- Jun 8, 2019
- 6
- 9
- 33
- Country
- Netherlands
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- In Relationship
Hello everyone, I need some advice on how to deal with my situation if you've gone through it. Or know someone who did.
So I and my bf have been dating for a couple of years and are now at the point of wanting to get married. But from day one his mother has not liked me because I am a Christian. My parents are pastors and she has accused our church of being a cult and that we are trying to change her son. She's convinced that I am not the right one for him, because I am a Christian.
But she does all of this behind my back. Whenever she sees me she won't say a negative thing. And as soon as she is alone with her son, she tries to tell him that, I'm difficult to get along, that he's getting too deep in Christianity and basically always trash-talking me etc.
(My bf became born again when he met me) She insinuates that ones we get married and have children I'm going to take him away from her. She insist on cleaning his house and doing his laundry. My bf travels a lot for work, so when he's gone I take care of his house like watering plants etc. But she has been making it such a big deal that this is her responsibility. (Bytheway he's 28) But she will never ever say it to my face. In all of this I have tried to do the Christian thing and always be nice and cordial, even buying her gifts when there is no special occasion for it. My bf has definitely tried to defend me and made it clear he's not leaving me, but it is getting to a point whereby it's too much to handle. If I was some evil gf it would make sense why a mother would act this way, but I have been nothing but good to her son and her, despite her behaviour towards me. We are not even married yet and I can't imagine dealing with such a narcissistic woman for the rest of my life. And now she's standing in the way of us getting married.. But she is his mother and I can't change that. Do I confront her or not?
So I and my bf have been dating for a couple of years and are now at the point of wanting to get married. But from day one his mother has not liked me because I am a Christian. My parents are pastors and she has accused our church of being a cult and that we are trying to change her son. She's convinced that I am not the right one for him, because I am a Christian.
But she does all of this behind my back. Whenever she sees me she won't say a negative thing. And as soon as she is alone with her son, she tries to tell him that, I'm difficult to get along, that he's getting too deep in Christianity and basically always trash-talking me etc.
(My bf became born again when he met me) She insinuates that ones we get married and have children I'm going to take him away from her. She insist on cleaning his house and doing his laundry. My bf travels a lot for work, so when he's gone I take care of his house like watering plants etc. But she has been making it such a big deal that this is her responsibility. (Bytheway he's 28) But she will never ever say it to my face. In all of this I have tried to do the Christian thing and always be nice and cordial, even buying her gifts when there is no special occasion for it. My bf has definitely tried to defend me and made it clear he's not leaving me, but it is getting to a point whereby it's too much to handle. If I was some evil gf it would make sense why a mother would act this way, but I have been nothing but good to her son and her, despite her behaviour towards me. We are not even married yet and I can't imagine dealing with such a narcissistic woman for the rest of my life. And now she's standing in the way of us getting married.. But she is his mother and I can't change that. Do I confront her or not?