I am middle-aged and I know what the bible says about divorce. However, at my age, most of the dating pool is full of divorced men. Aren't I limiting myself by not wanting to date divorcees?
The real qiestion is... aren't you limiting God by assuming He cant find you a single man that doesnt violate your conscience?
That isnt to say that all divorced people are undateable or to be treated as social lepers....However, it is not for all people to date those that have already been married.
If it is on your conscience to the point you make this thread in search of those to justify it to you, tells me dating a divorced man is probably not for you..... AGAIN not because divorced people are undateable, but there is clearly something in you that has an issue with it. That is why I advise against it, because we are instructed to keep our conscience clear, not to violate our conscience by justification.
That is why I ask, do you believe that in all the hay stacks, God cant lead you to the needle and the one that is right for you that has not been married?
Im not saying its easy, Im not judging. I simply advise that you keep your eyes on the Lord and less on the world around you and the endless sea of divorcees.
That said, I dont believe that all divorce is equal... but as you have shown to have something inside you tugging at you over the issue, I do not want to cause you to stumble by justifying something that may not be for you.
I DO know that what God has for you is better than you have planned for you, but sometimes in order to receive that which he has for us, means letting go of that which we plan for ourselves and trusting His timing to give us what is best for us.
Not dating divorcees may reduce the quantity of your dates, but IF dating divorcees IS in violation of your conscience... all you will be missing out on in that quantity is heartache and wasted time, trying to make it happen. How can you be free to recieve what God has, if you cling and focus to what is in front of you now?
"Can" and "should" can have very different answers.