if they ate like her. She has virtually NO sugar, extremely low carbs, so we both survive on mostly meat and veggies. She has been doing this for a very long time, and did lose a little a couple years back but gets easily depressed and gains it back.

I myself am VERY healthy, at likely under 150 lbs, I exercise 3x a week religiously, jogging and elliptical, and virtually never get sick. My wife is also dealing with a digestive issue which causes sporadic diarrhea and frequent bathroom trips. It's one health issue after another and I always have to do cleanup for it as she can't now due to her knee. I try and try and she agrees she needs to get exercise but as of now she can only do upper body stuff due to her knee injury (before this injury she honestly just wasn't trying hard enough to get exercise, as her stubbornness and past horrible father upbringing makes her defensive at almost every corner). We are frustrated and trying to pray through it but I have been on double duty with cooking and cleaning and doing all these things for her she can't do herself. She tries to make it easier on me but she is on work disability and has tried opening an online pet shop (which isn't making any sales right now for whatever reason) and it is struggling. We are living on just my paycheck and having already hit 40, we don't know if we will ever be able to have children (and I did want to at some point). I honestly put up with it and struggle as to why God put me in this position but I DO KNOW that if I did not come into her life, she likely would be dead, as it was our relationship that made her see that she had thyroid issues to begin with (she was dangerously close to a very very bad thyroid shutdown before being put on medication about 2 years ago). I sometimes think i made a mistake marrying her but since I don't believe in divorce and want to stay true to my vow, I have to deal with this however long it takes. I am afraid that if I ever did give up, it would LITERALLY kill her and put me on a pathway to hell. This has caused frustrations on both ends, and has GREATLY diminished to practically eliminated our sex life, and we haven't even been married a year.

I know i need prayer but God seems and feels so far away right now. He honestly does not seem to care at all. I don't know how she will manage to lose weight (AND pride and stubbornness with the self-pity and negativity she carries) so as to lose a significant amount of weight with a knee injury AND hypothyroidism. Every time I try to offer advice it's just practically starting an argument or a fight. I HATE this. I NEED God to act, but I get mad at Him A LOT because of this. I don't know how long of this I am willing to take and feel like God put me here on purpose, between a rock and a hard place because He is angry with me, upset with me, or is punishing me for how I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 14 years ago. It makes it very very hard to depend on God because i feel like I'm depending on something that doesn't care and just says "deal with it, Im teaching you a lesson."
I had an opportunity to be with another girl before my ex, who had a son (unlike my wife now), and I do remember at the time being very attracted to her, but I broke up with her because she was Catholic and did not have the same faith as I did. I did that because i thought that was the Godly road to go, and have been tempted to regret my decision because of my current wife's health problems. I have been tempted to think doing the "Godly" thing is pointless, because if I had not cared and just stayed with the former girl, I really don't think I'd be struggling this much. Maybe, I don't know. I don't know anything.
I need prayer, very badly. I need God to act. Thank you very very much if you took the time to read all of this.

The low carb diet promoted by Dr. Atkins (he died young) is unhealthy in as much as it shortens life span. It contains too much fat and cholesterol. Fat and vegetable oils are more fattening than sugar. In addition to this, the World Health Organization declared red meat to be carcinogenic.

I tried Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s vegan diet and lost over 10 lbs. This morning I was about 163 lbs. I am 6 ft tall. Have been trying to get to 160 lbs, only got to 161-162 recently. Fuhrman published the best seller, “Eat to Live.”

Iodine deficiency is the most common cause of hypothyroidism. I take kelp iodine supplements. Eating goitrogen foods may contribute to iodine deficiency and hypothyroidism.

Morbidly obese people may have a significantly shortened life span with major health problems long before they die.

 

[LoricaLady]

The low carb diet promoted by Dr. Atkins (he died young) is unhealthy in as much as it shortens life span. It contains too much fat and cholesterol. Fat and vegetable oils are more fattening than sugar. In addition to this, the World Health Organization declared red meat to be carcinogenic.

I tried Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s vegan diet and lost over 10 lbs. This morning I was about 163 lbs. I am 6 ft tall. Have been trying to get to 160 lbs, only got to 161-162 recently. Fuhrman published the best seller, “Eat to Live.”

Iodine deficiency is the most common cause of hypothyroidism. I take kelp iodine supplements. Eating goitrogen foods may contribute to iodine deficiency and hypothyroidism.

Morbidly obese people may have a significantly shortened life span with major health problems long before they die.

That is so true about iodine deficiency. I take Lugol's. About a half dropper full after I saw a doctor on YouTube saying it causes no harm at that level.

People need to be sure to get iodine in their diets. Iodized salt may not be enough. Produce is being sprayed with bromide which interferes with iodine utilization. Therefore hypothyroidism is the most common illness in the USA. And if your thyroid gets weak it is not uncommon for your adrenals to get weak too!

The number one culprit in foods to cause hypothyroidism is soy. I have found more than once that my symptoms got worse because of just a single supplement that it turned out had a soy coating or other soy issue.

Soy is often disguised as "natural flavors" or other such things.

You can find out which foods are goitrogenic on Google. It has made a huge difference for me to avoid them all.

 

[dqhall]

That is so true about iodine deficiency. I take Lugol's. About a half dropper full after I saw a doctor on YouTube saying it causes no harm at that level.

People need to be sure to get iodine in their diets. Iodized salt may not be enough. Produce is being sprayed with bromide which interferes with iodine utilization. Therefore hypothyroidism is the most common illness in the USA. And if your thyroid gets weak it is not uncommon for your adrenals to get weak too!

The number one culprit in foods to cause hypothyroidism is soy. I have found more than once that my symptoms got worse because of just a single supplement that it turned out had a soy coating or other soy issue.

Soy is often disguised as "natural flavors" or other such things.

You can find out which foods are goitrogenic on Google. It has made a huge difference for me to avoid them all.

Joel Fuhrman wrote vegans are more likely to have iodine deficiencies. Cruciferous vegetables are goitrogens. These impair thyroid function. Cooking kale, broccoli, cabbage, etc. removes goitrogens, am not sure what percent. Eating cruciferous vegetables reduces the incidence of cancer. I need these, but should not eat too much of them.

I have kelp tablets that have over 200% of the daily recommended iodine. I took them infrequently.

I bought organic vegetables and grains when I could. Apples, strawberries and grapes have been sprayed with pesticides. People who worked applying pesticides might have shortened lifespans. Some pesticides have been linked to cancer. A majority of studies showed vegans lived longer.

Soy, milk and gluten are common food allergens.

 

[LastAcorn99]

Hi all, very intimate prayer request. I posted on here 2 years ago about my then girlfriend who was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. She was struggling with weight loss and job prospects. That girlfriend is now my wife (we married in August of 2020), and recently she had a knee injury that was very severe at first but has gotten better over time, and she required crutches because putting too much weight on her left knee hurts too much to walk normally. She thought it was a tear or break and her hometown doc did an MRI and said she MIGHT need surgery and maybe a meniscus tear, so he sent us to another surgical doc an hour away and he said he saw NOTHING broken or torn, so he sees no reason for surgery.
He stated she is stuck between a rock and a hard place, because she has a painful knee injury which he thinks is made worse due to her weight (she was about 320 when I met her, she is around 340 now due to the injury and is mostly sedentary because of it). She has always struggled with weight loss because of her hypothyroidism condition, and does NOT eat poorly at all. Any normal person would have lost so much if they ate like her. She has virtually NO sugar, extremely low carbs, so we both survive on mostly meat and veggies. She has been doing this for a very long time, and did lose a little a couple years back but gets easily depressed and gains it back.

I myself am VERY healthy, at likely under 150 lbs, I exercise 3x a week religiously, jogging and elliptical, and virtually never get sick. My wife is also dealing with a digestive issue which causes sporadic diarrhea and frequent bathroom trips. It's one health issue after another and I always have to do cleanup for it as she can't now due to her knee. I try and try and she agrees she needs to get exercise but as of now she can only do upper body stuff due to her knee injury (before this injury she honestly just wasn't trying hard enough to get exercise, as her stubbornness and past horrible father upbringing makes her defensive at almost every corner). We are frustrated and trying to pray through it but I have been on double duty with cooking and cleaning and doing all these things for her she can't do herself. She tries to make it easier on me but she is on work disability and has tried opening an online pet shop (which isn't making any sales right now for whatever reason) and it is struggling. We are living on just my paycheck and having already hit 40, we don't know if we will ever be able to have children (and I did want to at some point). I honestly put up with it and struggle as to why God put me in this position but I DO KNOW that if I did not come into her life, she likely would be dead, as it was our relationship that made her see that she had thyroid issues to begin with (she was dangerously close to a very very bad thyroid shutdown before being put on medication about 2 years ago). I sometimes think i made a mistake marrying her but since I don't believe in divorce and want to stay true to my vow, I have to deal with this however long it takes. I am afraid that if I ever did give up, it would LITERALLY kill her and put me on a pathway to hell. This has caused frustrations on both ends, and has GREATLY diminished to practically eliminated our sex life, and we haven't even been married a year.

I know i need prayer but God seems and feels so far away right now. He honestly does not seem to care at all. I don't know how she will manage to lose weight (AND pride and stubbornness with the self-pity and negativity she carries) so as to lose a significant amount of weight with a knee injury AND hypothyroidism. Every time I try to offer advice it's just practically starting an argument or a fight. I HATE this. I NEED God to act, but I get mad at Him A LOT because of this. I don't know how long of this I am willing to take and feel like God put me here on purpose, between a rock and a hard place because He is angry with me, upset with me, or is punishing me for how I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 14 years ago. It makes it very very hard to depend on God because i feel like I'm depending on something that doesn't care and just says "deal with it, Im teaching you a lesson."
I had an opportunity to be with another girl before my ex, who had a son (unlike my wife now), and I do remember at the time being very attracted to her, but I broke up with her because she was Catholic and did not have the same faith as I did. I did that because i thought that was the Godly road to go, and have been tempted to regret my decision because of my current wife's health problems. I have been tempted to think doing the "Godly" thing is pointless, because if I had not cared and just stayed with the former girl, I really don't think I'd be struggling this much. Maybe, I don't know. I don't know anything.
I need prayer, very badly. I need God to act. Thank you very very much if you took the time to read all of this.

I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's health condition, the struggles in your marriage, and the frustration you're feeling about your situation, friend. Given what you've shared, I feel it'll be helpful for you to talk to a trained Christian counselor either by yourself or together with your wife. If you’re in the US, I believe if you call this number 855-382-5433, they can provide a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor. Sending prayers for you, asking the Lord to comfort you daily with evidences of His great love and compassion (Lamentations 3:22-23). May He bring healing and hope to your marriage. Take care, brother!

 

[Sergio Morales]

Just fyi I have hypothyroidism and found the following very popular website to be so helpful: stopthethyroidmadness.com

I will pray for your wife's health and healing.

I appreciate the prayers. We are looking to start her on the Autoimmune Paleo diet as opposed to the Keto diet she has been on for a while, and that DID work for a season, but ultimately she gained the weight back after struggles with losing her job at one point, and becoming a CNA for a local healthcare facility which ended up CAUSING her current knee injury.
I am trying not to be discouraged, but don't know what God wants me to do and I don't know, well, pretty much ANYTHING and why He's not acting. Currently wrestling a lot with Him.

 

[Sergio Morales]

I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's health condition, the struggles in your marriage, and the frustration you're feeling about your situation, friend. Given what you've shared, I feel it'll be helpful for you to talk to a trained Christian counselor either by yourself or together with your wife. If you’re in the US, I believe if you call this number 855-382-5433, they can provide a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor. Sending prayers for you, asking the Lord to comfort you daily with evidences of His great love and compassion (Lamentations 3:22-23). May He bring healing and hope to your marriage. Take care, brother!

I appreciate the information. I will definitely call that number but will probably do it on my own at first. My wife wouldn't understand my own personal struggles with this and she would take it as an offense and begin another round of anxiety because she'll think I'll be sick of her struggles and leave her. I don't plan on doing that but I can definitely say that this is not what I signed up for. I keep thinking i would have been better off with that previous short-lived girlfriend but remember that she had a 6 year old son and a separate father who was giving her legal headaches every now and then. He was also kinda mentally unstable. Sure, I would've been more sexually attracted to her but I can only imagine the headaches i would have to deal with otherwise. thank you for the prayers, I really really need them.