Something really funny happened to me on Tinder just now...

[J Daniel]

Between the milk, refined sugar and other ingredients no wonder my body’s revolting. A lot of our cows aren’t fed grass. They give them corn with GMO’s. I’ve never seen a picture of a cow chewing a cob! We are out of bounds. ~laughs

Milk is bad (pasteurised milk) not made for human consumption - I am bad cos I consume it and you shouldn't!

Years ago they had mother’s helpers who’d come over and tidy the house, make meals, and support the mother.

The Amish still do this. The women in the community gather round the new mother. They ease the transition so she can focus on the child. Maybe you need a Mennonite. ~lol

Yes that is a supportive external family assisting when help is needed!

You’ll be the talk if the church! All the women will be weighing in and references will appear in the sermon. ~laughing

lol it would be quite something lol

Wait until you’re acquainted.

How? Tell me! Cos seems me and her wouldn't talk unless I go to her(!)

Make some soup and curl up for great conversation.

yeah proper chicken soup old school Jamaican soup! ALL SORTS THROWN IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THYME IN THERE!!!!! SERIOUS TASTE!!!!!!

If you have a fireplace that’s even better.

No fire place - but central heating will do

Put on a pot of apple cider and have it ready when she walks in. She’ll tell everyone!

I NEED TO TALK TO HER MISS BELLA! I AM SORRY! I HAVE TO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Go Braves]

What I have found is if somebody is looking for a certain something they will get it regardless of medium lol

I have no doubt about that at all. I just thought that particular medium was specifically for that certain something.

 

[bèlla]

Milk is bad (pasteurised milk) not made for human consumption - I am bad cos I consume it and you shouldn't!

I drink organic pasteurized grass milk. It has a lovely layer of cream on top. I don’t want raw milk. I eat whole foods. Nothing low fat or altered.

How? Tell me! Cos seems me and her wouldn't talk unless I go to her(!)

Because asking her to cook for you would lead to conniptions and negative suggestions by others. But once you know her you can invite her by and cook together.

yeah proper chicken soup old school Jamaican soup! ALL SORTS THROWN IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THYME IN THERE!!!!! SERIOUS TASTE!!!!!!

Hit the spot eh? Spoiling your partner has its perks. ~grins

I NEED TO TALK TO HER MISS BELLA! I AM SORRY! I HAVE TO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Imagine how nice it will be when you do. Waiting a bit will be best. Get baptized and establish yourself in the church so your reputation proceeds you.

 

[J Daniel]

I have no doubt about that at all. I just thought that particular medium was specifically for that certain something.

Cos on that app you don't have the thing of telling people your likes etc etc an see compatibility but some users make it clear NO HOOK UPS - look if you want a cheap thing in life you can get it. I just want some water!

 

[Go Braves]

I drink organic pasteurized grass milk. It has a lovely layer of cream on top. I don’t want raw milk. I eat whole foods. Nothing low fat or altered.

Exactly the right way to eat.

 

[J Daniel]

drink organic pasteurized grass milk. It has a lovely layer of cream on top. I don’t want raw milk. I eat whole foods. Nothing low fat or altered.

I should try some and see how it is!!!!!

Because asking her to cook for you would lead to conniptions and negative suggestions by others.

LOL OMDZ You really fort I was gonna ask her to come over and cook for me!?!?!?!?! LOL You know I was just playing!

But once you know her you can invite her by and cook together.

I would love to cook with her!!!!!!!!!!! That would be great! Was at midweek service just now. Never saw her (like I told you she is a Sunday woman).

Hit the spot eh? Spoiling your partner has its perks. ~grins

Damn right! Need to have serious flavour in the food!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Since her people are from Jamaica she would know about that!

Imagine how nice it will be when you do.

I imagine all the time Miss Bella...... =O

Waiting a bit will be best.

Yes I agree - other times I am like AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH but i understand.................................

Get baptized and establish yourself in the church so your reputation proceeds you.

Well my church doesn't do baptism - but I get you about having to do your personal will with God first..........I mean a simple *hello* is off the cards for now?
Well Miss Bella....I guess I have to keep thinking over in my mind when I held her hand and we all prayed and she gave me the hug afterwards #HeartSwoon
Establish myself at the church - maybe some point down the line when I am not confident with myself in God (more at one) can do a testimony in the church so she sees me (NOT DOING IT JUST FOR HER TO SEE ME!!!!) but established that is why I need to be more hands on at church.
Really Miss Bella - not even a *HELLO - HOW LONG YOU BEEN ATTENDED THE CHURCH?* and left at that! Just a lil something NOTHING MAJOR! *sighs*

 

[J Daniel]

Exactly the right way to eat.

What about me?

 

[bèlla]

I should try some and see how it is!!!!!

Most milk has growth hormones which cause disease and early puberty. You should definitely try some.

LOL OMDZ You really fort I was gonna ask her to come over and cook for me!?!?!?!?! LOL You know I was just playing!

You won’t ask “yet” but it’s on the table. ~lol

I would love to cook with her!!!!!!!!!!! That would be great! Was at midweek service just now. Never saw her (like I told you she is a Sunday woman).

That’s a good date idea. Some places have classes and they’re great fun for couples. You work together doing something fun and share a meal. You’ll see a different side of her personality.

I mean a simple *hello* is off the cards for now?
Well Miss Bella....I guess I have to keep thinking over in my mind when I held her hand and we all prayed and she gave me the hug afterwards #HeartSwoon

Anything you feed will grow. You’re already interested. Once you begin conversing you’ll want more. I’ve been there. ;-)

Establish myself at the church - maybe some point down the line when I am not confident with myself in God (more at one) can do a testimony in the church so she sees me (NOT DOING IT JUST FOR HER TO SEE ME!!!!) but established that is why I need to be more hands on at church.

You’ll occupy your mind on other things and have a chance to get to know others. If you’re a catch rest assured the hawk-eyed women will notice. Especially the prayer warriors. They know everything!

What comes after hello? More importantly, where do you want to be in your life when it happens? Timing is everything.

The gentleman approaching me today has a greater chance of my consideration (if he’s a good fit) than a few months ago. I wasn’t in the right place for that discussion. If He broached the issue with God He might have heard the same.

Ask the Lord to guide you and open the door in His appointed time. The way has been paved and you’re both receptive to the other. She may be ready right now but you aren’t. Bide your time. She’s worth the wait.

 

[J Daniel]

You should definitely try some.

Yeah I will at some point (should I remember)
I ordered my bike it is coming Wednesday - but if it is not comfy for me then will be returned cos was trying bikes etc etc will wait till Wednesday - currently being built.

You won’t ask “yet” but it’s on the table. ~lol

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa hey the pastor wants me to go to this Evangulsm thing on Friday - but really not wanting to - hey is really pushing me to go - told him not feeling it - just wanna be at home and read scripture......hmmm..........

That’s a good date idea. Some places have classes and they’re great fun for couples. You work together doing something fun and share a meal. You’ll see a different side of her personality.

Excellent idea! That is unique to the whole CINEMA bla bla bla.

Anything you feed will grow. You’re already interested. Once you begin conversing you’ll want more. I’ve been there. ;-)

So I should say hello? lol what are you saying? =]

If you’re a catch rest assured the hawk-eyed women will notice.

hehehehehehe aaahhhhh gotta laugh lol

Especially the prayer warriors. They know everything!

I am known in the church - I mean does she know me? mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm she might know OF ME - she doesn't know me by name - but i don't know her by name either lol - but she has seen my face - and I have seen hers - she has held my hand - and i have held her's - she has hugged me - and I have hugged her back .
Let me describe her to you (after all I have nothing else to do right now ) except pray lil later
1. She is 5ft5
2.brown skin
3.long eye lashes (probably fake hehehe )
4. Braids
5. Well dressed
6.Nice teeth
7.maybe 150lbs
8.cute feet
9.feminine hands! (really nice hands! Nice nails they are real!)
10.Well built!

I remember when the offerings were being given and the singing was being done and I remember she was not wearing her shoes - just her tights - and was sitting next to one of the women talking and I was lookin as she was walking - just FEMININE AURA - I love it! =D

That is what is sexy a FEMININE WOMAN why? COS COMPLETE OPPOSITE TO ME! DRAWS A MAN! THAT makes a man wanna just take her away and look after her good and proper!

Likewise masculinity makes a woman want to care and please her husband! So the polar opposites are made for each other - natural God creation - beautiful stuff!

So I know you say wait etc etc but as time goes on what if somebody else tries to speak to her (though like I said I think very unlikely) but yeah......................

What comes after hello?

Is that your mother? - Ah you do look a like! I bring my mother here on Wednesdays! You should come!

How was that? =]

More importantly, where do you want to be in your life when it happens?

Well in process of baptism of nearing it - so there is something bigger as discussion so despite (even if she was interested back) GOD IS ALWAYS AT THE TOP ya feel me? But I guess Miss Bella I am a working process......but fast forwarding if me and her clicked and really got on an has a lot in common - met family etc etc - would be wise to do the MAN thing and put a ring on it (what a serious man does - not playing BF - GF) things done right - cos I learned from the past. But I get exactly what you are saying! Trust me!

Timing is everything.

SURE IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Funny cos the Bishop tonight talking about money and finances and talked about when couples meet and get together and when it the right time to discuss finances and money etc etc etc (tied in with the whole tithes thing!)

The gentleman approaching me today has a greater chance of my consideration (if he’s a good fit) than a few months ago.

Yes but even if I was 'ready' now i can't read her mind to know if she is ready or not - men can't read a woman's mind and vice versa - we can only enquire and from there we then know :O But I get you when your mind is far of THAT somebody approaching you with interest is not on ya radar!
You know Miss Bella for me - if I could have a thing with her where we just talk and message now and then - just casual and talking about God and parts of the Bible and discuss certain important things about the church etc (NOTHING MAJOR) and building a rapport like that - till say 9 months later - where things become more 'serious' i would like that - ya feel me? Cos more we talk more she will begin to feel a certain way - cos all GOOD relationships have a solid FRIENDSHIP foundation to start with.
Relationships that begin with intimacy early on - and not built a TRUE FRIENDSHIP BASE (THAT WOULD NEVER BE CASE HERE COS I MUST BE MARRIED B4 THAT STUFF JUST EXAMPLE) then it is like there is almost no where else to go - especially in a secular world (well and Christian/Belief world too) - ya feel me? Hope I made sense lol
I am just going off my past experience anyway.

She may be ready right now but you aren’t. Bide your time. She’s worth the wait.

Yeah yeah!

 

[bèlla]

Yeah I will at some point (should I remember)
I ordered my bike it is coming Wednesday

Congrats! I can’t wait to hear about your first ride. Welcome to the club!

hey the pastor wants me to go to this Evangulsm thing on Friday - but really not wanting to - hey is really pushing me to go - told him not feeling it - just wanna be at home and read scripture

Is it a weekly event? Will you be gone all day?

Excellent idea! That is unique to the whole CINEMA bla bla bla.

I’ve got skills Mr. D! ~lol

So I should say hello? lol what are you saying? =]

I like your enthusiasm. But allowing your desire to build has a positive side. You learn to control it and not be ruled by it.

I am known in the church - I mean does she know me? mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm she might know OF ME - she doesn't know me by name - but i don't know her by name either lol - but she has seen my face - and I have seen hers - she has held my hand - and i have held her's - she has hugged me - and I have hugged her back .

That’s sweet. There’s an innocence present that should continue. You’ve hunted in the past. But that approach isn’t suitable in this case. At least not right now. There’s a purity in your interactions you should sustain while you’re getting yourself on track.

Let me describe her to you (after all I have nothing else to do right now ) except pray lil later
real!)

This is not your pal. Let’s be clear. When a man is critiquing a woman from head to toe he has other intentions. I permitted someone to do the same and we were never BFF’s! ~laughs

Your mind is in one place where she’s concerned. You suppose you can do this or that. But truth is a foundation. Not supposition. The only thing increased contact will do is heighten your desire for her.

I thought the same. Then the suits came out followed by fitted shirts and other items that accented his form. Now I’m crossing myself like a Catholic. Because the feminine part of me was responding to his masculinity.

That is what is sexy a FEMININE WOMAN why? COS COMPLETE OPPOSITE TO ME! DRAWS A MAN! THAT makes a man wanna just take her away and look after her good and proper!

Some men emit a protective aura. I feel safe with them. I can curl up in their lap and rest and feel at peace because he’s carrying the load. And he allows me to be a woman. That’s bliss.

Likewise masculinity makes a woman want to care and please her husband! So the polar opposites are made for each other - natural God creation - beautiful stuff

Pleasing him is my forte. I was made for that.

How was that? =]

It sounds staged. ;-)

But I guess Miss Bella I am a working process......but fast forwarding if me and her clicked and really got on an has a lot in common - met family etc etc - would be wise to do the MAN thing and put a ring on it (what a serious man does - not playing BF - GF) things done right - cos I learned from the past. But I get exactly what you are saying! Trust me!

You’re already in deep. She’s occupying your thoughts and you haven’t spoken. You’re already imagining things. You have the capacity to be swept away with this. And what I’m saying ever so gently is to look in the mirror and see the hook slipping in.

She consumes too much space to relate in the way you’re assuming without immense self-control. You want her. Everything you say relates to that truth. It can only be one way because that’s the lone one you see.

You know Miss Bella for me - if I could have a thing with her where we just talk and message now and then - just casual and talking about God and parts of the Bible and discuss certain important things about the church etc (NOTHING MAJOR) and building a rapport like that - till say 9 months later - where things become more 'serious' i would like that - ya feel me?

You don’t speak of her in that capacity right now. You don’t relate to her privately in your thoughts as a sister in Christ. Your ideas about the two of you thus far are relational not brotherly.

You are deceiving yourself if you believe you can flip a switch and morph into someone else. This isn’t friendship. It isn’t platonic. It’s carnal.

You don’t need to have sex to be intimate. Where the mind goes the body follows. You’re checking out her teeth! You’ve already crossed the line.

There were no physical or sexual relations between he and I. But to say we weren’t intimate is false. I’ve never been closer to another man in my life.

You’ll need to decide how you’ll broach your desires. But call them what they are.

 

[J Daniel]

Congrats! I can’t wait to hear about your first ride. Welcome to the club!

Thanks! I just hope the bike is comfortable! If not will be returned! I go to the shop to collect so will try it out there and then!

Is it a weekly event? Will you be gone all day?

Just for that day - but not really wanting to go at all.

I’ve got skills Mr. D! ~lol

Yes yes you do - shout out to you!

I like your enthusiasm. But allowing your desire to build has a positive side. You learn to control it and not be ruled by it.

Oh I see.

That’s sweet.

of course it is! I pick the best hahaha (I get what you meant )

There’s an innocence present that should continue.

It is cute in that sense!

You’ve hunted in the past.

Yeah in all the wrong places it would appear(!)

But that approach isn’t suitable in this case. At least not right now.

Course cos God is at the heart of this unlike the past where that was just erughhhhhhh

There’s a purity in your interactions you should sustain while you’re getting yourself on track.

Yeah just another church member - in faith - with her - just passing each other by! Yeah it all keeps me on the straight and narrow.

When a man is critiquing a woman from head to toe he has other intentions.

NO NO NO! Let me make it clear! I have never had LUSTFUL ideas about her! I genuinely have RESPECT for her! The type to want something Godly with her ya know!!! Genuine respect! Especially seeing her mother - ya know? Makes it more 'real' if that makes sense?!?!

I permitted someone to do the same and we were never BFF’s! ~laughs

BEST FRIENDS FOREVER aaaahhhh gotta laugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your mind is in one place where she’s concerned.

True she doesn't see the past issues she just sees a person from church (who is mighty handsome and great!!!!!)
But likewise what I see of her I dunno what she is going through that i might not know about that is why when people meet people you dunno WHO THEY ARE - till you engage with them - won't know about them right away - wait 5 months later - then you see the Real McCoy!!! lol
But another thing I forgot to say SHE MIGHT HAVE SOMEBODY BUT THAT PERSON JUST DOESN'T GO TO CHURCH LOL (that would suck!)

he only thing increased contact will do is heighten your desire for her.

Yeahh.................................................

I thought the same. Then the suits came out followed by fitted shirts and other items that accented his form. Now I’m crossing myself like a Catholic. Because the feminine part of me was responding to his masculinity.

Explain further Miss Bella! You mean the man you cared for? I dress casual at church times smart/casual! It is nature for you to respond in a certain way to a man - nature!

Some men emit a protective aura. I feel safe with them. I can curl up in their lap and rest and feel at peace because he’s carrying the load. And he allows me to be a woman. That’s bliss.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Pleasing him is my forte. I was made for that.

Bet it is! lol

It sounds staged. ;-)

LOL i fort it sounded good LOL

You’re already in deep. She’s occupying your thoughts and you haven’t spoken.

Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You’re already imagining things.

That's crushes for ya!

And what I’m saying ever so gently is to look in the mirror and see the hook slipping in.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

She consumes too much space to relate in the way you’re assuming without immense self-control. You want her. Everything you say relates to that truth. It can only be one way because that’s the lone one you see.

But Miss Bella I am sure in your younger days you really liked somebody but you could still talk to them normally an casually and they never would know you really cared for them? :O

You don’t relate to her privately in your thoughts as a sister in Christ. Your ideas about the two of you thus far are relational not brotherly.

Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ahhhhh I can't be bothered to type lol yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i think i am more than capable to just talk to her as a good believing friend. I know I seem SPRUNG and STRUNG but really I could.

You are deceiving yourself if you believe you can flip a switch and morph into someone else. This isn’t friendship. It isn’t platonic. It’s carnal.

I think all things are carnal to an extent =O hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

You’re checking out her teeth! You’ve already crossed the line.

well I am soooooooooooo sorry that I happen to notice somebody's dental features

here were no physical or sexual relations between he and I. But to say we weren’t intimate is false. I’ve never been closer to another man in my life.

You were intimate mentally - I think however THAT SEXUAL LINE CROSSED - very different mannnnnnnnnnn cos you like you think to the close discussions ya had - when you been there sexually you think of that and when it just GOES you think WHAT WAS THAT FOR THEN? Doesn't seem special anymore - something u can never get back. But that was then!

You’ll need to decide how you’ll broach your desires. But call them what they are.

They are Holy <3
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Ok ok ok sssssshhhhhhhhhh look they are - they are how every other loving marriage starts! One was interested and the other was so so till they knew! An then they talk - and go out on little cool outdoor adventures - then a COOKING SESSION TOGETHER (somebody's Little Lady told me that super cool right?) and just talk - and talk - pray together! - talk about future - talk about how you'd cook for a baby =] lol i know seems like I am trolling at this last section here I am really not lol i am just covering bases - cos like i said the answers i get to some questions would make me think again if she is even worth it! 3 COURSE MEAL vs HAPPY MEAL!!!

 

[bèlla]

I think it’s challenging for Christian men to find the right balance between expressing interest and godly interactions. Some women emphasize friendship and a wait-and-see approach. Others want to know upfront and many fall in the center.

As a woman, I see a clear difference between platonic and carnal thoughts. Our conversation is an example of the former. There’s laughter, sharing, and encouragement. The topic always returns to God. This is brotherhood on display.

And while it’s possible to share the same with a carnal interest. There are striking differences. Desires that aren’t present in the other and longings that come to the fore in a different way.

As a believer, I feel God should be involved from start to finish. Before the hello and everything that follows. We ought to be seeking the Lord while we’re getting acquainted. Together and individually. Its the honorable approach for everyone involved.

That’s my conviction. Others may feel differently. I believe this is the approach He desires me to have in my connections.

 

[bèlla]

Just for that day - but not really wanting to go at all.

Short distances are best. 2-4 miles the first outing is fine. Build up to the 16.

Yes yes you do - shout out to you!

Course cos God is at the heart of this unlike the past where that was just erughhhhhhh

My sign for godly connections (for me) is calm. There’s also an unmistakable draw. A fondness I can’t explain that could only come from Him. There’s a woman on the site who evokes that feeling. I don’t know her but my heart softens when I read her posts. He planted that affinity.

For the opposite sex its different. It’s a gentle softening that’s humble and tender. There’s a magnetic draw that finds its comfort in his strength and guidance. He imparts knowledge and wisdom to me. I’m in student mode, not advisor.

But I test these things. I don’t assume that the source ( Christian) is an automatic green light. I may be deceiving myself. Prayer and patience reveal the truth.

NO NO NO! Let me make it clear! I have never had LUSTFUL ideas about her! I genuinely have RESPECT for her! The type to want something Godly with her ya know!!! Genuine respect! Especially seeing her mother - ya know? Makes it more 'real' if that makes sense?!?!

You can desire someone carnally without descending into lust. You simply see them in a role outside of friendship and want a level of intimacy friends don’t trespass.

But likewise what I see of her I dunno what she is going through that i might not know about that is why when people meet people you dunno WHO THEY ARE - till you engage with them - won't know about them right away - wait 5 months later - then you see the Real McCoy!!! lol

That’s why prayer matters. You may be given insight or things to pray on her behalf.

But another thing I forgot to say SHE MIGHT HAVE SOMEBODY BUT THAT PERSON JUST DOESN'T GO TO CHURCH LOL (that would suck!)

That is a strong possibility too.

Explain further Miss Bella! You mean the man you cared for? I dress casual at church times smart/casual! It is nature for you to respond in a certain way to a man - nature!

Of course. He knew his appearance would affect me. My natural response to an attractive man is acknowledgment. I’m not asking the Lord for strength! He had others factors working in his favor. ;-)

But Miss Bella I am sure in your younger days you really liked somebody but you could still talk to them normally an casually and they never would know you really cared for them? :O

Not really. I was attracted to charismatic men. They’d draw it out. But I liked that. The same was true during my youth until I met him.

I’ve had my share of hunters. The mental stimulation is nice. But he would not be weakened by his interest and made me admit my own. He wouldn’t allow me to hide it and he didn’t hide his either. That was very liberating.

No games. Two people mutually interested in the other. Now what? That’s the way I relate today. I don’t want to hide or talk around things. Just be honest with one another and go from there.

I am soooooooooooo sorry that I happen to notice somebody's dental features

I noticed a lot as well. That’s why I prayed for relief! ~laughs

You were intimate mentally - I think however THAT SEXUAL LINE CROSSED - very different mannnnnnnnnnn cos you like you think to the close discussions ya had - when you been there sexually you think of that and when it just GOES you think WHAT WAS THAT FOR THEN? Doesn't seem special anymore - something u can never get back. But that was then!

There were different stakes. Temporary fulfillment doesn’t hold a candle to making a woman yours for life. Bringing her to that place of agreement was his aim. Intimacy without its accomplishment is meaningless.

However, when two people are equally desirous of the other and equally disciplined in self-control the intensity level is stratospheric. You can feel it. The restraint is overwhelming. When they come together in a godly union the result is otherworldly. The pressure has reached its fill and can be explored in the sanctity of the marital bed.

Many people aren’t satisfied with mental intimacy because they never explored its depths. If you capture the mind the ride is joyous.

COOKING SESSION TOGETHER (somebody's Little Lady told me that super cool right?) and just talk - and talk - pray together! - talk about future - talk about how you'd cook for a baby =] lol i know seems like I am trolling at this last section

That’s an honest approach. You can still study and share about God too.

 

[J Daniel]

Short distances are best. 2-4 miles the first outing is fine. Build up to the 16.

Yes yes you do - shout out to you!

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL no no no Miss Bella LOL i meant the pastor wants to take me to that event - but I don't want to go - it is for the day (tomorrow) but not going (hehehehe funny when humans beings misunderstand one another completely )

There’s a woman on the site who evokes that feeling. I don’t know her but my heart softens when I read her posts. He planted that affinity.

Ohhh I see!

Prayer and patience reveal the truth.

Yeah you are correct!

You simply see them in a role outside of friendship and want a level of intimacy friends don’t trespass.

Yeah that might be correct also

That’s why prayer matters. You may be given insight or things to pray on her behalf.

Aww so true! Would be nice to know things about her name as well - even just her name :O

That is a strong possibility too.

Hey Miss Bella why does it have to be STRONG?!!?! Why not a WEAK POSSIBILITY!??!?!?

I’m not asking the Lord for strength! He had others factors working in his favor. ;-)

hahaahaha gotta laugh!

I’ve had my share of hunters.

Bet ya have!

No games. Two people mutually interested in the other. Now what? That’s the way I relate today. I don’t want to hide or talk around things. Just be honest with one another and go from there.

Yeah! That is what I mean! That is great! Women like upfront honesty! (people fullstop tbh!)

I noticed a lot as well. That’s why I prayed for relief! ~laughs

lol it is nature - of course exterior not only thing - but it pulls you in first but if they have amazing mind etc etc believer ticking boxes you are there!
I think the woman from church would like me!

Temporary fulfillment doesn’t hold a candle to making a woman yours for life.

I think that works both ways for both sexes.

However, when two people are equally desirous of the other and equally disciplined in self-control the intensity level is stratospheric. You can feel it. The restraint is overwhelming.

oooooooooooooooooooooooooooo yeah!!!!!!!!!!!! Course!!!!!!!!!! sounds almost erotic in a way! add to that hearing Miss Bella say *don't do that again* yeah man SUPER DEMANDING(!) GETS BETTER(!)

Many people aren’t satisfied with mental intimacy because they never explored its depths. If you capture the mind the ride is joyous.

i think exploring the mind is far more important first.

The restraint is overwhelming. When they come together in a godly union the result is otherworldly. The pressure has reached its fill and can be explored in the sanctity of the marital bed.

You should write some fictional romantic books lol

You can still study and share about God too.

that's the main thing!

BTW today I was meant to fly out to my previous till all fell apart - how things change!

Sometimes things happen for a reason - cos to be real more fornication would have happened and maybe more catastrophic pregnancy etc etc.

Maybe God made me dodge a serious bullet I was potentially unaware of!

You just never see these things @ the time!
Life - anyway new road now!

 

[bèlla]

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL no no no Miss Bella LOL i meant the pastor wants to take me to that event - but I don't want to go - it is for the day

I knew about that. You said you want to stay home. That was about the bike when you get it.

Aww so true! Would be nice to know things about her name as well - even just her name :O

Compliments work. That’s what he did.

Hey Miss Bella why does it have to be STRONG?!!?! Why not a WEAK POSSIBILITY!??!?!?

Because a worthy woman always gets attention. I was in his company for years and never conversed because I was seeing someone else. He made his move when I was available.

Yeah! That is what I mean! That is great! Women like upfront honesty! (people fullstop tbh!)

That is not the norm. The friends first approach appears to be popular with Christian women. I view friends first as hedging. You could end up with several men vying for the same woman. It delays rejection and minimizes the sting.

I don’t believe it’s the right approach for me. It suggests God couldn’t provide another suitor. If I meet someone with potential and he feels the same I’d like to explore it.

lol it is nature - of course exterior not only thing - but it pulls you in first but if they have amazing mind etc etc believer ticking boxes you are there!
I think the woman from church would like me!

Exterior + amazing mind = vetting
Exterior + amazing mind + charisma = swoonage
Exterior + amazing mind + charisma + voice = smelling salts. ~lol

Why do you think she’d like you?

oooooooooooooooooooooooooooo yeah!!!!!!!!!!!! Course!!!!!!!!!! sounds almost erotic in a way! add to that hearing Miss Bella say *don't do that again* yeah man SUPER DEMANDING(!) GETS BETTER(!)

Two hunters are better than one. ;-)

We’re many layered. Unwrapping the other is part of the experience. When you rush ahead and bring the physical before you’ve unraveled them the process is incomplete. You behold flesh not their nakedness. You want to explore their core not the masks. That takes time.

You should write some fictional romantic books lol

Bodice rippers eh? ~laughs

During one of my writing exercises I had to brainstorm fictional series ideas and titles. There’s one with characters based on he and I. That would probably be my best.

BTW today I was meant to fly out to my previous till all fell apart - how things change!

Wow. How do you feel?

Sometimes things happen for a reason - cos to be real more fornication would have happened and maybe more catastrophic pregnancy etc etc.

Yes. That would have been serious. You never know what’s going on in someone’s head. He mentioned children early in our acquaintance. I was nervous. Little miss was in her teens. That wasn’t on the menu. It was not on the menu! ~laughs

Maybe God made me dodge a serious bullet I was potentially unaware of![

I feel that way about some situations. Hindsight has you scratching your head wondering what you were thinking.

But our experiences have a purpose. We share the lessons and mistakes and others are blessed by our growth and maturity.

 

[ChicanaRose]

Making an effort to look your best is important. But the same is true when you’re at home. It’s not a question of time but priorities. My presentation matters and this is my vision for the little lady.

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Hi LaBèlla! Thank you for the link to this thread. Just catching up here...

(Everyone, I was redirected from another great thread that's related to this topic):
Christian Beauty Standards

 

[bèlla]

Hi LaBèlla! Thank you for the link to this thread. Just catching up here...

(Everyone, I was redirected from another great thread that's related to this topic):
Christian Beauty Standards

You’re welcome.

The post I shared with you references a current beautification I’m working on. I’ve done this in the past and undertook a lengthy self-development program over a period of years.

This began with self-care and has morphed to beautification. I will probably create a new program that addresses this season of life.

I believe in working from a spiritual perspective to the natural. If we begin by viewing ourselves as temples, ambivalence and negative mindsets can be overcome. God said fearfully and wonderfully made. He didn’t make us subject to society’s interpretation of those words.

What does this mean for a woman of God? It depends on your personality, interests, and lifestyle. What we’re aiming for in our appearance is to complement the imperishable qualities within.

That’s a lot of latitude! Its expression could mean dresses, skirts, slacks or a combination of all three. Does your loveliness get a jolt when you’re wearing heels or do flats bring a spring to your step instead?

When you gaze in the mirror are you happiest with a natural look and minimal makeup or do you like to experiment and try new techniques?

Neither are wrong! In some ways, beauty is a uniform of sorts. You’re aiming for a look that’s sustainable and pleasing. That doesn’t mean a closet filled with the latest trends or designer items. It reflects a look that enhances your pride and confidence.

It is typically built over time. We make adjustments through seasons. Some women prefer variety and others like the capsule approach.

Whatever you choose, it must be authentic. If the items don’t speak to you. Don’t buy them.

Clothes are accoutrements not the pearl. That dwells within. Keep His perspective in the forefront of your thoughts. You won’t go wrong.

 

[J Daniel]

I knew about that. You said you want to stay home. That was about the bike when you get it.

oh sorry ok ok ok =]

Compliments work. That’s what he did.

*You smell really nice!*
How was that? lol
or
*You look really amazing*
Better? =]
She needs to know! =]

Because a worthy woman always gets attention. I was in his company for years and never conversed because I was seeing someone else. He made his move when I was available.

Yeah true - but maybe as she is a believer she knows she can't accept any old man - and MAYBE she was with a man before and it as hell and she turned to God? ? ? ? Look there are many scenarios!
Can't keep staying silent gotta just say SMALL thing!

You could end up with several men vying for the same woman.

Hehe my church really is not like that I mean look nothing is impossible but I doubt other men are looking at her I really doubt it.

Exterior + amazing mind = vetting
Exterior + amazing mind + charisma = swoonage
Exterior + amazing mind + charisma + voice = smelling salts. ~lol

Why do you think she’d like you?

Hmmmm, why would she like me? hmmmmmm
Cos I have a good smile - and my character (when she knows me) would not be the same like other men - I have a fun 'outgoing' personality that is very unique to what she might expect.
The sound of my voice she'd enjoy to hear!
And I am a believer.
People from the same island as her's too!
I deserve my opportunity!

During one of my writing exercises I had to brainstorm fictional series ideas and titles. There’s one with characters based on he and I. That would probably be my best.

That is what life experiences does! Good writing materials!

We’re many layered. Unwrapping the other is part of the experience. When you rush ahead and bring the physical before you’ve unraveled them the process is incomplete. You behold flesh not their nakedness. You want to explore their core not the masks. That takes time.

Hence why physical should only happen when marriage is complete!

Wow. How do you feel?

Bitter/sweet I guess!
Cos I did like being in MA - abroad home away from home with her in her place and experiencing American culture etc etc etc - but yeah..............what can I say...........cos one reason I was so sad near the end of the last school year just felt I never had something to look forward to - ya know? But there ya go.................
Need new things in my life to look ahead to.

He mentioned children early in our acquaintance. I was nervous. Little miss was in her teens. That wasn’t on the menu. It was not on the menu! ~laughs

hmmmm yeah hence why both parties early need to know the wants etc etc so there are no surprises!

We share the lessons and mistakes and others are blessed by our growth and maturity.

Yeah of course.


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[bèlla]

*You smell really nice!*
How was that? lol
or
*You look really amazing*
Better? =]
She needs to know! =]

You’ve got it bad! First the teeth now you’re smelling her. ~lol

Something more subtle. You can speak about the worship or sermon and compliment her feedback. ;-)

Yeah true - but maybe as she is a believer she knows she can't accept any old man - and MAYBE she was with a man before and it as hell and she turned to God? ? ? ? Look there are many scenarios!
Can't keep staying silent gotta just say SMALL thing!

I’m not speaking of unbelievers. You cross paths with women everyday. You don’t know her lifestyle outside of church. Church is one avenue. Many people meet their spouses outside of it.

Hehe my church really is not like that I mean look nothing is impossible but I doubt other men are looking at her I really doubt it.

Outside the church. She only comes once per week. I doubt if she’s ignored the other 6. Were you?

Cos I have a good smile - and my character (when she knows me) would not be the same like other men - I have a fun 'outgoing' personality that is very unique to what she might expect.
The sound of my voice she'd enjoy to hear!
And I am a believer.
People from the same island as her's too!
I deserve my opportunity!

LOL That’s a start! I love the last sentence. You threw a little swagger in. ~laughs

Cos I did like being in MA - abroad home away from home with her in her place and experiencing American culture etc etc etc - but yeah..............what can I say...........cos one reason I was so sad near the end of the last school year just felt I never had something to look forward to - ya know? But there ya go.................
Need new things in my life to look ahead to.

You were in MA?? No way!!! I love that place.

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[ChicanaRose]

@LaBèlla,

There is a lady who specializes in manners for little girls (I think you will like the video below). It was also a great review for me as an adult (lol):