- Sep 22, 2018
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A woman I have known for more than 40 yrs needs a breakthrough and has reached out for help, advice, and prayers. Please help me help her.
She is an adult survivor of child abuse which lasted all her life until she left home as a teenager. She suffered many forms of abuses and assaults. Always, she was shamed, blamed, accused, and constantly told she was worth nothing.
Today, she is strong, healed a great deal, and has forgiven everyone who hurt her. More than 20 years of hard work, prayers, ministries, therapies, and doctors, she has become a patient, loving, strong, and kind woman who is able to minister to hurting women. I have seen the depth of her love; the strength of her faith, and the gift God has put in her to love unconditionally.
However, she has never been able to truly defeat a tormenting spirit of Shame - which accuses her Of being a burden to her husband. 27 yrs married, and she still cannot accept that the money he makes belongs to them both. It infects every area of her life, and she is often convinced that she is a burden.
She brought this up to her husband on several occasions because she recognizes it isn’t from the Lord. But it accuses her regarding this loving husband. Sadly, when she explains to him that she feels like a burden — that if she needs to buy some things for herself, sh must come to him because he handles all the finances. — she feels powerless, while battling false Shame and Guilt. She is reaching out to him for help. He always listens to all she had to say - then he remains silent and offers her not a word. Leaving her feeling like she wants to run and hide under a rock. Somehow his silence is confirming in her heart that she is a burden indeed.
She recently expressed to him how his silence hurts her when she reaches out to him concerning this. But he just calmly listens and again, he will not throw her a life jacket.
She battles and fights and resists her Accuser. She calls it her thorn in her side and praises God for victory.
I ask that someone here with experience and knowledge and wisdom to please offer what you can. I’ve seen her work on herself with determination and she has grown so much.
I don’t know anymore how to pray for her. The things of the spirit and what God‘s Word says about spiritual battles - she is very versed in and recognizes she’s got an issue that is beyond her abilities at this point. It has baffled her and it baffles me. Please offer advice prayers anything thank you very much God bless all.
She is an adult survivor of child abuse which lasted all her life until she left home as a teenager. She suffered many forms of abuses and assaults. Always, she was shamed, blamed, accused, and constantly told she was worth nothing.
Today, she is strong, healed a great deal, and has forgiven everyone who hurt her. More than 20 years of hard work, prayers, ministries, therapies, and doctors, she has become a patient, loving, strong, and kind woman who is able to minister to hurting women. I have seen the depth of her love; the strength of her faith, and the gift God has put in her to love unconditionally.
However, she has never been able to truly defeat a tormenting spirit of Shame - which accuses her Of being a burden to her husband. 27 yrs married, and she still cannot accept that the money he makes belongs to them both. It infects every area of her life, and she is often convinced that she is a burden.
She brought this up to her husband on several occasions because she recognizes it isn’t from the Lord. But it accuses her regarding this loving husband. Sadly, when she explains to him that she feels like a burden — that if she needs to buy some things for herself, sh must come to him because he handles all the finances. — she feels powerless, while battling false Shame and Guilt. She is reaching out to him for help. He always listens to all she had to say - then he remains silent and offers her not a word. Leaving her feeling like she wants to run and hide under a rock. Somehow his silence is confirming in her heart that she is a burden indeed.
She recently expressed to him how his silence hurts her when she reaches out to him concerning this. But he just calmly listens and again, he will not throw her a life jacket.
She battles and fights and resists her Accuser. She calls it her thorn in her side and praises God for victory.
I ask that someone here with experience and knowledge and wisdom to please offer what you can. I’ve seen her work on herself with determination and she has grown so much.
I don’t know anymore how to pray for her. The things of the spirit and what God‘s Word says about spiritual battles - she is very versed in and recognizes she’s got an issue that is beyond her abilities at this point. It has baffled her and it baffles me. Please offer advice prayers anything thank you very much God bless all.