Do You Want Kids?

[leothelioness]

This is not, in any way, intended to sound like judgment, but I'm sort of surprised by the number of people who don't want kids. And from other threads, who don't want to get married or don't plan to. Some are still really young and have totally given up on the idea of marriage/kids for various reasons.

Does this have more to do with the times we're in today? People have less interest and time for commitments?

Well, I can't speak for others, but in regards to myself I don't think I exactly qualify as "young" anymore (I'm 29). I guess I'm young-ish. But I feel like for me this is the age where these big decisions need to be made. I'm at that milestone/crossroads age where those sorts of decisions are usually made and set in stone and for me it's just worked out that I'm single and plan to remain so.

As for interest and time for commitments I honestly don't have either. My time is constantly full with other things and the interest is not there. I'm not sure if this is reflective of our society as a whole or just that we all here feel similarly about our life paths.

 

[Noxot]

I been listening to too much jordan peterson, he's so traditional. people who don't have kids tend to be happier though happiness is not everything which is why God gave the soul the capacity to also be capable of sorrow. even Jesus sorrowed, it must not be a completely bad thing.

 

[Sketcher]

If it could be guaranteed that they will have a better time growing up than I did, yes.

 

[Citanul]

This is not, in any way, intended to sound like judgment, but I'm sort of surprised by the number of people who don't want kids. And from other threads, who don't want to get married or don't plan to. Some are still really young and have totally given up on the idea of marriage/kids for various reasons.

Does this have more to do with the times we're in today? People have less interest and time for commitments?

The thing about polls/threads like this is that all they tell you is what the people who've responded think, and the responses tend to come from those who feel strongly about the issue, so they're not necessarily representative of the population from which the sample has been drawn. On this particular topic, I think it's fair to say that people are generally more adamant when they don't want kids than when they do, so that could be skewing the results.

Also, in terms of the population, could it be that the reasons that people might not want kids or to get married also make them a bit more likely to gravitate towards an online forum for singles? If that's the case, it's probably more applicable for not wanting to get married, but the two do go hand in hand as there won't be all that many people who want kids but don't want to get married, especially on a Christian platform.

And wanting kids is something about which your opinion can change as your circumstances do. When you're single and there's no chance of kids any time soon it's very easy to think "Why would I ever want them?". But once you're in a relationship and they become a very real possibility then you could very well change your mind.

So taking all those things into account, I don't think it's entirely surprising that the anti-kid/marriage view is so prevalent in polls and discussions like this.

 

[LifeWord]

I can't think of almost anything better than having children. That's a yes for me.

 

[Mydnyte]

At this point, I really don't think it matters if I want them or not.

 

[Applekrate]

Sure, would love to be a father but, each year I get further away from it. The right gal gets harder and harder to find. Everyone I meet has so much baggage and most women are more concerned with college and career than being a mom or wife

That is another reason I serve at VBS and kids ministry. I get to work with the little ones and there are not enough men who serve in these ministries. A lot of those little precious kiddos do not have fathers
I had a slendid childhood with great parents and would love to share with them but, it does not look like it will happen. I trust in the Lord though. Whatever he wants for me.

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I would love to have kids but seeing as Im 38 and still single I
don't see myself having them anytime soon.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

I would love to have kids but seeing as Im 38 and still single I
don't see myself having them anytime soon.

Did you desire to be married and have children when you were younger?

 

[sunshineforJesus]

Did you desire to be married and have children when you were younger?

I sure did but it never worked out.

 

[Servant68]

I had a boy and a girl early in life. It was hard, but it was totally worth it. I can't imagine not being a father. Now I have a 2yr old grandson since my daughter got married at age 19 and she is pregnant with twins, so I'll have 3 grand kids while still being in my 40's.

I'm amazed at the number of parents my age with kids 10yrs old or younger. Last girl I dated had an 8yr old son.

 

[Orange Crow]

Yes, I'd love to have kids.
Not just because I'm part of a large family and I've got many, MANY nephews and nieces, thanks to brothers and sisters, so I grew with them, and it's always a joy being around them and being there for them as an uncle.

I'd be hartbroken basically if I could'nt have my own kids, for sure.

 

[thehehe]

I would love to get this chance when the time comes -not now, of course. Me too, I would be deeply hurt if life refuses me this gift.

 

[Sammy-San]

I can't think of almost anything better than having children. That's a yes for me.

Why? Taking care of other human beings is a burden. People who don't have kids often live longer due to less stress.

 

[JAM2b]

I have two sons, and I had wanted to have a lot of children. When I was young I couldn't imagine having less than four, and I really wanted six to eight. My body wasn't into that idea though. I couldn't give birth naturally and had a hard time getting pregnant with the second.

It's for the best though. I've been a struggling single mother for the last nine years after getting divorced. If I had more kids I don't know if we would have made it.

My oldest is on the verge of leaving the nest. My second one is in middle school. I've gone through some emotional difficulty as I've aged and realized that I won't be having any more children. I've considered adoption, foster parenting, and step parenting. However I'm still not in a place where I can move forward in that. My financial and physical condition is not the best right now.

I'm focusing on giving my oldest the best last year at home that I can, and helping my youngest with his difficulties.

 

[KitKat1230]

No. I never particularly liked babies and I haven't felt any urgency to have children. I honestly would rather it be just me, my future husband, and 2 or 3 cats.

 

[GospelS]

Whatever the Lord gives. I'd be fine with or without kids. With everything that is happening in this world and with the increasing burden to help the needy, I'm thinking one is more. Then, maybe adopt some or even be able to support orphan kids if that is okay with my future husband.

 

[bèlla]

I've raised a child and don't foresee myself having others. I feel I'm on a different trajectory and the Lord has other things in mind. I won't rule it out but I'm okay if it doesn't happen.

~Bella

 

[The Soul Search]

No kids for me.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I feel like the point of a relationship is marriage and a marriage kids. Of course things don't always work out this way and I'm currently against having children. But in the right timing I think it would be cool to be a dad.